is there only one person for everyone

[myquestions]

do you believe that there is only one person in the world that we are truely meant to marry/love?

there's so many ppl in the world, and your lover that u marry, can't someone else in the world also be similar in personali etc even. and also can't u have the speical chemisty with them too.

so how do you knoe if they are the right one for u?

 

[Plecto]

You cant know. You marry by instinct and there is tons of people out there that could be the one for you. How many percentage of the world population do you really get to know? And still, most people get married.

 

[Merlin]

There are many people suitable for one to marry.

 

[austrianfoster]

my personal idea is that there are many people that you could marry, but only one that you will. the difference being devotion. when you select the one that will be your bride/groom, you are making the decision devote yourself entirely to them, and that is a decision that you can't make twice.

austrianfoster

 

[gwenmead]

No. There are plenty of people in the world you could love and/or marry, and be content - even quite happy - with.

I used to believe there was only One True Love(tm) out there for me. Then I grew up a little and realized that love is much larger than the limits we place on it. So I don't believe in The One(tm) anymore.

 

[Pseudonym]

I agree. There is no one set person who any specific person is able to fall in love with. There are many people whom you will meet throughout your life that will have the characteristics you are looking for. As for knowing who is the right one for you, you just do. It will smack you like a brick in the head when you find a person that fits you.

 

[JonF]

I think there are many people who would be compatible for a person to marry. But after getting close enough to a particular person anyone else wouldn’t be an option anymore.

 

[austrianfoster]

I think there are many people who would be compatible for a person to marry. But after getting close enough to a particular person anyone else wouldn’t be an option anymore.

interesting idea. that a past relationahip becomes the epitomy of relationships and nothing else can match it thus becomes inadequate. nice thaught.

 

[michabo]

do you believe that there is only one person in the world that we are truely meant to marry/love?

No, but I think there are many broad categories of people that we can love and marry. The trick is discovering what defines that group and then finding people in it

so how do you knoe if they are the right one for u?

Trial and error, with a bit of self-knowledge. Good luck, and remember: it's about the journey, not the destination.

 

[white dove]

do you believe that there is only one person in the world that we are truely meant to marry/love?

In short, no...but that's simply because I affirm that not everyone is intended to marry. Some people are just not cut out for it (or "called to it") whereas others are.

there's so many ppl in the world, and your lover that u marry, can't someone else in the world also be similar in personali etc even. and also can't u have the speical chemisty with them too.

Absolutely. Similar chemistry and personality, but certainly not a carbon-copy of another person (nor another relationship). But if you believe in God's will, you believe that no matter what, if you are intended to be with this person, God will make it happen. However, even a non-Christian once told me that people have a way of meeting up after so many years...people you wouldn't think would come back into your life. I guess it depends on how much of a romantic you are?

so how do you knoe if they are the right one for u?

I've asked this a billion times to "seasoned" vets and I get the same answer time and time again.


"You just do."

 

[Im_A]

I think there are many people who would be compatible for a person to marry. But after getting close enough to a particular person anyone else wouldn’t be an option anymore.

i agree with this here, even though i believe, once that closeness is shared, even the compatibility with other people is loss and if let's say divorce, death or whatever happens, one would need to change to become compatible again. but then again, i view soulmates in this premise as well on the level that, the soulmate is the person you fulfill your obligations and responsibilities to that your actions words put on you. to where the worry if the person you have is the "right" one, becomes non-existant, because you know the truth...the closeness shared, turn the compatibility with other people off, but in the end, maybe one can't really know in any evidence form, until the marriage vows are fulfilled...which that takes death to fulfill.

i say that because of examples that i have seen in my own life. of course it may not be absolute, but it's the closest thing i can use to understand this. my father is on his 5th wife, my mom has had two failed and still searching for a lasting relationship. the relationships they all had in marriage, either they did things wrong, or the other side did something wrong, and failure was the next thing choosen and with that, they are not the same person anymore. so that has heavily affected my views of relationships, and now i'm engaged. if people ask me if i believe she is my soulmate, i say yes, but not in the mentality that people may expect. i only say that because of how much i have changed in the past year and a half, and i say that based on what i know i'm willing to do for her, and i know it will never change, because this is what i want to do for her...as well as her being the same towards me.

my views may be very biased, but it's what i see from my own upbringing. i think upbringing dictates the views of this issue to say the least.

but good post

 

[JoshuaNicholson]

These replys are right in that they say there isn't just one but as far as finding a mate they lack biblical principals that God Gives us. Firstly we are to follow His moral will. Not being unequally yoked with one another. Next we should use wisdom. Meaning if you don't want to marry a nagging or otherwise unpleasant person then use wisdom and don't! Next figure out what your desires are because God provides desires in us. Desires that we need to use both His moral will and wisdom to discern from. Then we should always remover His sovereignty. Those are the steps for finding a wife. It's really up to you using the Guidelines God gives us in His word.

 

[Eudaimonist]

do you believe that there is only one person in the world that we are truely meant to marry/love?

I certainly hope not! It would be far too easy to never meet that person. What if that person lives in the other hemisphere?

But I think that this idea is just a myth. There are probably millions of reasonably compatible people to be with in the world.

so how do you knoe if they are the right one for u?

You don't. You simply try to hit as close to the target as you can and then hope it works out.


eudaimonia,

Mark

 

[Upisoft]

do you believe that there is only one person in the world that we are truely meant to marry/love?

there's so many ppl in the world, and your lover that u marry, can't someone else in the world also be similar in personali etc even. and also can't u have the speical chemisty with them too.

so how do you knoe if they are the right one for u?

No. I'm born in a country with 7 million people. That is only 0.1% of all people on Earth. Still we with my wife are happily married and share unbreakable connection for the past 20 years. And the bond grows stronger with time.

So, I guess, based on my observations on other people around me, the chance if you pick someone on random will be 10%-30% you will be lucky. Though we don't pick at random.

 

[Gadarene]

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