Isn't it wrong to encourage someone who is trying to break up your marriage to get an abortion?

[Ja rt]

I'm saying like say a husband is unfaithful for years with another woman and gets her pregnant and plans to leave wife. But the wife makes the other woman have an abortion? I have a friend who I sided with have this happen. But among us were all prolife so I thought. She feared her husband would leave her so she encouraged and made sure the other woman had an abortion so her husband would stay with her and he ended up staying with her. The thing is I don't like the other woman either she seems like a terrible homewrecker who hates the wife and really works hard at destroying their family and marriage and she was going to use her pregnancy as a way to split up their marriage. I think this is a major reason she encouraged her to abort because of that. But also it doesn't sit well with me that she facilitated in someone terminating their pregnancy. She justifies it by saying that the woman is obviously a very immoral and disgusting person that she's trying to break up her family. She's simply "trying to protect" her family. And that women like that are equal to women who get abortions and she basically deserved to have her pregnancy terminated because of how bad of a person she is. It's only the consequences of her actions. I still feel like outside of the terrible woman. there was a child that had nothing to do with it. That's why I don't like my friend because she doesn't seem Christian but beguiled by desperation. But anyway am I judgmental and is it wrong that I cut her off as of lately? Advice?


Also the other woman ended her pregnancy like 4 months ago but doesn't seem to have helped my friend completely because her husband stayed with the wife but he still cheats with that mess of a woman so I've heard. The woman he cheats with really hates the wife now more than before. You know nothing good can come out of bad. I think maybe a divorce would help her find a man worth marrying. If she was a good Christian she'd have left him by now

 

[Abaxvahl]

I'm saying like say a husband is unfaithful for years with another woman and gets her pregnant and plans to leave wife. But the wife makes the other woman have an abortion? Advice?

Yes it is wrong and moreover makes the person who encouraged this woman to have an abortion a murderer, along with the woman. They and others are all guilty of murder now, and no justification for the act is possible. They need God's forgiveness.

Note: it's not 100% clear that it has happened, depends on what you mean by "facilitated." If the act is complete then what I said is true, but it is still encouraging murder if it didn't happen and is evil.

 

[Ja rt]

Yes it is wrong and moreover makes the person who encouraged this woman to have an abortion a murderer, along with the woman. They and others are all guilty of murder now, and no justification for the act is possible. They need God's forgiveness.

Note: it's not 100% clear that it has happened, depends on what you mean by "facilitated." If the act is complete then what I said is true, but it is still encouraging murder if it didn't happen and is evil.

Like she literally bullied her at work and threatened her job and paid for her to get the abortion etc .... She specifically pointed out it was murder but that that was what the other woman deserved because she was a terrible person for getting an abortion and cheating with her husband which she is most certainly terrible I'd say her husband is too and she fought so hard for him that she's lost her own values

 

[Ja rt]

Yes it is wrong and moreover makes the person who encouraged this woman to have an abortion a murderer, along with the woman. They and others are all guilty of murder now, and no justification for the act is possible. They need God's forgiveness.

Note: it's not 100% clear that it has happened, depends on what you mean by "facilitated." If the act is complete then what I said is true, but it is still encouraging murder if it didn't happen and is evil.

And also no the other woman has undergone an abortion last may. It doesn't seem to have changed anything though her husband still cheats with this woman who tries to do her best to mess with their relationship. It's only low self esteem that makes my ex friend hold on. She may no longer be pregnant but what is a marriage where you're constantly turning a blind eye to your cheating husband? It's honestly sad.

 

[Sabertooth]

Isn't it wrong to encourage someone who is trying to break up your marriage to get an abortion?

Is the child in question guilty of anything at all, let alone a capital crime?

 

[Ja rt]

Is the child in question guilty of anything at all, let alone a capital crime?

Exactly! Murderers are the only people who should be put to death

 

[Gregory Thompson]

Advice?

Kind of reminds me of that couple who during a food shortage covenanted to eat one woman's child that day and the other woman's child the next day. However, the next day the other mother hid her child, so they took it to the king for judgment and he tore his clothes.

This is one of those kind of situations. The premise of interaction is wrong on so many levels.

In the old testament days, the whole lot of them might have been put to death. However, today - it's just a wrong situation. The best thing you can do is try and save the child.

 

[bèlla]

Killing the child won't prevent him from straying. She probably made it worse. Now she has blood on her hands and he remains with the other. No one can wreck your home. It takes two to tangle.

~bella

 

[Ja rt]

Kind of reminds me of that couple who during a food shortage covenanted to eat one woman's child that day and the other woman's child the next day. However, the next day the other mother hid her child, so they took it to the king for judgment and he tore his clothes.

This is one of those kind of situations. The premise of interaction is wrong on so many levels.

In the old testament days, the whole lot of them might have been put to death. However, today - it's just a wrong situation. The best thing you can do is try and save the child.

Yeah maybe the husband and that woman would have been put to death before there ever was an abortion

 

[Hazelelponi]

I'm saying like say a husband is unfaithful for years with another woman and gets her pregnant and plans to leave wife. But the wife makes the other woman have an abortion? I have a friend who I sided with have this happen. But among us were all prolife so I thought. She feared her husband would leave her so she encouraged and made sure the other woman had an abortion so her husband would stay with her. The thing is I don't like the other woman either she seems like a terrible homewrecker who hates the wife and really works hard at destroying their family and marriage and she was going to use her pregnancy as a way to split up their marriage. I think this is a major reason she encouraged her to abort because of that. But also it doesn't sit well with me that she facilitated in someone terminating their pregnancy. She justifies it by saying that the woman is obviously a very immoral and disgusting person that she's trying to break up her family. She's simply "trying to protect" her family. And that women like that are equal to women who get abortions and she basically deserved to have her pregnancy terminated because of how bad of a person she is. It's only the consequences of her actions. I still feel like outside of the terrible woman. there was a child that had nothing to do with it. That's why I don't like my friend because she doesn't seem Christian but beguiled by desperation. But anyway am I judgmental and is it wrong that I cut her off as of lately? Advice?


Also the other woman ended her pregnancy like 4 months ago but doesn't seem to have helped the my friend completely because her husband stayed with her but he still cheats with that mess of a woman so I've heard. You know nothing good can come out of bad. I think maybe a divorce would help her find a man worth marrying

I'd have nothing to do with any of them personally. None of them, not one seems to be Christian, and there seems no end to their love of sin.

Man commits adultery.

Woman is adulterous and murdered her unborn child.

Woman condoned the murder of said unborn child.

Jealousy all around, and coveting and all manner of sin to boot.

You're supposed to be either around other Christians (you know, the ones who actually have faith and follow Christ), or be the light of Christ to the lost around you.

Sometimes, you just have to shake the dust off your sandals and move on. Might like to mention God first if you haven't already... but life is too short for spending all our time in dramas created by the sin of others.

Find better freinds, the kind you feel blessed to be around.

 

[Ja rt]

Killing the child won't prevent him from straying. She probably made it worse. Now she has blood on her hands and he remains with the other. No one can wreck your home. It takes two to tangle.

~bella

All the abortion did was make it where the other woman couldn't use that to split them up. It didn't make him faithful. It didn't fix their marriage.

I do know it made the other woman hate her more. She hated her especially when she was getting the abortion. And we all work together. Work environment is interesting but the other woman hates her more because she was going to use her pregnancy to get him to leave her. But because the pregnancy ended in ab early termination she wasn't able to do that. Which thwarted her plans to completely ruin their marriage because she's no longer pregnant. Which is why the other woman hates her more because she has less leverage even my friend and her husband have 3 children. So they have a family. But she's still the other woman. But no it didn't fix anything it just made her also a bad person originally she was a victim out of this. The other woman is still the other woman her husband didn't learn his lesson and is still with this woman who is trying to destroy his marriage.

 

[Ja rt]

Double post

 

[bèlla]

I do know it made the other woman hate her more. And we all work together. Work environment is interesting but anyhow. No it didn't fix anything it just made her also a bad person originally she was a victim out of this.

It didn’t make her a bad person. It revealed who she was.

 

[Ja rt]

It didn’t make her a bad person. It revealed who she was.

That they're all made for each other

 

[bèlla]

That they're all made for each other

It revealed aspects of her character that hadn't come to light. An affair doesn't provoke someone to make threats and demand an abortion. She thought she could bully her and nothing changed. If she had a shred of dignity she'd separate and seek counseling. That's better than being disgraced. He's making a fool of her.

 

[RDKirk]

All the abortion did was make it where the other woman couldn't use that to split them up. It didn't make him faithful. It didn't fix their marriage.

I do know it made the other woman hate her more. She hated her especially when she was getting the abortion. And we all work together. Work environment is interesting but the other woman hates her more because she was going to use her pregnancy to get him to leave her. But because the pregnancy ended in ab early termination she wasn't able to do that. Which thwarted her plans to completely ruin their marriage because she's no longer pregnant. Which is why the other woman hates her more because she has less leverage but not really even my friend and her husband have 3 children so I think the other woman not having children actually is her advantage. But she's still the other woman. But no it didn't fix anything it just made her also a bad person originally she was a victim out of this. The other woman is still the other woman her husband didn't learn his lesson and is still with this woman who is trying to destroy his marriage.

The man is certainly an equal part of destroying his own marriage.

As others have said, there is no "victim" here, except the child. All the adults are equally evil, and all are doomed without realizing that and repenting.

 

[Ja rt]

It revealed aspects of her character that hadn't come to light. An affair doesn't provoke someone to make threats and demand an abortion. She thought she could bully her and nothing changed. If she had a shred of dignity she'd separate and seek counseling. That's better than being disgraced. He's making a fool of her.

Yeah honestly lying to one's self I think is the worst thing one can do in this case this man is trash and she's only gone to the dump with him.

 

[splish- splash]

The abortion has not stopped them, from seeing each other though. Plus she could still get pregnant for a 2nd, 3rd or even 4th time if she wanted.

So how did your friend, manage to corner the other woman into having an abortion? & yes It is wrong to encourage others to have an abortion.

 

[Ja rt]

The abortion has not stopped them, from seeing each other though. Plus she could still get pregnant for a 2nd, 3rd or even 4th time if she wanted.

So how did your friend, manage to corner the other woman into having an abortion? & yes It is wrong to encourage others to have an abortion.

By threats from what I could tell. And berating her.

 

[SkyWriting]

If she was a good Christian she'd have left him by now.

We don't decide what other people should do.
Do not judge others.