I'm new to this forum, but I would love to meet and talk with women going thru the same thing I am.
I have been with my husband for almost 7 years. We have one child together (which we had no problem conceiving). She is the greatest thing to happen to me. We have always wanted a big family (at least 5 kids). But my husband joined the military mid 2007 and when we were finally together again Jan. 2010 we decide we were going to try for that big family we wanted. It is now April 2011 and still no more babies. Sept. of last year we start fertility treatments. Our reason for not conceive was I was not ovulating. We knew this because in all of 2010 I only got 3 periods. The treatments helped me to ovulate but still nothing. The medications made me so sick that for 6 months I didnt do anything. Clean what I could, cooked when I could, but most days I was so sick I couldn't do anything but we want another child so badly that I was willing to be sick and my husband was willing to work and clean or cook when he needed too. This month is the first month that we are not doing the treatments. It was a really hard decision for us to make but I was feeling guilty that I wasn't being the mother and wife I should be. Before I go any farther let me just say that I DO APPERICATE the fact I already have a child. She means the world to me and I know so many people cant even have one, but because I have a child am I not suppose to want another? So many people say appericate the child u do have and it makes me so mad because I do, I love her more than anything but all 3 of us want more babies. She asks me every day if there is a baby in my tummy yet. People make me feel like, because I have a child, I shouldnt feel like the women who dont have one. I want a 2nd child just as badly as women want their first. Anyways the decision to stop the treatments were so hard on me and I went and talked to a chaplain. He helped so much. He made me understand my turn will come when God says its time. I know I feel like I am ready now but for some reason, that I dont know of, I'm not. And he hears my prayers and he hasn't forgotten about me and I will be blessed again with another child one day. I have realized this and am trying to except it. But how do I get over it? How do I forget that I want this so badly and cant right now? I have so many emotions to get over. And its hard when everyone I know seems to be pregnant. I know people who are pregnant or just gave birth and they dont even take care of the children they have. Most, club and drink and leave their kids with baby sitters 2-4 nights a week. A lot of the women I know who are pregnant now or just given birth are not married. But I am... to the same man for 7 years. WE are still after all this time, madly in love. He makes enough money to care for us without me having to work, so y not us? It just doesnt seem fair to me. It makes it harder for me when I see the people pregnant or with a baby. Any words of encouragment would be nice. And it feels better to be able to vent this and knowing someone will understand what I'm going thru.
I have been with my husband for almost 7 years. We have one child together (which we had no problem conceiving). She is the greatest thing to happen to me. We have always wanted a big family (at least 5 kids). But my husband joined the military mid 2007 and when we were finally together again Jan. 2010 we decide we were going to try for that big family we wanted. It is now April 2011 and still no more babies. Sept. of last year we start fertility treatments. Our reason for not conceive was I was not ovulating. We knew this because in all of 2010 I only got 3 periods. The treatments helped me to ovulate but still nothing. The medications made me so sick that for 6 months I didnt do anything. Clean what I could, cooked when I could, but most days I was so sick I couldn't do anything but we want another child so badly that I was willing to be sick and my husband was willing to work and clean or cook when he needed too. This month is the first month that we are not doing the treatments. It was a really hard decision for us to make but I was feeling guilty that I wasn't being the mother and wife I should be. Before I go any farther let me just say that I DO APPERICATE the fact I already have a child. She means the world to me and I know so many people cant even have one, but because I have a child am I not suppose to want another? So many people say appericate the child u do have and it makes me so mad because I do, I love her more than anything but all 3 of us want more babies. She asks me every day if there is a baby in my tummy yet. People make me feel like, because I have a child, I shouldnt feel like the women who dont have one. I want a 2nd child just as badly as women want their first. Anyways the decision to stop the treatments were so hard on me and I went and talked to a chaplain. He helped so much. He made me understand my turn will come when God says its time. I know I feel like I am ready now but for some reason, that I dont know of, I'm not. And he hears my prayers and he hasn't forgotten about me and I will be blessed again with another child one day. I have realized this and am trying to except it. But how do I get over it? How do I forget that I want this so badly and cant right now? I have so many emotions to get over. And its hard when everyone I know seems to be pregnant. I know people who are pregnant or just gave birth and they dont even take care of the children they have. Most, club and drink and leave their kids with baby sitters 2-4 nights a week. A lot of the women I know who are pregnant now or just given birth are not married. But I am... to the same man for 7 years. WE are still after all this time, madly in love. He makes enough money to care for us without me having to work, so y not us? It just doesnt seem fair to me. It makes it harder for me when I see the people pregnant or with a baby. Any words of encouragment would be nice. And it feels better to be able to vent this and knowing someone will understand what I'm going thru.
