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YoungJoonKim

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Hi

A few years ago I started visiting this site for personal reasons and problems. I Had my ups and downs as a high school child and somehow I never got over it.

I am in college (university) now, age 20 (21). Its a young age, which I should be taking full advantage of to push for future careers and so on. After 2 years in college, my head is full of doubt. And by doubt, I mean no hope for future.

For a few months now, I've been thinking about my future but mostly, my past. I know that it is selfish of me to beg help from you or whoever but I just don't see where else to turn. Currently, I live with my family with no goal in sight. I took a break from college after my second year because I wanted to find something for myself, only to find depression and nothing-ness.

I sleep in between sofa and my bed because I seem to sleep whenever I feel like it and whenever I don't feel like it. I do occassionally step up and try to lead a normal life but I end up in a same path, which is disorderly sleeping patterns and depression. I feel that I am continually mocked even though I have no social connection whatsoever. Even the online chattings are becoming my nightmares, to which I have no cure except more seclusion.

It wasn't like this for my first year in college. Whenever I was deep in my depression, I always found a way out from my suffering and found peace but over time, that ability to rebuild and restart fresh disappeared. I think it was the second year of my college that I lost my ability to focus and concentrate, or driven, as some may call it. So eventually, I started to feel depressed. At school, I felt like I was being tossed around, by essay after essay. I had no control over what I did or what time or when I did it or why I did it or felt pleasure and satisfaction from the work I did. I was just tired. At some point, I became more hysterical about my relation with roommates. I saw hypocricy and general awkwardness between us and I felt I no longer wanted to me part of it, so I secluded myself in my room for 3 month out of 4 month of second term. Even when I called in to check if I lost anything at the dorm, my roommates voice sounded pleasant but there was something dark and double faced about his tone of voice. I just felt no one was genuine around me. Everybody was lying to get pass the awkwardness with the mask of pleasantness.

At that point, I didn't want to deal with anyone. Everyone was lying and avoiding me because I was awkward. Oh well, I thought. Eventually I will find someone and become friend but no. They avoid me as well. Usually, I do the best when I do my projects alone. Others simply bog me down. When I meet with them at the end of the term, they avoid eye contacts. I simply don't understand why this world is worth the living with these kind of treacherous people. Sometimes I wish I could just swirl into a ball and forget about all these memories.

I feel that my pains haunt me on random occassions when I am doing nothing but casual things. I get paranoid easily if I forget something. Like, when I doing cashier, I keep feeling that I have forgotten something or can't remember the thing I did just a few second ago.

Now, I don't even do my job anymore because paranoia keeps me late at night. I growl in pain after work so I decided to quit to avoid more stress.

I feel sick, I keep thinking about wanting certain food and that food only. Not sure why.

Sorry for long chat. Just wondering if this is a bipolar disorder. I did suffer greatly from high school as well but I found peace in God
or I think that God made me forget pain and focus on the future. so I got really hyped up after suffering from months of depression or sort. I could focus longer and motivate myself but I can't do that anymore. I motivate in thought now. That's how far I go now days.

I don't think I could focus on God either. I tried couple times, only to be met by same fate as other initiatives I've done which are small you see.

On that thought, I don't think I wish to die. My fallout would have no purpose if I died or killed myself for it. I mean, I must be feeling this way because I let myself. I don't even want to see nurses or doctors because they tell me the same thing over and over again. Don't they see that I have no motivation or desire to do anything. don't they see that I thought everything they are telling me? I am simply not doing it becaues I don't feel driven. If I am forced to do certain things, i am sure I would do it. perhaps I should leave the house and live alone and starve. would that motivate me to work?
 

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Life can not be lived without a purpose and goal. It is like you are stuck in nuetral and haven't even learned all the gears to get your engine into gear let alone look out of the window to see where you are going. Try finding a purpose and goal, and as strange as this may sound, do not worry what others are doing... in and around you..
 
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Hello YoungJoonKim,
As someone who has suffered from issues similar to yours, I would recommend seeing a psychiatrist and getting their view on the items you mentioned (both the depression and the paranoia). The paranoia, feelings that others are judging or mocking you, and the sense of always forgetting something (especially things you just did) are all possible symptoms of psychosis. It doesn't mean you're insane, or posessed, but it could indicate that there is an imbalance in the neurotransmitters in your brain.

I am a Type II Bipolar, which means that I have severe bouts of depression (including psychotic depression) punctuated by improvements in mode all the way to hypomania ,which at times can appear as benign as just a general "feeling good" mood, but can also include heightened irritation and an explosive temper. During depressive episodes, I'll suffer from both halucinations and delusions (see my other posts on this board for more information on those). Often, while in a psychotic state, I will occasionally "dissociate" - I'll just mentally blank out and have absolutely no memory of what I was just doing or just saying.

Unfortuntely, you are at the prime age for the development of mental/mood disorders (I was formally diagnosed as BiPolar at age 20), so its possible that you have been stuck in a depressive episode for a while now. Like I said above, I would strongly recommend setting up an appointment with a psychiatrist, describing what you are going through, and getting his/her opinion on it. The depression and the paranoia may seem insurmountable, and it may seem like taking a few pills every day wouldn't make a difference, but Meds really do help because so much of this is being driven by chemicals in your mind.

I hope this helps, feel free to send me a private message if you'd like to discuss further.

Regards
 
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It sounds like you are oppressed. You know when I felt like that many Christians would say to me their favourite verse from Jeramiah 29:11 'I know the plans I have to prosper you, not to harm you. Plans to give you a hope and future'

I didn't understand this. I thought I had to make it on my own and thus struggled and strived and put myself through hell trying to measure up to everyone else. But God doesn't care if you are a success or a failure in the eyes of the world, he cares for you as a person and whats in your heart..a heart He created for you to love Him. When we love God we give up our own life to follow His ways and trust in Him he will guide us.

Do you have many Christian friends who you can spend time with and pray with? Do you read the Bible much? Understand that the Devil will do whatever he can to steal your joy.

Your story sounds familiar to me as it sounds like how I felt when I was at school. My symptoms of bipolar started around then. When I look back on that part of my life I was focussd on myself, not God. I had a lot of fantasy life as well, and parts of that were occult influenced. You've come to a Christian forum because you recognise the importance of your spiritual life to your wellbeing. Understand that only Jesus had the power to defeat Satan. Satan's influence includes paranoia and making you feel that people are against you, making you feel isolated, that you have no hope etc. So you can ask for Jesus help.

Just talk it over with God and say that you really need Jesus help. God is in control. He is almighty so let him direct you. It seems to me you feel like your future is solely dependent on you to make it happen and you don't feel up to it. When you focussed on God you were able to get through stuff correct? Well that's God teaching you that you need him. God will never leave you or forsake you. So stick with God. Identify if there are areas in your life that lead you away from God..that pull you in the opposite direction. These may be temptations or what you think are harmless distractions which may become all-consuming.

Everyone has some goals in life, but all Christians know the ultimate goal in their life is to live to glorify God. God wants us to become Christ like. How we do this is different for each individual..but maybe just meditate on what Jesus did for others and that will help you get through what at the moment seems to you like a rough patch.

I pray that you will find life again and just remember these moods are transitory. Take care of yourself and make sure you get enough sleep and nourishment. Submit yourself to God, he will take care of you and the devil will flee.
 
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There are some very good responses here. As I read this sounds exactly like my case.

Everything you said in your post no matter how short or long it was does not matter. Your whole post YoungJoonKim sounds like how it all started with me.
visionary has it correct when said about being in neutral. I definitely was until I believe that God showed me that my purpose and goal in life would be to take care of my Mom (died Nov.2009) then others as well.

Like sinkingship I also have TypeII Bipolar and suggest not only a psychiatrist but a therapist also. I have had 2 of them and they were of tremendous help to me in getting my life on track and not feeling any guilt for feeling the way I did.

In no way I hope do you ever have any guilt if you are bipolar or that you let anyone make you feel that you are "different" or "crazy" more then anyone else.
You may feel alone now but please know you definitely have friends here that would be more then happy to help you if possible, myself being the first on the list:hug: If you would like to write please feel free to do so.
I believe with you posting this you should see that God is with you as of this moment. If he wasn't then I believe you would not have posted all you did.

And one last note when Goodbook said God doesn't care about you being a success or failure i totally agree. Because you see if you do have bipolar and don't it then of course you may feel like a failure.
God sees that you are looking for help now and probably now sees you as a success because you are showing faith in him whether it looks like that to you or not.

Give us an update of how things are going if you wish. Many Blessings to you and may Our Lord Be With You Always:prayer::groupray:
 
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thank you for your care & responses. As of now, I have difficulties concentrating and focusing. I seem to hear (TV) and do (certain actio) things but never "compute" them. In other words, I do something but I don't seem to remember that action after a minute or so. It has been becoming more frequent and frequent since my teenage years. I have been able to fix this problem through intense faith and focusing into prayer, but not anymore. I can't "feel" it...not sure how I can put this in words...

When I am highly active, I had a little voice, though not conciously, giving me advise--at least the correct ones. My emotions and fears distilled my actions back then, but that voice kept me through hard and difficult times. However, after my second year in the college, I lost it.. and came my forgetfulness.

Somtimes this disfocus becomes so strong that my sights looks shaky. I don't think it was "visually" shaky, but it was "conceptionally" shaky... Does this make any sense? I can't seem to "compute" anything around me...I don't remember things although I focus on things....Its really hard to do anything with this kind of memory...

Sorry about being selfish...my forgetful symptoms seem to get worse and worse and I can't help but to share it.
 
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