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Don't steal from your rightful future mate what is rightfully hers.
Masturbation is theft, eh? Gee, I knew I shouldn't have stolen that [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] when I was 13. I should have saved it for my wife. There are only so many [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse], you know...
 
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Hey if you're gonna espouse false doctrine based upon what the Holy Spirit has revealed to me, you can bet your bottom dollar I'm gonna call you on it and there's nothing wrong with that.
Huh???

Oh I don't know if you read my other message, I realized Holo was mocking a bit too. Of course my parents don't know that im talking to adults about this topic. My friends don't have the answer. The Bible doens't say for sure. And im not sure if the Holy Spirit is convicting me. And I definitely would NOT ask my parents this question. Can you say embarassing?
No I read your message. What I'm saying is, the Holy Spirit has convicted me in my heart that masturbation is absolutely a sin, no question about it. He has revealed to me a couple of reasons why as well. It's sex outside of marriage and is always the result of lustful thoughts. Now as you've said you can do it without thinking lustful thoughts, but you have to really try right? Because it's so easy to slip into that behavior while masturbating. The temptation to think lustful thoughts while masturbating is too great to risk that behavior.

Since we are to guard ourselves against sin as best we can, I think it is wise to avoid behaviors that lead us down the slippery slope of personal justification of sin. When people come along and say God doesn't care if you touch, that bothers me, because I see that for what it is, a personal justification of sinful behavior. So when I see people saying things like that, I call them on it and ask them questions and defend my point of view as to why I believe masturbation is sinful. What do I get for my efforts? I get to be called judgmental, arrogant and ignorant. But guess what? I don't care. Because it's not my own personal truth I'm sharing here, but what the Spirit has convicted me of, that I'm sharing here.
 
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Im just curious about the answer to this topic, but I don't get any answers and I get talked down to by floating axe and zecryphon. Maybe I shouldn't have put up my age.
I'm not talking down to you, I'm talking to you as I would talk to an adult. If you need to be handled with kid gloves, tell me so and I will treat you as a child.
 
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And they really shouldn't. The question is wrong from the outset, because it assumes that you are wicked and don't have a clue morally (and indeed a lot of churches do treat their members as if they're completely unable to make good moral judgments). It also takes the focus away from what Christ has already done, and IS doing, which is sufficient, and focuses on ME. But we're not called to look on ourselves, but on HIM.

To put it another way; would Jesus ask what Jesus would do?

I've seen people suffer tremendously under the WWJD regime.

I haven't really thought of that. It makes no difference to me.

What does masturbation have to do with that?
"And they really shouldn't. The question is wrong from the outset, because it assumes that you are wicked and don't have a clue morally (and indeed a lot of churches do treat their members as if they're completely unable to make good moral judgments)."

Holo, read the Bible. Before coming to Christ you are a child of wrath, a child of the devil. You are wicked.

"It also takes the focus away from what Christ has already done, and IS doing, which is sufficient, and focuses on ME. But we're not called to look on ourselves, but on HIM."

It actually puts the focus on God and what God has done. It's all about the glorification of God. All of it.


"To put it another way; would Jesus ask what Jesus would do?"

No, because Jesus did not live for Himself. The question we need to ask is, as I've already said, what DID Jesus do. Look at what He did and not what we think He would do based upon our limited understanding of Him.

"I've seen people suffer tremendously under the WWJD regime."

Me too, because it tempts us to speculate on what Jesus would do, and leads us to believe that our personal truth is THE truth.


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Do you think Jesus would touch?

"I haven't really thought of that. It makes no difference to me."

Well think about it. If masturbation really isn't a sinful behavior, Jesus would have done it right? Why should we assume He didn't? See where questioning like this can lead?


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Do you see any evidence in the Bible of Jesus living for Himself or rather do you see evidence of Him putting aside what He may have wanted to do and doing what His father had commanded Him to do? I see the latter and never the former.

"What does masturbation have to do with that?"
Because, masturbation to me seems to focus on what I want for myself, as opposed to what God has expressed He wants for me.
 
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Holo, read the Bible. Before coming to Christ you are a child of wrath, a child of the devil. You are wicked.
Actually, we agree on that. We were sinners by nature.

It actually puts the focus on God and what God has done. It's all about the glorification of God. All of it.
Yes, but it places the responsibility of God's honour on MAN. It implies that YOU must provide holiness, that YOU must try and do good enough for God, when in reality, it's about GOD doing HIS works through you.

Jesus said, "come to me and I will give you rest!"
The WWJD concept says "WORK! Perform!"

WWJD replaces God's power with man's. But it is HE who works in us both to will and to do.

No, because Jesus did not live for Himself. The question we need to ask is, as I've already said, what DID Jesus do. Look at what He did and not what we think He would do based upon our limited understanding of Him.
But what He did was sufficient. And it's only when HE is allowed to express Himself through us that HIS work is really done.

Me too, because it tempts us to speculate on what Jesus would do, and leads us to believe that our personal truth is THE truth.
I've seen them suffer because WWJD becomes a burden even greater than the Law was - the law was the ministry of death, and WWJD is even worse.

I do realize that some people handle the WWJD concept in a healthy way - but such people don't NEED it. And it's not worth all the guilt and feeling of inadequacy it has produced in people.

Well think about it. If masturbation really isn't a sinful behavior, Jesus would have done it right?
If so, he would also walk on His hands, sleep upside down, dance cha-cha-cha in the morning and baked bread...

Why should we assume He didn't? See where questioning like this can lead?
Yes. Why should we assume anything at all? Why should it make a difference? A lot of christians abstain from alcohol even though Jesus drank wine. That's not a problem. Jesus' personal habits don't determine ours.

Because, masturbation to me seems to focus on what I want for myself, as opposed to what God has expressed He wants for me.
OK, so for you, masturbation conflicts with God's will. As you mentioned elsewhere, for you it's tightly tied together with lustful thoughts etc.

Other than that, masturbation doesn't conflict with God's will any more than eating ham does.
 
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The answer to this question ought to be clear. When Jesus said, "But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart." Matthew 5:28

No man begins the act of masturbation without mentally committing adultery in his mind or heart. After all, every act of masturbation begins with lust. Therefore the scripture answers the question without using the word masturbation. The act of adultery and the act of masturbation both begin with giving into lust. Lust itself is defined as "seeking unrestrained self gratification."

If we are continually worrying about whether masturbation is sin or not, as Christians we need only read the scriptures we will find our answer is there. As long as we continue the sin of masturbation we will wrestle with the guilt of our conscience. Like the sin of adultery itself, one must come to the Lord seeking forgiveness and then refrain from the act in order to be free of the guilt of mind and heart.

Usually if our conscience questions our right to enter into an act or mentally dwell on a subject, then we can be fairly sure that we are being tempted to sin.
 
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"I know a lot of people who live more moral lives than most Christians I've met. But they are atheists and muslims and new-agers and whatnot. However good they behave, it'll never be pleasing to God."

Remember that Holo. And also remember that no one is good and no one leads a good and moral life according to God's standard. That's the standard that rules our lives.


"My behaviour could never please God anyhow. So thankfully, I'm free from focusing on trying to do good enough for God, and rather let God himself do what God does best - through me."

So when you sin, it's God who is causing you to sin?

"The intentions would be good, but the results will suffer. Because when you try to live according to the law, YOU are left to achieve things. Living in faith, on the other hand, lets Christ GIVE you victory, it lets Him prepare the works FOR you, it lets HIM live. Living according to law is actually the opposite of dying to ourselves. Also, the commandment is the power of sin, so the more you try to live according to the law, the easier it is to be caught in the sin that the law prohibits."


Of course you're going to be caught when you sin, that's what the law does, it brings about the knowledge of sin. When I sin, I am driven to my knees before God in repentance. When you sin, and I know you still do, you just keep going and turn a blind eye to it and convince yourself you didn't do it, because you now have Christ.

"It happened with the first forbidden apple, and it still happens to believers everywhere today. When the commandment comes, sin springs to life."

Wrong, sin becomes evident. That's what the law is Holo, a mirror that reveals who you truly are. It exposes your sin. The reason people don't want anything to do with the law is because it exposes them as sinners and they can't handle that revelation.

"What rules did God have for Adam and Eve's lives?"

Do not eat of that tree leaps to mind.

"Aside from being fruitful, the only commandment was to NOT learn about right and wrong. Again, the law was never meant for righteous people."

So Adam and Eve were not righteous or perfect when God created them before they sinned against Him by violating His rule?

"I won't be judged according to some moral law. Or, if I am, I will be declared righteous."


Yes you will and the penalty for your sin will be set aside, because Christ paid that at the cross. You will also give a testimony to God of all your actions and thoughts.

"I'm not saying that sinners won't be judged righteously. The mosaic law, though, has nothing to do with it. It was only given to Israel."

Alot of the Mosaic law was given to Israel, but God's moral law is for everyone. It is how He declared all people are to live. It's His standard of what is acceptable behavior to Him. God is the same yeseterday, today and tomorrow. His moral standards do not change.

"So you figure we are to be guided by it. But I've never seen a christian even try to follow the law."

How do you know? If you are judging people by the 10 Commandments and saying to yourself "hey that guy just told a lie, or that guy is cheating on his wife, that's not Christian behavior!" You're judging others in the body of Christ, based upon God's moral law, a behavior you think is reprehensible and not the job of a Christian.

"No, actually the law was meant to make SIN exceedingly SINFUL. And that's what it does."


You can't increase the foulness of sin. It is what it is.

"Abraham didn't need the law as a guide to anything. Why should I?"

Where's your proof of that? Where is your proof that Abraham didn't need the law? If you had any it'd be here in this post to back up your assertion.


"No, he extended grace as soon as he saw his son."

You don't know the second he saw his son, that's when he extended grace. You weren't there. I wasn't either and that's why I don't make claims like this.

"Good! The law is for the wicked and the ungodly. I'm born again, I am in Him and He is in me. He IS my life.
What rules, exactly, should I need in my life? What rules do YOU need to have in your life?"

Without rules, there is chaos. I need to know what is acceptable and pleasing behavior in God's sight so I can live according to His standard, not my own.

"If someone saves your life, will you ask the guy for some rules you can follow in order to show your gratitude?"

You are so hung up on seeing the law as a bunch of rules that you can't get past that. You will ask the person "what can I do for you?" That's natural. With the new nature, God gives us the desire to live a life that is pleasing for Him. He has given us His standard of what is appropriate and what is not, and you want to ignore that standard because you have been born-again. You want only one gift from God and not the other.

"Yes, and when we try to tell them how God sees things, we portray him as an angry judge."

He is an angry judge and He must uphold the law. If you do not accept Christ taking your penalty on the cross for your sins, that angry judge is going to send you to Hell.

"Actually, that's God's idea too. Jesus let the adulterous woman go. He said "go and sin no more" - do you think she never sinned again?"

The Bible is silent, therefore she must not have sinned again. Because if she had, surely the Bible would have told us. Isn't that how you think?

"If she went straight back to a life in whoredom, do you think Jesus would regret what He did? Barabbas, too, was let go. He represents us."

No, He would have pardoned her again, because He knows what she is, a sinner, who is repentant in her heart of her actions against a holy and just God. Those are the people that receive grace. The ones who show they are sorry for what they have done.

"Unlike a human judge's love, God's love actually transforms people."

If a human judge has that kind of devotion to the law and what it demands, how much more devotion to the law must your Father in Heaven have?

"God is a father more than a judge."


There you go again, deciding which attributes God has more of, based upon what you like. God is only your Father in Heaven after you have been reconciled back to Him through Christ, not before.

"And He HAS judged sin. He did that on the cross. The punishment was laid on HIM."

The punishment was laid upon Him for those who call upon His name to be saved. But if you don't repent you don't repent of your sins and show that you are sorry for your heinous crimes against God you will not receive
the gift of salvation.

"Yes, in order to FOLLOW Christ you would actually have to do all those tings and pick up your cross etc. But that's not the way we are supposed to follow Him. Because now, He has already picked up the cross, and we are DEAD. His burden is LIGHT and His yoke is EASY. Jesus IS good and DOES good, and He's never good to us in order that we shall do this or perform that or please him here or achieve somthing there. Jesus does good because of WHO HE IS, not because of what we deserve or are able to give in return. God is LOVE."


So Jesus, who is God, then changed after the cross? Before the cross you had to pick up your cross and follow after Him, doing all He commanded, but after the cross, you don't? Jesus changed? God changed? That's not what scripture teaches. Remember what James said, faith without works is dead. But hey, you've got your "get out of hell free card", why should you have to do anything to please God, right?

"That's my point - they will raise new buildings and walk right past the hobos and the beggars."

And you say others are judgmental! LOL

"I have nothing against rules per se, but I prefer life. Christ didn't come to give us rules, but LIFE. And life is to KNOW HIM."

You have everything against rules, you have said repeatedly you don't need them and they have no place in your life.

"But I'll consider a rule if I run into a situation where I'd need it."

Perfect example of a person living for themselves. You're saying "I don't need God's rules until I say I do and until I see a need for them."

"Well, I never say God has commanded me to follow rules, so no worry :)"


Yeah we know and that's why there is worry.

"True, I do what I please. And what do I please? To do good. To worship the Lord. To share the good news."

Which Jesus commanded you to do. So you do follow the rules of God after all, well at least one.

"But what rules, exactly, do you mean He has set down for my life? Jesus IS my life. Has God set down rules for Jesus?"

Jesus is God. Yeah I believe God didn't let Jesus, even though He had the power, take Himself off that cross.

"It's not just me and God, though. I have neighbours too. But I don't live FOR anything or anyone. I live IN the Lord."


You contradict yourself here. You say Jesus is your life, then you say I don't live for anyone. If Jesus is your life you live for Him. You have already said you do what He has commanded you to do in sharing the gospel with the world. So you are doing things for Jesus. You do follow rules and you do not do what you please, you do what Jesus has given you to do.

"To put it another way, I live "for" God in the same way that Adam and Eve did."

Yeah we know.


"Oh yes, I most definately am! He saw that it was GOOD."

He saw that they were good after He made them, not after they ate of the fruit. Then He saw them as wicked and sent them out of paradise, because the very sight of them repulsed Him.

"Yes, because they made the choice to eat from the law tree. They shouldn't have, and I won't do the same mistake."

They didn't follow the law God had set down, you are making the same mistake. You just refuse to see it.

"What should they need the ten commandments for?"


So that they know what God finds acceptable and unacceptable. If you repeatedly break the law, is God going to think you're living for Jesus or Him or that you love or respect Him in any way? Of course not! Nobody would.


"Yes. To be fruitful and multiply."

Wrong. To not eat of the tree is what God told them to do. They didn't do that, then they were punished and that's when the command to be fruitful and multiply came into play.

"Exactly. It was satan who made them aware of law and sin and nakedness."


It was the fruit that did that. Satan just twisted the words of God to get them to disobey God.


"What does it look like?"

It looks like people who keep and obey God's moral law because they love God. It looks like people who submit to God's will and authority in their lives. It looks like people who say not my will but God's will. It doesn't look like people who say "I do what I want and have no need for any law, but if I ever see a need I will follow it."

"It is, if you use it to measure and determine the faith of others. God has GIVEN each of us faith according to HIS OWN measure. Not according to a creed."


I'm not using a creed or a statement of faith to measure the faith of another.

"Well, "he went and hanged himself" is straight out of scripture too, but that doesn't make it useful or even sensible."

Have I told you to go hang yourself?

"He has defined Himself in Christ, not in a book. In a person. The book describes God in many ways, but the only way to actually KNOW God, is to MEET Him."


And where does one go to learn about God?

"Why must a child realize why they have a dad and understand the family unit? Don't you let you kids be just kids?"

Nope, you raise them up and teach them lessons and correct them when they displease you and live for themselves instead of upholding the standards you have set for acceptable behavior. You don't just let them run free doing what they please.

"The fact that we understand family dynamics and whatnot when we grow older is a bonus, not a requirement for being a child."

You learn that stuff as a child, you realize it's value when you get older.

"God Himself did."

How did God compare a flawed human relationship with your earthly father to your relationship with Him?

"Maybe so, and maybe by not stealing I have also kept Egyptian law. I am as much a subject to Egyptian law as I am to the ten commandments."

You sir, have made it clear that you live for yourself and no one else.


"The point isn't to keep commandments, but to love."

Keeping God's commands are one way we show God that we love Him and respect Him.

"I love, and the law has absolutely nothing to do with it."

You love, that's true, but only yourself and what you deem is right and wrong.

"And you fear I may be dishonest about myself because I don't share you exact understanding of things - you can assume the best about me until it turns out we're not exactly the same. We disagree on MY use for the law, and you begin talking about immoral brothers and wolves in sheep's clothing..."

You have no use for the law. That is a sign of someone who is not born again, a red flag.


"Hehe! No offense, but I'm getting a laugh out of stuff like that."

I know. Another red flag. You laugh at the law and at God by doing so. I think I'm starting to see why a lot of churches don't like you.


"No. There are as many ways to Christ as there are people."

Okay and once you've met Christ, what do you do?

"Almost as fine as your sarcasm"

Sarcasm is your signature move, not mine. I have no sarcasm here, just concern and it's apparently unwelcome. I'm done. Goodbye.
 
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The answer to this question ought to be clear. When Jesus said, "But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart." Matthew 5:28

No man begins the act of masturbation without mentally committing adultery in his mind or heart. After all, every act of masturbation begins with lust. Therefore the scripture answers the question without using the word masturbation. The act of adultery and the act of masturbation both begin with giving into lust. Lust itself is defined as "seeking unrestrained self gratification."

If we are continually worrying about whether masturbation is sin or not, as Christians we need only read the scriptures we will find our answer is there. As long as we continue the sin of masturbation we will wrestle with the guilt of our conscience. Like the sin of adultery itself, one must come to the Lord seeking forgiveness and then refrain from the act in order to be free of the guilt of mind and heart.

Usually if our conscience questions our right to enter into an act or mentally dwell on a subject, then we can be fairly sure that we are being tempted to sin.
Amen, Amisk! I'm not worried about whether or not masturbation is a sin. I know it is, case closed for me.
 
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If you are embarrassed by your behaviour and can't discuss this with parents, then your conscience is alive and well. Heed that. It is God's provision to you for alerting you to sin. Ignore it and short-circuit that warning system. God will then leave you to your own devices, and you will have successfully cut God out of an area of your life that He wants you to give over to His control. He wants all of us, not just some of us.

The desires that cause you to do such things needs to be under control, and God can give you that control. Sexual gratification is achieved through intimacy with a woman you are married to only. Don't steal from your rightful future mate what is rightfully hers.

sorry but, I don't see masturbation as stealing from my future "mate". Sex and masturbation are 2 different things. And there are many different things that I would not talk to my parents about. Not just masturbation. I also wouldn't talk to them about sex or drugs.
 
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The average male masterbaits at least once a day.

Telling someone they can't masterbait is attempting to controll someone elses life, and make them feel guilty for doing something that isn't wrong in any way.

The only somewhat logical reason that its a sin is, Because they think its lust, and lust is a sin.

But no man has lived his life without feeling lust.
 
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No I read your message. What I'm saying is, the Holy Spirit has convicted me in my heart that masturbation is absolutely a sin, no question about it. He has revealed to me a couple of reasons why as well. It's sex outside of marriage and is always the result of lustful thoughts. Now as you've said you can do it without thinking lustful thoughts, but you have to really try right? Because it's so easy to slip into that behavior while masturbating. The temptation to think lustful thoughts while masturbating is too great to risk that behavior.

Since we are to guard ourselves against sin as best we can, I think it is wise to avoid behaviors that lead us down the slippery slope of personal justification of sin. When people come along and say God doesn't care if you touch, that bothers me, because I see that for what it is, a personal justification of sinful behavior. So when I see people saying things like that, I call them on it and ask them questions and defend my point of view as to why I believe masturbation is sinful. What do I get for my efforts? I get to be called judgmental, arrogant and ignorant. But guess what? I don't care. Because it's not my own personal truth I'm sharing here, but what the Spirit has convicted me of, that I'm sharing here.

Honestly, I don't have to try hard at all. I really don't even come close to lusting at all. I don't have any bad images in my mind or anything. Ill try to quit doing it, but the burning sexual desire becomes to great. So I see masturbation as a way out, and I honestly have not even a sinful thought. Maybe God provided me this way out? Im not sure.
Masturbation can also keep you away from committing fornication or adultery. After it is done it takes your sexual desire away for quite a while and therefore you won't be tempted to commit any of those sins.
 
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sorry but, I don't see masturbation as stealing from my future "mate". Sex and masturbation are 2 different things. And there are many different things that I would not talk to my parents about. Not just masturbation. I also wouldn't talk to them about sex or drugs.


Well, you need to.
 
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Honestly, I don't have to try hard at all. I really don't even come close to lusting at all. I don't have any bad images in my mind or anything. Ill try to quit doing it, but the burning sexual desire becomes to great. So I see masturbation as a way out, and I honestly have not even a sinful thought. Maybe God provided me this way out? Im not sure.
Masturbation can also keep you away from committing fornication or adultery. After it is done it takes your sexual desire away for quite a while and therefore you won't be tempted to commit any of those sins.


You are rationalizing and lying to yourself. That is carnal thinking which God tells us we must not do.
 
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The average male masterbaits at least once a day.

Telling someone they can't masterbait is attempting to controll someone elses life, and make them feel guilty for doing something that isn't wrong in any way.

The only somewhat logical reason that its a sin is, Because they think its lust, and lust is a sin.

But no man has lived his life without feeling lust.

I am now wondering if the behaviour does some brain damage. You people can't even spell it.
 
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Honestly, I don't have to try hard at all. I really don't even come close to lusting at all. I don't have any bad images in my mind or anything. Ill try to quit doing it, but the burning sexual desire becomes to great. So I see masturbation as a way out, and I honestly have not even a sinful thought. Maybe God provided me this way out? Im not sure.
Masturbation can also keep you away from committing fornication or adultery. After it is done it takes your sexual desire away for quite a while and therefore you won't be tempted to commit any of those sins.
"Honestly, I don't have to try hard at all. I really don't even come close to lusting at all. I don't have any bad images in my mind or anything. Ill try to quit doing it, but the burning sexual desire becomes to great."

As someone who was once a 15 year old boy with a chronic masturbation habit, I know that feeling all too well. You are being sanctified by the Holy Spirit and growing in holiness. Need proof? Look at where you were a year ago, compared to where you are today. I believe that one day you will kick this habit.

"So I see masturbation as a way out, and I honestly have not even a sinful thought. Maybe God provided me this way out? Im not sure."

Okay, what you should do then is take this to God in prayer daily, especially when you're tempted to touch. Cry out to Him and He will help you. He can squash the feelings that you can not. Trust me, I've been there too.

"Masturbation can also keep you away from committing fornication or adultery."

It satisfies the urge for sex, but only for a few hours. Most people touch because they can't fornicate and have all this pent up sexual energy. That still isn't a justification for it that God will accept. But that's just my opinion.

"After it is done it takes your sexual desire away for quite a while and therefore you won't be tempted to commit any of those sins."

Yes, but look at the results, they're not permanent when you touch. Only God can give you release from this, permanent release. I will be praying that God continues to grow you in holiness.
 
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As I see it. touching yourself is not a natural function.

touching yourself is something which is taught.

It is taught by folks who have also been taught, by folks whose have indulged in the sexual experience outside of the marriage bond. Thereby becoming obsessed with the desire to gratify such, no matter the cost.

The bible advises "it is better to marry than burn" So get married if you touch would be the scriptural injunction. Marry before you violate an innocent individual. Causing trauma and distress.

touching yourself is a sin, and 'marry' would be the biblical answer.

Scripture talks of some "neighing' like the stallion, after a neighbours wife. God forbid. Perish the thought, the great Apostle would say.

Such passion has to be controlled. Well this would be the biblical answer.
No one ever taught me how to touch... Is there a class somewhere???
 
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So when you sin, it's God who is causing you to sin?
No.

Of course you're going to be caught when you sin, that's what the law does, it brings about the knowledge of sin.
Not only does it bring about knowledge of sin, it arouses sin, and then it accuses and blames you. The devil was disarmed at the cross. His weapon? The law.

The accuser is satan. Jesus never accuses you. In fact, if someone blames you, he DEFENDS you and aquits you and covers you

The law is the ministry of death. And I have died. I was born a sinner, but I died, and I was born again as a child of God. I'm righteous. The bible specifically says that the law is NOT for the righteous.

When you sin, and I know you still do, you just keep going and turn a blind eye to it and convince yourself you didn't do it, because you now have Christ.
No, I don't. Why do you think I'm doing that?

Was that what Abraham did? He didn't have the law either. If he didn't, why should I?

Wrong, sin becomes evident.
The commandment is the power of sin. When the commandment came, sin sprang to life. When you impose the law on people, sin will thrive, because sin takes advantage of the commandment. Thus, the commandment, which IS good, turns out to bring DEATH.

That's what the law is Holo, a mirror that reveals who you truly are. It exposes your sin. The reason people don't want anything to do with the law is because it exposes them as sinners and they can't handle that revelation.
Yes, and it is FOR sinners. Not for righteous people.

Do not eat of that tree leaps to mind.
Yes, and so when you keep insisting that I eat of the tree of knowledge of good and evil, I'm going to keep turning you down.

So Adam and Eve were not righteous or perfect when God created them before they sinned against Him by violating His rule?
Yes they were. Why were they righteous? Because there were nobody to accuse them.

Eating from the forbidden tree made them self-conscious rather than God-conscious, so to speak.

Yes you will and the penalty for your sin will be set aside, because Christ paid that at the cross. You will also give a testimony to God of all your actions and thoughts.
And everything I did will be burned up. The things GOD did, will stand. Let's say you manage to keep part of the law. When you die, that won't be God's work. It will be yours. And your righteousness will be like filthy rags. And the law does insist that you achieve your own righteousness. But Christ said to seek GOD's righteousness. And God's righteousness was revealed apart from the law. God's righteousness is Christ.

And Christ is our righteousness. I have nothing to add to that righteousness.

Alot of the Mosaic law was given to Israel, but God's moral law is for everyone. It is how He declared all people are to live. It's His standard of what is acceptable behavior to Him. God is the same yeseterday, today and tomorrow. His moral standards do not change.
Maybe not, but WE do. We die and are born again. What was IMPOSSIBLE for the law, GOD DID. He has already done it. God has done it, and He has done it well. Why should I be fiddling with some other old futile way to do it all over?

How do you know?
Because the law has over 600 commandments.

"Abraham didn't need the law as a guide to anything. Why should I?"

Where's your proof of that? Where is your proof that Abraham didn't need the law?
Where is YOUR proof that he DID need the law? Pauls mentions it specifically - the law came several hundred years AFTER Abraham. Paul says Abraham didn't have the law. Do you think he would've been better off WITH the law? Did he lack anything, that the law would've provided?

Without rules, there is chaos.
There wasn't chaos in Eden. After they ate from the law tree, there was chaos though.

I need to know what is acceptable and pleasing behavior in God's sight so I can live according to His standard, not my own.
And you don't know that without the law? Come on, it's not like you're wondering if perhaps theft would actually be pleasing to God or not? Do you need to be told to stay faithful or not to murder people or worhsip other gods?

You are so hung up on seeing the law as a bunch of rules that you can't get past that.
The law IS a bunch of rules. That's sort of the definition of a law.

You will ask the person "what can I do for you?" That's natural. With the new nature, God gives us the desire to live a life that is pleasing for Him. He has given us His standard of what is appropriate and what is not, and you want to ignore that standard because you have been born-again.
No of course I don't. Jesus IS the standard. And a much better standard than the law, I might add.

You want only one gift from God and not the other.
Well yes, I'll rather have the ministry of life than the ministry of death.

He is an angry judge and He must uphold the law.
And He has upheld the law. Christ DID that. He took our place, and we got His.

The Bible is silent, therefore she must not have sinned again. Because if she had, surely the Bible would have told us. Isn't that how you think?
No.

Those are the people that receive grace. The ones who show they are sorry for what they have done.
No, no. Being sorry, and showing it, may be part of your conversion, but grace is GRACE - in other words free. It doesn't cost you a particular emotion or that you demonstrate that you feel like this and that. God knows your heart already. And He paid the price while you were still a sinner. It's not like He's first going to die for you before you were even born, and then start charging for it.

If a human judge has that kind of devotion to the law and what it demands, how much more devotion to the law must your Father in Heaven have?
Thankfully, God's devotion to US is greater than His devotion to the law.

There you go again, deciding which attributes God has more of, based upon what you like.
Well I can't say I don't like it, but that's irrelevant. My experience is that God has never judged me. Instead, He judged Christ. It's my experience, and it's also what the bible says. God is LOVE. Love is God's nature. He may HAVE justice, but He IS love. And all His anger was laid on Jesus.

God is only your Father in Heaven after you have been reconciled back to Him through Christ, not before.
True.

The punishment was laid upon Him for those who call upon His name to be saved. But if you don't repent you don't repent of your sins and show that you are sorry for your heinous crimes against God you will not receive
the gift of salvation.
The punishment for all the sin in the whole world was laid on Him. But only those who believe and accept His grace, receives it. He doesn't sell it, and He doesn't force it.

And it's about faith, not emotion.

So Jesus, who is God, then changed after the cross?
No, but we did.

Before the cross you had to pick up your cross and follow after Him, doing all He commanded, but after the cross, you don't?
Yes. In the old covenant, if you wanted to be righteous, you would have to live a perfect life. Nobody did, thogh, and God bore over with their sins and credited their faith as righteousness. On the cross, however, all sin was PAID for. The law had been fulfilled. No more need for it. The law has served it's purpose. It is old, it has been replaced.

Remember what James said, faith without works is dead.
Indeed.

But hey, you've got your "get out of hell free card", why should you have to do anything to please God, right?
Can you please God? Can you offer Him something He needs? Give Him something He didn't have? Can you, a man, make God say "well done"? And guided by the law, even?

God opened the heavens and said about Jesus that "This is my Son! With HIM I am well pleased!" - Jesus, a man who surpassed the demands of the law by miles! And are you hoping that you, by trying to observe the law, can please God?

There's a better way. There's a way that actually WILL please God. That way is Christ. Abide in Him. Rest from your efforts. The battle belongs to the Lord. Your victory is a GIFT. Stop trying to earn it.
 
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