Is There No Way Out?

[Fallior]

Stepdad came home today screaming at my mom, as well as talking bad about me (like always). Immediately I start shaking of course and can't calm down until it's over.
Basically he's upset that I don't work. I've tried working with him 5 different times now and it always ends horribly with him screaming at both myself and my mom because ONE thing goes wrong, or I get sick (from anxiety) or something like that. And the same goes for driving.
Today I heard him say that I am not ALLOWED to get a job anywhere else and help "other businesses" instead of him. He said that if I tried, I would not be allowed to use the 2nd car, and neither would my mom be allowed to use that car for anything.
So basically, I'm going to be forced into an extremely triggering and impossible to deal with environment because there's no other choice and have both myself and my mom constantly screamed at on a frequent basis because I can't do it right or can't get through a full day.
Worst part is, we have NO other choice. He took bank loans and credit cards out on her name and maxed them all out, so we are about $50,000 in debt. He brought us to a different state so there are no family or friends anywhere around us, and the little family we do have back in our home state wouldn't be able to help anyway.
What the heck do we do? How can anyone be allowed to control 2 full adults like this without a way out? And none of the support places can help us. I seriously feel like this will either give me a heart attack or a mental breakdown. And since he doesn't believe mental illness is a real thing, he just assumes I'm lazy and don't want to do the work and then blames my disabled mom for it.

 

[Tigger45]

God's blessing over your whole household

 

[LaSorcia]

His behaviour towards you and your mom is controlling and abusive. No wonder you feel anxiety! I pray for strength and comfort for you and your mom. I also pray he gets the help he needs and stops acting abusive.

 

[faroukfarouk]

Stepdad came home today screaming at my mom, as well as talking bad about me (like always). Immediately I start shaking of course and can't calm down until it's over.
Basically he's upset that I don't work. I've tried working with him 5 different times now and it always ends horribly with him screaming at both myself and my mom because ONE thing goes wrong, or I get sick (from anxiety) or something like that. And the same goes for driving.
Today I heard him say that I am not ALLOWED to get a job anywhere else and help "other businesses" instead of him. He said that if I tried, I would not be allowed to use the 2nd car, and neither would my mom be allowed to use that car for anything.
So basically, I'm going to be forced into an extremely triggering and impossible to deal with environment because there's no other choice and have both myself and my mom constantly screamed at on a frequent basis because I can't do it right or can't get through a full day.
Worst part is, we have NO other choice. He took bank loans and credit cards out on her name and maxed them all out, so we are about $50,000 in debt. He brought us to a different state so there are no family or friends anywhere around us, and the little family we do have back in our home state wouldn't be able to help anyway.
What the heck do we do? How can anyone be allowed to control 2 full adults like this without a way out? And none of the support places can help us. I seriously feel like this will either give me a heart attack or a mental breakdown. And since he doesn't believe mental illness is a real thing, he just assumes I'm lazy and don't want to do the work and then blames my disabled mom for it.

Hi; sorry about your circumstances; as well as your private Scripture reading and prayer, do you guys collectively read the Bible and pray?

Another practical thing; if you are over 18, you do have other options in terms of not having to live there permanently; although I can understand you would want to be of moral support to your mom.

 

[Poppyseed78]

There are organizations that can help. If you're in the US, a legal aid organization can provide legal assistance for free. That might be useful on the credit card/debt front. A domestic violence shelter could also be helpful.

You and your mom don't have to live like this. Since you are an adult, is it possible for you to move out? He cannot force you to live there against your will. If you have no money, that could definitely make it tricky...but it can be done.

Does your mom want to leave him? If she does, then I would strongly recommend looking up legal aid and shelters in your area. What your stepdad is doing could possibly be qualified as a crime (I'm not sure), but your mother would have to press charges. Abuse of women who are disabled is common, and there is legal protection for people going through that.

I pray that your and your mom's situation improves. Stay safe.

 

[LastAcorn99]

I’m so sorry about your situation. Please know that I’m praying for you and your mom, asking God to surround you with His loving presence and protect you. May He grant you wisdom as to how you should deal with your circumstances. If you can, i would suggest that you seek the help of a counselor soon. Blessings!

 

[rob_aston]

Stepdad came home today

ok buddie, i hear u...

 

[Linus]

I'm sorry that you and your mother are hurting!

Lifting you up in prayer to our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. Thank You Lord!

 

[rockytopva]

Father I pray blessings on this request and help in these family matters in Jesus name I pray. Also taking these needs before God in prayer on the 1:15PM bbnradio.org Family Altar program.

 

[brinny]

i'm soooooooo sorry (((praying)))

 

[freezerman2000]

Praying for all involved..

 

[CrystalDragon]

Is there some sort of place you can call that can take people out of abusive situations? You and your mom need to get out of there pronto. Prayer helps in well-wishes but it generally doesn't get you out of the situation on its own. You need to take some sort of action as well. Either get a counselor, move out, report your stepdad for abuse, or all of the above.

 

[tturt]

praying, too.

 

[hypostatic]

Praying.

 

[rockytopva]

Father I pray blessings on this request and upon this home in Jesus name I pray. Also taking these needs before God in prayer on the 1:15PM bbnradio.org Family Altar program.