Can you be grieving someone though they are still alive?
Im grieving my mum apart from other things.
She left when I was 2.
Im grieving my mum apart from other things.
She left when I was 2.
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You absolutely can. Grief can be felt over any number of situations, and not just for people who have died.
In my worst OCD moments, I have grieved my husband's death, and he is alive and healthy. I was grieving in anticipation of the time when he is gone.
I grieved my father when he was sick with colon cancer, well before he died.
I am right now grieving the loss of a friendship I held dear to me and is now gone for reasons not made clear to me. My friend is alive, but our friendship is not, and I grieve the loss of her in my life.
It's perfectly natural for you to grieve your mom, especially if you are needing a mom right now. You were cheated out of having a mother in times of need, and you are grieving that loss.
I'm sorry.
In my worst OCD moments, I have grieved my husband's death, and he is alive and healthy. I was grieving in anticipation of the time when he is gone.
I grieved my father when he was sick with colon cancer, well before he died.
I am right now grieving the loss of a friendship I held dear to me and is now gone for reasons not made clear to me. My friend is alive, but our friendship is not, and I grieve the loss of her in my life.
It's perfectly natural for you to grieve your mom, especially if you are needing a mom right now. You were cheated out of having a mother in times of need, and you are grieving that loss.
I'm sorry.
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Lovely Miss Jo,
I agree with the snooch-meister but of course we are friends.
My mom is mentally ill (bipolar) and refused to seek help, and in her manic moments she would beat us. My dad is an alcoholic who ran away from the mental illness and drank himself numb to not have to face it. And they are BOTH alive and I mourn!
I never had a mom who nurtured me. I never had a dad who loved me enough to defend me. I had these people who biologically donated materials and then just weren't there. And I mourn! When they die I do not know how I'll feel or if I'll even mourn then--maybe some--but I know that now, while I'm alive and so are they and they have missed out on so much of the good stuff that is me and my life...I mourn the loss.
So it's natural lovely Jo. What you are feeling I think is a normal feeling mourning the loss of what you wish you had.
I agree with the snooch-meister but of course we are friends.
My mom is mentally ill (bipolar) and refused to seek help, and in her manic moments she would beat us. My dad is an alcoholic who ran away from the mental illness and drank himself numb to not have to face it. And they are BOTH alive and I mourn!
I never had a mom who nurtured me. I never had a dad who loved me enough to defend me. I had these people who biologically donated materials and then just weren't there. And I mourn! When they die I do not know how I'll feel or if I'll even mourn then--maybe some--but I know that now, while I'm alive and so are they and they have missed out on so much of the good stuff that is me and my life...I mourn the loss.
So it's natural lovely Jo. What you are feeling I think is a normal feeling mourning the loss of what you wish you had.
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Yes you can grieve the loss of someone who still is alive. Especially with your Nan being gone. This year you need a maternal figure. It is ok to feel the loss of both these important women in your life.
I'm praying that the Lord reaches out in comfort for you.
I'm praying that the Lord reaches out in comfort for you.
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