Is this normal? Panic Attacks...Please Help!

[SimplyyJoyful]

What you said about his girlfriend lives next door to you....that is a huge trigger and there is definitely no closure, my friend. But most importantly....you said he threatened you? I think he is abusing of your good nature because you won't report this incident to the police or to his girlfriend!!!

You have two options:

A/ Report the crime to the police, even though the incident happened 4 years ago, they must still investigate. However this is your last resort....this will result in quite an earthquake.
Plus evidence will be very limited 4 years after

B/ Realise that what happened, happened to another person....you have become much stronger.....and much more mature since that episode.

My friend, I would suggest that you invest in your security though.

Whatever your decision, you must get closure....without closure.....you're going to be stuck in that moment.....move on friend.....move on....

Yes, his girlfriend lives next door with her family. Yes, he has recently threatened as well. He knows that I won't report it, we live in a small town, my father, uncle, and cousin are police officers in the town. We also have family members that work in the hospital. If I attempted to report it then everyone would have known, and that would of made things worse for me. It doesn't make me feel better that it's happened to others, because I wouldn't even want an enemy to experience what I have.


I hope that I do not sound rude, but moving on is a lot easier to say, but not as easy to do. I understand that your trying to help and I appreciate that, but I have realized the problem is that I keep trying to move on without dealing with the situation, and then I'm not moving on I am burying it deeper and I can't do that anymore

 

[nathanielb1984]

Yes, his girlfriend lives next door with her family. Yes, he has recently threatened as well. He knows that I won't report it, we live in a small town, my father, uncle, and cousin are police officers in the town. We also have family members that work in the hospital. If I attempted to report it then everyone would have known, and that would of made things worse for me. It doesn't make me feel better that it's happened to others, because I wouldn't even want an enemy to experience what I have.


I hope that I do not sound rude, but moving on is a lot easier to say, but not as easy to do. I understand that your trying to help and I appreciate that, but I have realized the problem is that I keep trying to move on without dealing with the situation, and then I'm not moving on I am burying it deeper and I can't do that anymore

You must be proud of your family forming such a part of the local law enforcement community.

My dear friend, you don't sound rude at all....you are hurt and angry....and I can understand what you are saying.....let me tell you my story just so that maybe you can relate.....In Dec 2008 I lost my God son....my favourite nephew.....16 months old.....then I went through a long period of depression and even alcoholism.....then I met a lady.....and she abused me in every possible way (except for sexually and physically).....spent two years with her.....and battled alcoholism again.....

At times I would curl up in a ball on the floor banging my head against the wall, had to take off from work, my brain just shut down....I knew that I had to fight back.....

What I did was that I realised & acknowledged the fact that everything that happened is a part of me.....and no-one/nothing can take it away.....BUT.....I came out victorious.....I am still here.....I am still fighting......it did not kill me.....it just made me stronger.....

Nowadays I feel much better.....I do get low days.....but not as much....

I hope that you can understand what I am saying here...
And I really and truly hope that you can find peace and happiness...

 

[SimplyyJoyful]

I am going to PM you....I believe my response would be better suited there