Is there something wrong with me?

[Zeruda]

I hear all the time about problems with heterosexuality, homosexuality, bisexuality.... but what about asexuality (meaning no interest in sex whatsoever)?

I'm 20 years old now, I have never had any interest in sex or anything sexual. Ever. Is it possible for those hormones to never develope? Maybe a hormonal imbalance? Or maybe it's some sort of mental problem?

I don't necessarily mean that I WANT to be sexually active, because I really have no interest. I'm just curious as to WHY I might be this way, and a little worried that something may be wrong with me. Does anybody know what to do in this type of situation?

 

[Peacelove]

I'm slightly asexual myself (there are different levels). It's not necessarily a problem; it's more about whether or not it concerns you or greatly affects your life. If it does, then it could be a problem. It's more likely to be hormone problems if you once felt sexual desire but no longer do; it sounds to me like you're fine, but you should ask a doctor.

 

[Murmur]

I am and have been Asexual for years. My husband knew about it when we first started dating, and I have other past baggage that makes it right for me.

I also found others that feel the same way I do:

http://www.asexuality.org/home/

I am called Caseless on their forums... and I hope you can figure out the right thing for you.

 

[Petunia]

I agree with peacelove.

If you're not planning on getting married, Zeruda.. just consider it a 'gift'. It's isn't really a big deal to not have overly active hormones. Some people's hormones really cause them trouble in living for the Lord! You're very young. Don't worry about it. Also, perhaps you just haven't met anyone you're attracted to. Some people are persnickety that way. Persnickety is good.

If you do meet someone and are planning to get married.. visit your doctor. He'll give you meds to put your hormones in fast forward.

 

[BelindaP]

I was pretty asexual too, until I met my husband. Life was much easier being asexual than it was dealing with the temptations before we got married. Perhaps God is helping you out here.

If you meet the right guy, are planning to get married, and still don't have any feelings along those lines, you might want to consider seeing a doctor. It never hurts to make sure that one's hormones are in balance.

 

[Johnnz]

Some asexual people really change when they marry someone they love. I suggest you have a talk with your doctor. Sex is important for most people, so if ever you were thinking about marriage you will need to be able to discuss this with your guy before you tie the knot. Some good information will guide your thinking.

John
NZ

 

[PeaceJoyLoveAndCoffee]

IMHO, nothing wrong, Ive always been a tad Asexual too. Like people have been saying, that may change when you meet the right person for you!

 

[gwdboi]

I hear all the time about problems with heterosexuality, homosexuality, bisexuality.... but what about asexuality (meaning no interest in sex whatsoever)?

I'm 20 years old now, I have never had any interest in sex or anything sexual. Ever. Is it possible for those hormones to never develope? Maybe a hormonal imbalance? Or maybe it's some sort of mental problem?

I don't necessarily mean that I WANT to be sexually active, because I really have no interest. I'm just curious as to WHY I might be this way, and a little worried that something may be wrong with me. Does anybody know what to do in this type of situation?

My dear, if you are in fact asexual then there's no problem with it and it's not a mental disorder; if you just aren't interested in sex... then that's that and it's okay.

 

[RMDY]

Wow! You are blessed!
You can focus all your mind on serving God without being tempted by the sins of sexuality! Praise the Lord.

God bless you!

 

[Lost_and_astray]

Yes, if you want to look on the bright side of things, you won't have to contend with the strong sexual temptation that others have to deal with (or at least not to the same extent). I myself struggle with homosexuality every single day and its a very painful struggle. Hardly an hour goes past in a day when I'm not reminded that I am constantly in this struggle.

I wouldn't worry about being asexual, but rather just pray on it if you're worried that theres something wrong.

 

[RGIngersoll]

Not to worry. Only you can put pressure on yourself. While your experience is in a small minority it is not something that you should get paranoid about. Always be honest with any person that might be a potential partner, and do so early in your relationship befor they might become close to you.

One last suggestion; consider visiting a sex therapist when you feel comfortable to check if there might be something in your past that is underlying your absence of desire. If there is something there (and I have zero idea) you want to discover this now and not whem you are 50.

Chin up and best to you.
RGI

 

[Caerulea]

I am fairly asexual myself, not completely, but I wouldn't mind never actually having sex... and yet, I do want to get married and have children, so I hope that if/when the time comes I will be able to enjoy it. If the time never comes, then I suppose it is a blessing.

 

[DarlaH]

You're not alone. I'm asexual, and consider it a blessing as I don't intend to marry or have children. The link Murmur provided is a good one for learning more.

 

[brachah]

i dont understand. i am opposite for most of the time. hehe. for whatever u are, bless G-d.