Judging ..

[_sunshinegirl]

I am a christian myself, but have you ever noticed that there are some christians who pre-judge other christians to the extreme?

For example, I recently moved in with my preachers sister. Last night was the first night I ever went out in about 2 months that I have been living here [I am 20 btw], and a situation happened and I wasn't able to return home until 11. I called and explained the situation and so I thought everything was alright. I decided not to go to work today because I spent many hours in the hospital this weekend, and just wanted a day to relax. No I have been labeled a drunk and a drug addict, all because I came home at 11 and didn't go to work. She assumes that I am the forementioned.

She wants me out of the house, of course I will ablige as soon as I get the means.

Have you ever came across this or had a similar situation happen?

 

[Out of the Flames]

My, my. She's certainly oozing with the Christian spirit... or immaturity... or PMS.

I'd say you're certainly going to be better off finding another place to live, but I'd also let her know that her behavior is offensive and uncalled for, and thanks for sharing a home, but you believe you'd be better served living in a more supportive, welcoming environment. And then leave it at that. She seems to be one of those people that reasoning would be lost on.

 

[klewlis]

11 pm?!?! Good grief. You are an adult. If you want to stay out the entire night, you can. She is not your mother.

Seriously, that girl needs to get out more.

It would be a good idea to talk about it and get it out in the open, if only to point out to her that her assumptions are wrong and ill-founded and hurtful.

 

[fishstix]

I agree that talking it out is a good idea. And also that looking for another place to live is probably also a good idea - that sounds like a lady who would be very difficult to live with.

 

[wildthing]

Bail on this lady. Next thing you need to do is have your personal stuff checked by her. I will give you credit for calling her to inform her what is going on. That shows you are a class act. But that where it should of ended. Judging you for your actions is not a thing that "Christian" are suppose to do, I will leave the judging up to God unless you want me to judge a custom car.

 

[IDOXLR8]

Judging is a thing that we are all guilty of. When it comes down to it no one in this world is better than anyone else. We are all children of Christ and he loves us all equally. If you know that deep down inside you are doing nothing wrong than do not allow others to hurt you with words.

 

[Tuffguy]

You're better off. It's none of her business.

 

[Grimace]

My, my. She's certainly oozing with the Christian spirit... or immaturity... or PMS.

I'd say you're certainly going to be better off finding another place to live, but I'd also let her know that her behavior is offensive and uncalled for, and thanks for sharing a home, but you believe you'd be better served living in a more supportive, welcoming environment. And then leave it at that. She seems to be one of those people that reasoning would be lost on.

I completely agree with Out of the Flames. That's definitely a poisonous environment you don't need to be in.

Staying out til 11:00 makes you a drug addict and drunk? Geesh.

 

[Macrina]

That mystifies me. I am a pastor and have stayed out that late hanging out with other pastors, just chatting and chilling.

But you're right... people do judge. The folks in my congregation always know what time of day my lights go on and off.

 

[_sunshinegirl]

Yes it seems as if some people feel it is their biz to know all of your biz, which dumbfounds me!
She refuses to talk to me about it, saying she has a bad vibe //
Thanks for the *encouraging* words you guys!
<3