Eek, on youth night? It reminds me of things that happened during the Shepherding movement. People pressed others into open honesty and confession of sins, and raved about how healing it was to get their feelings out. But then as you can imagine, the exposure also damaged lives.
Often tears are about relief, not having to shoulder one's guilt and fear when sharing it with others. But confrontation, unless it is over a crime, can do a lot of damage and break the level of trust in the fellowship.
Some pastors have a very courteous practice: If they want to talk about someone else's problems, they ask the person for permission beforehand -- and accept the answer.
