I'm saying like say a husband is unfaithful for years with another woman and gets her pregnant and plans to leave wife. But the wife makes the other woman have an abortion?
No one should
make a woman have an abortion.
She feared her husband would leave her so she encouraged and made sure the other woman had an abortion so her husband would stay with her and he ended up staying with her.
It seems she felt insecure and wanted to make sure that her husband stayed with her.
It could have backfired - the husband may have left her and/or resented her for being the cause of the death of his child.
The thing is I don't like the other woman either she seems like a terrible homewrecker who hates the wife and really works hard at destroying their family and marriage and she was going to use her pregnancy as a way to split up their marriage.
I'm not sure your feelings about the other woman should come into it; it's between them.
If you are trying to support the wife, be there for her and listen, comfort and help her to discover her options - you don't have to take sides and like/hate one or the other.
She's simply "trying to protect" her family. And that women like that are equal to women who get abortions and she basically deserved to have her pregnancy terminated because of how bad of a person she is.
Making someone get an abortion, depriving a woman of her child and her own children of their half brother or sister, is not the action of a good person.
That's why I don't like my friend because she doesn't seem Christian but beguiled by desperation. But anyway am I judgmental and is it wrong that I cut her off as of lately? Advice?
I can understand you being horrified by/uncomfortable with your friend's actions - but it's possible to hate the sin but love the sinner. God does.
Also the other woman ended her pregnancy like 4 months ago but doesn't seem to have helped my friend completely because her husband stayed with the wife but he still cheats with that mess of a woman so I've heard.
The problem wasn't the baby; the problem was the husband's inability to remember his marriage vows and be faithful. The wife thought that by getting rid of the fruit of the affair (child) she would solve the root of the affair. She hasn't.
If she wants him back, even after everything, she needs to talk to him, properly - and be ready to listen to the reasons he started the affair and how he feels. Then, if both are willing, they can start to do something about it.
The woman he cheats with really hates the wife now more than before.
Not surprisingly - although ultimately she agreed to an abortion.
I think maybe a divorce would help her find a man worth marrying. If she was a good Christian she'd have left him by now
If she was stronger, had greater self esteem and practical and financial help; she might have.