Issues on gay marriages and evolution

[alecs2001us]

My boyfriend and i have always disagree on gay marriages and evolution. But i told him that if we both come to an agreement that we have to respect each other's opinion then there would not be a problem. Right now, he wants to kow how were going to talk to our future kids when they start asking about gay marriages and evolution. He's convincing me that we will not be able to make it since we dont agree on this. Help....

 

[kanga22]

I think that each of you has a right to your own opinion. It will be okay to tell your kids that you don't always have the same opinion too. Your kids might even form their own opinion. You won't be able to tell them how to think you know.

I tell my kids what I believe, my husband explains what he believes (quite often different from me), and they get to make up their own little minds.

And I pray and trust God to lead them in His Will. HTH

 

[Bible Addict]

Like kanga22 said, you both have the right your own opinions, I guess I would say, don't let this issue get bigger than it needs to be... this subect may not come up for a VERY long time, and who knows, maybe one of you will change your mind... in any case, don't let it ruin your relationship if you don't mind agreeing to disagree, good luck

 

[alecs2001us]

he always brings this up everytime we go to the next level of our relationship. and most of the time i tell him that all he need to do is accept that we both will not agree on everything. i came from a different culture which is more conservative than here in the u.s. he's so afraid that because of this issues that we have, our children will not be happy or they will get confuse...how do i explain to him more in depth that this will not be a problem in the future.

 

[Bible Addict]

he always brings this up everytime we go to the next level of our relationship. and most of the time i tell him that all he need to do is accept that we both will not agree on everything. i came from a different culture which is more conservative than here in the u.s. he's so afraid that because of this issues that we have, our children will not be happy or they will get confuse...how do i explain to him more in depth that this will not be a problem in the future.

This is where I leave the convo... being 16, I don't think I have experience to speak from, especially seeing that my last relationship ended with my cheek feeling very sore and looking red Good luck though, I hope this all works out for ya

 

[IslandBreeze]

I'd take a step back from that relationship. Your boyfriend is threatening you with a break up because you have a differing opinion? That's the start of emotional and verbal abuse. You need to think really long and hard if you really want to be with someone who won't allow you to have a different opinion. His abuse will only get worse from here.

 

[alecs2001us]

actually, he's scared...he thinks that because we dont have the same ideas and opinions, we're not going to make it...he wants to make sure that our relationship is going to last...

 

[herev]

I have to agree with Island Breeze, as a pastor if you were coming to me for premarital counseling and your boyfriend expressed his concern over simply a different opinion, I would think you have much bigger problems to deal with. Marriage is not about being identical to your spouse. Marriage is not about giving up who you are to be with someone who is different from you. Marriage is about two distinct people coming together and bringing all they are into ONE relationship. If he believes a break up in imminant because of a differing opinoin, what is the relationship acutally built on?

 

[alecs2001us]

He wants us to go into counseling...i know that he's got a lot of issues, concerns and fears, but i think if i could just hold on for the both of us i know that he will be able to conquer those fears. i could have just walked away a long time ago, but everytime, i go think about it some more, prayed about it some more, i realized that no amount of issues, concerns and fears would discourage me from trying....