Is this morally Wrong

[Seeking...]

I would say her behavior is immoral, providing that these are stricly dating sites. I would also question how you "discovered" her deception. If you have both agreed to have a committed, monogamous relationship - then you need to have a serious discussion. Whether she has met or plans to meet these men is rather besides the point - she is seeking something outside of your relationship that she should be getting from you. You might want to think about whether or not she has expressed needs to you that you haven't addressed...

 

[carboncopy]

C'mon Soul talk to us, have you spoken to her yet or not, you can't get other peoples opinions then not update them on whats happened !!!!

 

[soulfulman]

Hi All,

As yet I have not spoken to her about it, I do not know whether to or not, If I do and she has been messing around then I don't know what I will do about it, cos I don't want to finish with her, I really do Love her that much. If it is totally harmless then she will be peed off with me for checking up on her and may well finish with me.

 

[Praying4Peace]

Hi All,

Just gaugin opinion on this, I have just discovered that my Girlfriend of 4 years is a member of 2 dating sites and has corresponded with other men on these sites, I do not know whether she has met up with them or not, She is unaware that I know about her membership, Should I actually challenge her about it???

I don't think it is your place to judge her morality...HOWEVER, you are in a relationship with her and have every right to ask that she choose either her correspondence with the other men or the relationship with you. Give her a chance to express her view and then make the right decision for you.

I believe you have found this out for a reason. Be thankful you found this out when you did...before you were married.

 

[listener]

I hate to say it , but; after four years and no real committment...c'mon, who're you fooling. I think you know you need to confront her....or she will be having that 'talk' with you about cherishing a 'deep' frienship with you while she is packing up to meet someone else. She is still looking for something more, and when she finds it, you will be caught n the emotional crosshairs.I honestly hope I am wrong and that she has just found some friends....but at this age.......

 

[IceJad]

Sorry to hear about it. I don't think it is morally correct. It is cheating to begin with. I really don't condone this kind of activity. If you say you're a BF/GF then you should not be dating others at all. Maybe I'm a bit traditional or conservative but to me its NO.

Ask her if she allows you to date other girls. If she says yes then your relationship will bring you nowhere already. Bring out the rubbish bin and call it off. It is better for you.

If she says no then confront her about her activity(gentle pls avoid heated arguement). If she says sorry and stops then it is up to you. If she is indenial or say it is none of your business then DUMP her. C'mon man don't stick and waste your time and life. I believe that there are a lot of ladies who would die to have a nice guy like you.

Having said that.... make sure that you're a nice guy to begin with ok

 

[carboncopy]

I hate to say it , but; after four years and no real committment...c'mon, who're you fooling. I think you know you need to confront her....or she will be having that 'talk' with you about cherishing a 'deep' frienship with you while she is packing up to meet someone else. She is still looking for something more, and when she finds it, you will be caught n the emotional crosshairs.I honestly hope I am wrong and that she has just found some friends....but at this age.......

Listener is so right Soul, you must talk to her sooner rather than later, I am a woman and I know why women join these sites !!!!

 

[iluvquotes]

maybe your not giving her enough attnetion

 

[soulfulman]

Sorry to hear about it. I don't think it is morally correct. It is cheating to begin with. I really don't condone this kind of activity. If you say you're a BF/GF then you should not be dating others at all. Maybe I'm a bit traditional or conservative but to me its NO.

Ask her if she allows you to date other girls. If she says yes then your relationship will bring you nowhere already. Bring out the rubbish bin and call it off. It is better for you.

If she says no then confront her about her activity(gentle pls avoid heated arguement). If she says sorry and stops then it is up to you. If she is indenial or say it is none of your business then DUMP her. C'mon man don't stick and waste your time and life. I believe that there are a lot of ladies who would die to have a nice guy like you.

Having said that.... make sure that you're a nice guy to begin with ok

Hi All

Thanks for your replies and advice, I will be seeing her tomorrow and it is time for me to find out the truth, I will be asking her about it in a calm non-confrontational manner and see what she has to say about it, once again i'd like to thank you all for your words

Soul

 

[longleg]

Hi All

Thanks for your replies and advice, I will be seeing her tomorrow and it is time for me to find out the truth, I will be asking her about it in a calm non-confrontational manner and see what she has to say about it, once again i'd like to thank you all for your words

Soul

Hi Soul

Just wanted to wish you good luck today, remember to keep calm and talk to her in a polite manner, that way she will not have any reason to be defensive, listen to what she says and make your decision on what she has to say to you

 

[betterthenyou]

Bah. She doesnt like you enough to stay with you and you alone. leave her. not that hard to do. Did you really have to ask?

 

[carboncopy]

Well Soul,



You gonna let us all know what happened when you spoke to her