Is this creepy?

[Antoninus Verus]

I was talking to a good friend about relationships and such and she brought up my girlfriend(For the purposes of this thread, we'll call her Anna). I am very devoted to her and my friend brought this up and she said that it was a little creepy. Especially after I said that I would be perfectly willing to die for Anna if it meant she would be safe or happy. So I got to wondering, is this creepy? Do women find it creepy when someone is that devoted to them?

 

[Bevlina]

I think it's beautiful to be devoted to a girl. It's a sign of deep love and commitment to a person. No way is it creepy!!

 

[crossrunner]

No. It sounds very Christian to me.

 

[LiberatedChick]

Definately not creepy at all. My husband had the same level of devotion to me and I had the same level of devotion to him when we were around your age and still gf/bf. As Bevlina said it's a sign of love and commitment.

 

[sinner/SAVED]

No. It sounds very Christian to me.

Absolutely!

 

[LovesOfMyLife]

I was talking to a good friend about relationships and such and she brought up my girlfriend(For the purposes of this thread, we'll call her Anna). I am very devoted to her and my friend brought this up and she said that it was a little creepy. Especially after I said that I would be perfectly willing to die for Anna if it meant she would be safe or happy. So I got to wondering, is this creepy? Do women find it creepy when someone is that devoted to them?

No it's not creepy at all!!!!! I think it's sweet. My dh is that devoted to me, and I to him.

 

[Disiance]

Jesus said that dieing for another is the highest form of friendship.

 

[Antoninus Verus]

Ok I was a little worried that that was kind of stalker-obsessive....ish mentality

 

[LovesOfMyLife]

Ok I was a little worried that that was kind of stalker-obsessive....ish mentality

If the girl did not return your feelings, THEN it might be considered stalker-ish! OR if it was someone you don't really know in real life...ie it was a celebrity! LOL

 

[Antoninus Verus]

**Laughs** No, we feel the same way about eachother and we've known eachother about 9 months, we've been dating for about 6 and a half of those 9

 

[`Lee]

**Laughs** No, we feel the same way about eachother and we've known eachother about 9 months, we've been dating for about 6 and a half of those 9

That's great. Without devotion, your relationship would fall apart. I've promised myself that when I find a girl, I'll show that same kind of devotion towards her.

The only way that I think devotion could be a bad thing, is when the devotion for your girlfriend becomes stronger than your devotion for God.
Congrats though, I hope you both enjoy a happy life together

God Bless

 

[Antoninus Verus]

Well shes non-religious, shes very much a scientist. But we get along, even though our faiths are way different.

 

[LovesOfMyLife]

**Laughs** No, we feel the same way about eachother and we've known eachother about 9 months, we've been dating for about 6 and a half of those 9

well then NO it's not creepy or stalker-ish at all!

I do have to warn you, it is difficult to be in a relationship with a non-Believer. You CAN do it but you can't expect them to change overnight. I wish the best for you and your girlfriend. May GOD bless your relationship!

 

[Antoninus Verus]

I dont expect her to convert to anything. If shes happy being non-religious, fine by me.

 

[TheMainException]

WHAT??? Dear brother of mine...I think the same way as you do...although on more accounts than I can count on mine hand I have been said to be a boy, or considered to be not really a girl...so I am not the best at this...but still....I am very devoted to my best friend...and he isn't someone I would date in if I lived forever and so did he...he is 35...so it just won't happen...but I would die for him in an instant. It wouldn't take much to put my life down in place of his. Whatever he needs I supply if I can. I would do ANYTHING for him (within reason of the Word in which I so wholly follow of course...but when it comes to things such as assisted suicide...I'm still shady on that...and I'm not sure what I would do...) But I really don't think that it's creepy at all.

 

[Izzy23]

I think it's wonderful to have such devotion as long as you don't make other people your gods. I've known a lot of people who are so dependant on members of the opposite sex they forget WHO should be the real ruler of their world.

 

[`Lee]

I dont expect her to convert to anything. If shes happy being non-religious, fine by me.

I'm happy to see you're both accepting of each other's faiths. Just be careful how accepting you become I pray that you'll be able to witness to her. Maybe some day she'll believe and follow God with all her heart. Just don't let her damage your beliefs.

 

[rel4x]

Jesus said that dieing for another is the highest form of friendship.

I just have to say, in no way could I help from laughing at the irony in that one...Good job

(Oh yeah, laughing at the irony, not at jesus dying)

 

[Tari]

I think it's sweet.

 

[Serapha]

I was talking to a good friend about relationships and such and she brought up my girlfriend(For the purposes of this thread, we'll call her Anna). I am very devoted to her and my friend brought this up and she said that it was a little creepy. Especially after I said that I would be perfectly willing to die for Anna if it meant she would be safe or happy. So I got to wondering, is this creepy? Do women find it creepy when someone is that devoted to them?

Hi there!




There are two types of people in life... men.. and then there's women.

Now, some people may disagree with me, and I rarely express my opinion without the fact to support it... but here goes.


Men are creatures created in the image of God. In that "likeness", men seem to have an inner desire to be praised and told told regularly that they are doing a great job at whatever they are doing.

It might be the most minute thing imaginable.

I might say to a complete stranger (man).... with enthusiasm of course, "Thank you so much for holding that door, I really appreciate it, I needed help"

And that man is in "seventh heaven" having been told that he was needed and appreciated (another form of praise). Men just need to be "stroked"...


but women are different creatures... inwardly, there always seems to be a need for security... women are naturally nurturers, and therefore, they need that nest to do naturally what God made them to be. That is all security... the nest in which to live, the nest in which to keep the family safe, the family structure that will keep all the little "chicks" safe in the nest. If you look closely at women... everything relates to "security"... Security in the home, security in the walking the streets safely, security in relationships.

Are you seeing the difference between what men seem to need (praise) and what women need (security)?

I would be perfectly willing to die for Anna if it meant she would be safe or happy.

that's security... and...

If the girl did not return your feelings, THEN it might be considered stalker-ish!

Yes... it is a relationship and a fellowship.


~serapha~