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It is either me or God ..i am confused a lot

sekir

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I am really tired of my life..seriously ..i know i post alot of prayers daily but it doesnt seems to help me at all.....all around me and my life thngs just keep getting worse........

My husband has now started emotionally and verbally abusing me and the only reason i see there is no physicak abuse is because we are staying apart

the human side of me says leave him and start new

the spiritual side is very confused...what bt forgiving and keeping on praying fr him

he gets mad when confronted abt his responsibilities and behaviour ways

i cant just be jolly wiht a man who calls me abusive names etc

i rather just ommit suicide

I need God to answer my doubts or just come thru for me
i can understand someone being jobless but being abusive and not having remorse abt it ....spending all the money etc

OHHHHHHHHHHH please i am so so so tired of all this happening to me..

either i need to leave this man ( me taking decisions in my life)
or God has to do something (he taking decisions in my life)
i have given him total control but where is he
 

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Beloved, our Lord Jesus Christ said:

[FONT=&quot]"Lo, I am with you alway, even unto the end of the world" (Matthew 28:20).

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He will never leave us or forsake us! Praying that God Almighty will bless you with comfort and guidance as well as strength in the name of Jesus Christ!
 
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:wave: :) ;) :groupray: Dear sekir,
Please keep asking for prayer. Alittle prayer....alittle power. Alot of prayer....alot of power.


I believe Jesus Our High Priest is busy day and night praying for each one of us. We are just doing His work and being like Him when we pray for one another. This helps us to be pleasing to Him and to draw closer to Him by loving and comforting His flock.

Loving Jesus, You see sekir. Her pain. Her depression. The work she does. Her money situation. Her marriage. Her future. Jesus, You know the beginning and the end. You are the Alpha and the Omega.

Lord God, we are trusting completely on Your ability, and not our own. You must come through for us, in our lives. We promise to Love You and be obedient to You and Your commands. Please bless us according to Your promises in Deuteronomy 26-39.

Jesus, hear sekir's plea! She needs Your love, comfort, strength and help. She needs Your power and guidance to help her make sense of her life and where she is going, what she is doing.

Jesus, Jesus. You have the name above every name. You are Our High Priest. You have all authority on Heaven and on Earth. You are Creator and Savior.

Please help sekir to get a pet, something to share love and affection with. A cat, dog, bird or even a hamster. You have created loving and beautiful creatures for us to be cheered and comforted by.Please make a way that she can have a companion to bring her great peace, comfort and reassurance that You care for her. Lord, You create beautiful birds of different colors, green, yellow, blue. They cheer us and bless our day. Help sekir not to feel alone, but to feel uplifted and cheered in the days and weeks ahead. Amen. Jesus, Jesus, we trust You hear this prayer and those in agreement. Send angels to provide this woman the guidance and strength she is desparately needing. Amen.

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Love for Enemies

But I tell you who hear me, Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. If someone strikes you on one cheek, turn to him the other also. If someone takes your cloak, do not stop him from taking your tunic. Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what belongs to you, do not demand it back. Do to others as you would have them do to you.

If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them. And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even 'sinners' do that. And it you lend to those from whom you expect repayment, what credit is that to you? Even 'sinners' lend to 'sinners', expecting to be repaid in full. But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High, because he is kind to the ungrateful and wicked. Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.


Judging Others

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"Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you."
Luke 6:27-38

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The Rich Young Man

As Jesus started on his way, a man ran up to him and fell on his knees before him. "Good teacher,: he asked, :what must I do to inherit eternal life?"
What do you call me good?" Jesus answered. :No one is good--except God alone. You know the commandments: ;Do not murder, do not commit adultry, do not steal, do not give false testimony, do not defraud, honor your father and mother."
"Teacher", he declared, :all these I have kept since I was a boy."
Jesus looked at him and loved him. "One things you lack,: he said. "Go, sell everything you have and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven. Then come, follow me."
At this the man;s face fell. He went away sad, because he had great wealth. Jesus looked around and said to his disciples, "How hard it is for the rich to enter the kingdom of God!"
The disciples were amazed at his words. But Jesus said again, "Children, how hard it is to enter the kingdom of God! It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of the needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God."
The disciples were even more amazed, and said to each other,"Who then can be saved?"
Jesus looked at htem and said, "With man this is impossible, but not with God: all things are possible with God."
Peter said to him, "We have left everything to follow you!"
"I tell you the truth, " Jesus replied, "no one who has left home or brothers or sisters of motrher of father or children or fields for me and the gospel will fail to receive a hundred times as much in this present age (homes, brothers, sisters,mothers,children and fields--and with them, persecutions) and in the age to come, eternal life. But many who are first will be last, and the last first.
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Further Benefits of Wisdom:)

My son, do not forget my teaching,
but keep my commands in your heart.
for they will prolong your life many years
and bring you prosperity.

Let love and faithfulness never leave you:
bind them around your neck,
write them on the tablet of your heart.
Then you will win favor and a good name.
in the sight of God and man.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart,
and lean not on your own understanding:
in all your ways acknowledge him,
and he will make your paths straight."

Do not be wise in your own eyes:
fear the Lord and shun evil.
This will bring health to your body
and nourishment to your bones.


Proverbs 3:1-7
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Dear Sekir,

I am praying so hard for you.

When I was in a somewhat similar situation, some very wise Christains reminded me, "You cannot change your spouse, but that does not mean that God expects you to put up with abuse and neglect. For a marriage to be a godly marriage, both spouses must be focused on God. So, do not be afraid or ashamed of drawing boundaries or of protecting yourself. If, in doing so, the other spouse leaves, understand that God will not be angry at you."

I was somewhat relieved to read that you are separated. I noticed that you said he gets upset if confronted with his behavior. If you can find a quality counselor, and you feel you want to save your marriage, please do so. A good counselor does not confront, they guide to self realization. If you cannot find a counselor, and you want to try to save the marriage, you may want to get "Stop Walking on Eggshells," and its workbook. These books are written for people married to people with Borderline Personality Disorder, but they are helpful to any person married to a selfish or abusive individual. They teach you how to draw boundaries to protect yourself, they remind you that you have rights.

Sekir, you are a child of God. A precious woman that He created with love. A child that He loved so much He took the form of man to come to earth, live as man, and die as man, to live again as God.

God does not want you in this pain.
He wants your husband to straighten up his act, but if that will not happen, then God wants you to be safe, to be happy.

When your husband becomes verbally abusive, you have a Christian right and a human right to say, "I will not be spoken to this way," and to end the conversation either by walking away, hanging up or whatever it takes, and you should do so. It not only ends the pain of having to sit and listen to the nonsense, but it also teaches them that they cannot force you into a verbal exchange.

If you truly cannot bear to remain in this marriage, then go your Heavenly Father, and poor your heart out to Him, tell Him why, and know that IF you leave, God will not stop loving you. God will be angry at the hardened-heart that caused you so much pain, not at the victim who was harmed by that hard heart.
 
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Father I pray You enter and meet all needs in Jesus Holy Name.
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I would be the first to say that a marriage is forever.
But there are circumstances when it should not be.
I am not saying this is the case for you. That is between God and you.

I am so sorry about the mental and verbal abuse.
That can hurt far more than physical abuse and it can also lead to physical abuse in the future. :(

I would limit contact with him as much as possible until he gets some help.

I know you are confused, keep praying.
Only God can tell you what you should do.

Prayers being lifted up for you and your husband.
God bless you!


(I agree with TexasSky's post)
 
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praying for you sister.praying that God will give you strength to go thru these trials,God loves you ,He will see you thru keep trusting in Him & believing.remember God does thnigs inHis time ,not our time, hang in there with God .He will comfort you & give you peace inJesus name we pray Amen
 
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praying for you sister.praying that God will give you strength to go thru these trials,God loves you ,He will see you thru keep trusting in Him & believing.remember God does thnigs inHis time ,not our time, hang in there with God .He will comfort you & give you peace inJesus name we pray Amen

Amen :groupray:
 
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I am really tired of my life..seriously ..i know i post alot of prayers daily but it doesnt seems to help me at all.....all around me and my life thngs just keep getting worse........

My husband has now started emotionally and verbally abusing me and the only reason i see there is no physicak abuse is because we are staying apart

the human side of me says leave him and start new

the spiritual side is very confused...what bt forgiving and keeping on praying fr him

he gets mad when confronted abt his responsibilities and behaviour ways

i cant just be jolly wiht a man who calls me abusive names etc

i rather just ommit suicide

I need God to answer my doubts or just come thru for me
i can understand someone being jobless but being abusive and not having remorse abt it ....spending all the money etc

OHHHHHHHHHHH please i am so so so tired of all this happening to me..

either i need to leave this man ( me taking decisions in my life)
or God has to do something (he taking decisions in my life)
i have given him total control but where is he
I was in your shoes at one time. I prayed and prayed to no avail. Then I heard a radio broadcast from Focus on the Family and James Dobson said that We ware the temple of the Holy Spirit and everytime we allow someone to abuse us they are grieving the Holy Spirit within us. Honey pray about it but I don't see any reason for you not to just start over. I know there are a lot of opinions out there that are quite legalistic about not leaving a marriage but when it becomes abusive God does not want that for you. What ever anyone else says. I stayed and prayed until the man I was married to actually tried to murder me. I am a good christian woman and I honor God's word but when it came to that point I left him. I did my best. You have done your best. I was told that sometimes God allows us to be in difficult positions to get us to move on because He knows unless it's very uncomfortable we will just stay in it. My heart is with you. Hang in there and please don't do anything to hurt yourself. Remember you are the temple of the Holy Spirit and you can not make someone believe what they do not want to believe. God gave us a free will. Do what you must do to not be abused. That does not please God no matter what anyone says. Love Lady Marion

Dear Lord Jesus Please Lord I ask that You would bring peace to this situation. Also bring wisdom and understanding. Lord Let Sekir know that You don't want her to be hurt over and over. Lord show her YOUR way. Speak to her in a way only she will understand. Let her have wisdom and knowledge of Your will for her life. If she is to stay with this man then let things change for the better but if she is to move on then give her peace over it. Lord You know the situation. You know her heart. Protect her from thoughts of self destruction and keep her safe from harm. Help her and bless her and surround her with people who will lift her up and keep her safe in Jesus most Holy Name Amen
 
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Praying for you.. As I have been let know this last week, we are creators of our life. It has been given to us from God and it is up to us to create our happiness and live our live and create how we want to live. when we have attachments that we cling to we can not grow. Attachment to a person is not a healthy emotion. Take charge of your life and create your happiness! Remember we choose how we want to live. Praying for your strength, for now is the time for all to let go of unhealthy attachments. (please do not feel alone, for we all have things to work on in these final days)
 
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I am really tired of my life..seriously ..i know i post alot of prayers daily but it doesnt seems to help me at all.....all around me and my life thngs just keep getting worse........

My husband has now started emotionally and verbally abusing me and the only reason i see there is no physicak abuse is because we are staying apart

the human side of me says leave him and start new

the spiritual side is very confused...what bt forgiving and keeping on praying fr him

he gets mad when confronted abt his responsibilities and behaviour ways

i cant just be jolly wiht a man who calls me abusive names etc

i rather just ommit suicide

I need God to answer my doubts or just come thru for me
i can understand someone being jobless but being abusive and not having remorse abt it ....spending all the money etc

OHHHHHHHHHHH please i am so so so tired of all this happening to me..

either i need to leave this man ( me taking decisions in my life)
or God has to do something (he taking decisions in my life)
i have given him total control but where is he

 
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sometimes things of the world make it hard to keep your spirit lifted. Only in the spirit can one have security and stable happiness. Only god can satisfy us.----=======------
If your mate is treating you wrongly, it is up to you to take charge. You are worth more than that. YOU KNOW WHAT YOU DESERVE. YOU DESERVE THE STARS. GO GET THEM
 
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