is this weird?...

[Screamin'Eagle]

lately ive been struggling with coping of my sisters death...but she died before i was born of crib death. Is it weird that all of the sudden i feel saddness when i havent given it much thought before? and i didnt know her or ever get to see her...so how am i supposed to get over it? I just find it strange that i just started dealing with this even though ive known about it for like 9 years... any help is appreciated.


RIP Melissa April 24, 1976 - August 28, 1976

 

[Jynarik Slushy]

Of course it's not weird.
I knew a kid who's brother died 6 years before he was even born. He's 16 and still breaks down in tears over it.

She's your sister, its only normal for you to have feelings about her, even if you never actaully knew her.

 

[bonniea84]

Hi,

I have a pretty good idea of what you've been goin through. I had a brother who died as a baby that I never knew, but I often wonder what he would have been like. I belive he would have been about 35 by now.

I also lost a sister 22 years ago as a result of injuries from a car accident. She would have been 38, and I also wonder what she would have been like. She was the one all the boys loved. There are times I miss her so much, but for the most part I know she's without pain, and is not a vegetable.

Another thing I forgot to mention is that you'll be able to deal with this loss in time, but it never completely goes away I'm afraid, at least in my experience.

lately ive been struggling with coping of my sisters death...but she died before i was born of crib death. Is it weird that all of the sudden i feel saddness when i havent given it much thought before? and i didnt know her or ever get to see her...so how am i supposed to get over it? I just find it strange that i just started dealing with this even though ive known about it for like 9 years... any help is appreciated.


RIP Melissa April 24, 1976 - August 28, 1976

 

[darketernal]

It's very natural , that you have grief over the 'potential' things could have been. God has a meaning and a purpose for all of us, if a baby dies ,the soul of that baby returns to heaven, and then comes back to the mother to experience becoming consious with that materialistic life, this belongs with the cycle of the soul, it is the saying goodbye
to the third degree of cosmic life.

 

[GreenEyedLady]

It's very natural , that you have grief over the 'potential' things could have been. God has a meaning and a purpose for all of us, if a baby dies ,the soul of that baby returns to heaven, and then comes back to the mother to experience becoming consious with that materialistic life, this belongs with the cycle of the soul, it is the saying goodbye
to the third degree of cosmic life.

HUH?? say what?

To the OP.
It brings tears to my eyes that you feel pain from your sisters death. My son lost his twin sister when she was 12 months old. My oldest was 6 years old when she lost her only sister. I can see the anger building in here and comming out. The poor little things............What can I do but hold them, cry with them and pray with them.
GEL

 

[Chickie~Roo718]

I think what you are feeling is natural. My mother had three miscarriages in the three years after I was born. When I was four, she had my brother, who is autistic. (Even though he's on the mild end, he'll never be able to live and function on his own, and I always wonder what it would be like to have a "normal" brother.) Four years later, when I was eight, mom got pregnant again, this time with a seemingly healthy baby girl, and I was so excited at the idea of having another girl around. Well my baby sister April ended up being stillborn and it like to have killed me. I never got the chance to meet her and I can't wait to get to Heaven and see this little girl, but here in this life I will always miss the sister I never knew, and wonder what I've missed. It gets easier, one day at a time, but after 9 1/2 years, I have not forgotten and I doubt I ever will.