I got my final divorce papers in the mail today. I don't know whether to be happy or sad. Hasn't really sunk in yet.
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dluvs2trvl
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Not knowing exactly how to feel is totally understandable!!!!
I've never been married so I've never been divorced either and I don't know exactly how you feel so
hopefully I don't say something stupid here...but maybe you could try and look at it as a new beginning instead of an ending...
I know that the Lord knows exactly what is happening in your life and He is with you every step of the way and I know that He has good plans for you...and the exciting part is finding out what's ahead.
I've never been married so I've never been divorced either and I don't know exactly how you feel so
hopefully I don't say something stupid here...but maybe you could try and look at it as a new beginning instead of an ending...
I know that the Lord knows exactly what is happening in your life and He is with you every step of the way and I know that He has good plans for you...and the exciting part is finding out what's ahead.
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PassionateOne
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Well, congratulations! It just means that you are ending this part of your life, so you are free to start a fresh one!
I know when I was signing the final papers with my ex, I told him "now you are free to get married any day now."
He was already living with a new gf and we were only separated....which (technically) meant he was still married.
He laughed at what I said and said, "I'm not going to get married again." 4 months later he was walking down the aisle again.
The smart thing to do is get the divorce and heal (let God help you). And build your life again.
My bf and I, both, spent a few years just being on our own and taking care of our kids, before we came across each other. And because we both took the time to heal, we both became whole (with God's help) and we are both strong and content individuals whic makes our RL stronger.
for you...you'll be fine!
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ido
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I don't know your situation, but I know I experienced a multitude of feelings and I was the one that filed. Allow yourself to feel whatever you need to feel in that moment. Suppressing your emotions will just draw out the healing process.
I've been divorced for almost a year now and I still have days where I am not sure if I'm handling things well or not....although everyone else seems to think I am.
I've been divorced for almost a year now and I still have days where I am not sure if I'm handling things well or not....although everyone else seems to think I am.
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That is very normal ladyjay. It is a time of very mixed emotions. I agree that it is best to allow yourself to feel whatever it is you need to feel. I also suggest taking every emotion to Christ, asking him to rise up in you and to heal your heart.
It is both the ending of one stage and the beginning of a new season. God is faithful and has a hope and a future for you.
Bless you sister
It is both the ending of one stage and the beginning of a new season. God is faithful and has a hope and a future for you.
Bless you sister
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memoriesbymichelle
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Consider it a "new" path on this Journey we call life. God knows your heart and is with you on your Journey, so peace be with you.
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I agree 100%. You will feel everything from elation to depression, hope to hopelessness. But from one who has been there, I can assure you that you WILL survive and thrive.
There's a quote in "If you want to walk on water, you have to get out of the boat" and that's "Something better is coming."
Hard to believe sometimes in the dark hours before sunrise, but something to cling to.
There's a quote in "If you want to walk on water, you have to get out of the boat" and that's "Something better is coming."
Hard to believe sometimes in the dark hours before sunrise, but something to cling to.
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You must have meant it to go through with it. Stand behind your choice, don't look back lest ye be turned to a pillar of salt! I am actually good friends with my ex. You build a lot of intimacy with you spouse, and that shouldn't be lost. Unless they were a total jerk! In that case, be VERY happy.
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