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I am a 39 year old male, raised in a Christian home and became a Christian at age 8. I've been married for nearly 20 years and have 3 great sons.

I'm pretty active in my local church where a lot of people respect me. I have a very rewarding career, and by just about every measure, my life would seem nearly perfect. Except I live with depression.

No one really knows that I struggle with depression. My wife probably recognizes the symptoms from when I had a severe bout with depression when I was younger, but I have not talked with her about it recently.

What's wrong with me? Why can't I be happy?

I've been through all the 'inner healing' stuff, and though there is certainly garbage in my past, I'm a grown man and I believe all that stuff is behind me. Still my heart aches, and I feel lonely.

I'm at the place where I have to say that I'm not going to get the kind of ciompanionship and affirmation from my wife that I think I need. After 20 years neither of us is able to change to accomodate the other any more than we already have. Is this a good realization on my part? Something that I need to get over before I can move on?

Why would God make me like this? The external circumstances of my life are so good. Yet I feel so bad.

What am I missing?
 
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:hug: istherehope, God bless you! i want to share advice in the form of sharing my struggles with you. i'm bipolar-scitzophrenic. i grew up with everyone trying to heal me, and with the thinking that if i only had faith enough, or was good enough, God would indeed heal me. actually, though, the Holy Spirit taught me to be content with my thorn. and now, it is a huge blessing. to me and other's i witness too. the bible has scriptures that show us how to manage life. it turns out that these scriptures keep me focused and help me manage. here is a testemony and real inspiration:

http://www1.christianforums.com/t2542804-bipolar-healling-is-the-cross.html

Dear Father we lift up istherehope to you to be blessed. Father please re-new his heart and direct his paths. please bless him and his family and help him with fellowship that can be of good encouragement to him. Father, please give him joy and fill his cup to spiritual growth. in Jesus' name, amen.
 
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As i have found that there is usually something in my past that I have not dealt with. Since you are a Christian may I suggest a 12 step program. There are a lot out there and you may find talking to people that are going through similar situations will help you find the peace and serenity you are looking for. I have been through and still going to a 12 step program and have found it has settled a lot of my fears and depression. It has also strengthened my faith twofold.:thumbsup:

May God give you the guidance and strength to go forward in life and ministry.:prayer:
 
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