Is this a sin?

[GodsNhilist]

My husband and I have a fondness for sexual aids (ex: cr, nc, ticklers, whips, handcuffs). Is there any reference in the bible that would indicate this to be sinful behaviour?

 

[DeaconDean]

I don't believe so. As long as you and your hubby don't let become a driving force in the bedroom. Sex is a healthy exchange of love between two commited people when used in the right way. The only concern I have is that sonner or later, this type of relationship might turn into lust. "Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin:" (Jas. 1:15) When we change the natural use of what God has given us, then we run the risk of changing it into something which it wasn't supposed to be. All I can say is to be careful, don't let this "playtime" grow to the point where it consumes you both.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

I'm sure you're interested in anything we would have to say to you.

 

[onlooker]

GodsNhilist,
I highly doubt if you'll find any reference to this in the Bible.
I have always felt that what a husband and wife do behind closed doors is their own business.
I do have concerns for such behavior though. I have posted somewhere in here that my wife does little fashion shows for me. I have a fetish for bra's and panties (women in them...not wearing them).
The problem with deviating from "normal" intercourse/intimacy, from a personal standpoint as well as from others I have heard from, is that soon it becomes too mundane. We become bored with it, and we start to search elsewhere for that sexual pleasure, or high. After time I became bored with my wife's "fashion shows". I statrted to visit sites on the internet, and soon spent most of my days on there looking for that "perfect picture". Granted, when I thought I had found it, Satan convinced me that there was something better out there, and continued the search.
We might start frequenting adult video bookstores, or pornsites on the net. Or engaging in sexually oriented chat with people in chat rooms. Anything that is obviously sinful.
Not saying it will happen. Just asking that you keep the thought in your mind. If you begin to start having thoughts of taking things to the "next level"....then seek help.
My 2 cents.

 

[Johnnz]

People bring fun and added excitement into their sexual relationship in a variey of ways. Provided your sex life continues to be an expression of real love for each other and not just 'legistimised sex', that may be your way of enhancing your relationship.

Jjohn
NZ

 

[GodsNhilist]

Thanks for your comments. My partner and I do keep our play in the bedroom between us only.
Although I personally don't have ethical problems with porn in general, we choose to abstain from it because we view it as a form of adultry. We do have erotic photos of each other and we consider that acceptable to view if one of us is not in the "mood".

 

[anonymousone]

I would agree with the post by Onlooker, as long as it doesn't bother either person and it doesn't deviate into other things such as looking on the internet for pornography or masturbation because they are not "satisfied" I don't see a real problem. I also can't think of any scriptural texts that pertain to this. God bless.

 

[Saucy]

That kind of stuff is not a sin, for the bible says that "the marriage bed is undefiled," but you're relationship all together is sinful. Marriage is between a man and woman only. God created us Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve. If you're worried about sin, then get a legal divorce, because you're only married legally. God would never have part in a homosexual marriage.