If you suspect that your wife or husband had cheated on you but you weren't able to catch them 'in the act' to prove it, would it be a biblical divorce if you divorced?
Just curious...
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Is this a valid reason for divorce?
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My understanding is that the physical act of adultery does constitute biblical grounds for divorce however that doesn't always mean divorce is the answer.
God hates divorce and has called us to love even when it is difficult.
"Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance." 1 Cor - 13:4-7
I myself am currently experiencing a situation where my wife is having an out in the open affair with another man while living in my home with our children. I've gone through a wide range of emotions and feelings as a result of this and I have every biblical justification for putting her away and delivering her to her fate, but Christ has called me to walk it out in true love.
It is not easy, but divorce should always be the last option and listening to God and doing what he says via his word and his spirit should always be the first.
God hates divorce and has called us to love even when it is difficult.
"Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance." 1 Cor - 13:4-7
I myself am currently experiencing a situation where my wife is having an out in the open affair with another man while living in my home with our children. I've gone through a wide range of emotions and feelings as a result of this and I have every biblical justification for putting her away and delivering her to her fate, but Christ has called me to walk it out in true love.
It is not easy, but divorce should always be the last option and listening to God and doing what he says via his word and his spirit should always be the first.
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ShainaBrina
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Putting away is the act of sending her away - not the act of divorce.
In Mal 2:16 the proper translation there is For God hates "putting away" it comes after God refuses to hear the prayers of the men because of their treacherous dealings with each other and the wives of their youth.
The men of Israel were putting away... tossing them out... their wives and taking younger models - leaving the wives without means of support or the ability to remarry as the were still married to their first husbands.
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oh dear, she still lives with you and has no problems continuing the affair..
hmmmm
well to be honest, that is a tough one, i suspect you are doing this impart to keep the kids with you under your roof. she is using you and sinning at the same time.. as soon as the time is right, you will come to a completely empty house..
a love relationship outside of the marriage is wrong, and should be treated with divorce.. a one nighter wont bother me so much as a love that is not me.. and as long as a one nighter doesnt happen again.... a love that is outside the marriage would rip me apart and totally destroy me...
in you case, ask her nicely to please stop the affair and to get counseliing to repair your marriage.. if she wont , you have your answer then dont you... pack her bags and leave them on the front porch and change the locks and call her up to fetch her bags and you will be packing the rest of her things and storing them in the garage, utnil an agreed date she can fetch them...
that would be my way of dealing with this..
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If you marriage is over, then you do not need a 'biblical reason' for divorce, you simply need to do it the right way. This involves making sure your heart isn't hard, you aren't in rebellion, and you do it legally. I think the verse where Jesus was asked if it is lawful to put one's spouse away is often misquoted and misused, it is talking about not divorcing your spouse just kicking them out.
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