Is there any scripture that explains why women like men that mistreats them ?

[QuestionQuest74]

Most women are repelled by guys that treat them really well even some so called Godly women. I was wondering if there is any Biblical scripture that explains why ?

 

[AlexB23]

Most women are repelled by guys that treat them really well even some so called Godly women. I was wondering if there is any Biblical scripture that explains why ?

Not as far as I can tell. This is more of a human psychology question, not a Biblical question. But hey, always treat women (people in general) with the upmost respect.

*I used an AI to search Biblical phrases in relation to your question, and it said there is no scripture about women being repelled by overly nice guys.

 

[bèlla]

Why do you believe this? Is your opinion based on a personal experience or ideals promoted in society or the Internet?

There is no scripture that corroborates that statement which compels another question. How much time do you spend in the word? There's a consistent pattern throughout the bible of God's expectations for human connections. Loving one's neighbor is continually expressed and we're given numerous examples for our edification.

The mind is like a tennis match. You were served a lie about the opposite sex and lacked the volley (truth) to refute it. The only way that's possible is more time in prayer and study. Theology aside, it's such a heinous suggestion your rational mind should have contested it. Which suggests you've nurtured similar ideas or provided an atmosphere where contemplation is permitted.

The correlation is all men are dogs. An obvious untruth made equally evident by Christ's indwelling. All men don't behave as dogs because not all walk in darkness or conduct themselves unbecomingly. See the difference?

~bella

 

[Citanul]

Most women?

 

[timewerx]

Not as far as I can tell. This is more of a human psychology question, not a Biblical question. But hey, always treat women (people in general) with the upmost respect.

*I used an AI to search Biblical phrases in relation to your question, and it said there is no scripture about women being repelled by overly nice guys.

There's actually quite a few Biblical teachings related to @QuestionQuest74 question.

If OP's so-called "Godly woman" turns to be actually Godly, she will be able to discern good from evil (Hebrews 5:14).

If a man is much nicer to her than other people, she might discern the behavior as favoritism/partiality or even idolatrous/injustice. We should try our best to show love even to people who are unable to meet our needs and desires and also to people who are unable to return the favor given to them (Luke 14:12-13)

She will then avoid being accessory to his sin of partiality/favoritism, injustice, and idolatry towards her by avoiding him (repelled by his sinful behavior and the need to avoid becoming accessory to his sin). We should try our best not to become the temptation for others to sin (Luke 17:1)

 

[AlexB23]

There's actually quite a few Biblical teachings related to @QuestionQuest74 question.

If OP's so-called "Godly woman" turns to be actually Godly, she will be able to discern good from evil (Hebrews 5:14).

If a man is much nicer to her than other people, she might discern the behavior as favoritism/partiality or even idolatrous/injustice. We should try our best to show love even to people who are unable to meet our needs and desires and also to people who are unable to return the favor given to them (Luke 14:12-13)

She will then avoid being accessory to his sin of partiality/favoritism, injustice, and idolatry towards her by avoiding him (repelled by his sinful behavior and the need to avoid becoming accessory to his sin). We should try our best not to become the temptation for others to sin (Luke 17:1)

Agreed.

 

[OnceLostButNowFound]

It's not that most women are repelled by men who treat them right.

It's that many *people* have been treated poorly when they were young and when someone else treats them kindly, it puts them in an uncomfortable position, because the narrative in their head says that they shouldn't be receiving that kind of treatment.

This is part of the reason why so many people have a hard time fully accepting God's love, even if they're saved.

 

[Carrilynn]

Broken women or women with insecurities tend to gravitate towards situations that keep them broken, it sometimes can be more of a mental health issue, insecurity issues, or an inability to discern control from real love.

There was someone I knew who finally gave up on a bad relationship, they returned home and reunited with a good relationship.
The good relationship won and they got married, but the bad previous relationships tainted the marriage in the beginning.
With time passing God has been working, things are going much better and hearts and lifestyles are healing. We have to understand that God is a God of forgiveness, and Jesus is the righteousness many of us have lost, but His Love Covers A Multitude of Sins (Peter 4:8)


If it's not a mental health issue, I think some bible verses about why women might be with men who don't treat them as well as a gentlemen should, could be based on ideas of men are supposed to be dominant and some christian women want to respect that by holding to a submissive role (there are lots of bible verses about women and submissive roles).

I don't know the exact verses that paint the images of men are dominant and women should be submissive, but you can do bible searches for them. It is good for women to be submissive, but don't get pulled into thinking mistreating a woman is godly. Just because a woman is to be submissive doesn't mean a man is to act with a harmful dominance. He can still be dominant but also retain gentleness and patience. There are bible verses about how men were made to be leaders, providers, or protectors, while women were made to be helpers. For as much as we can search for women to be submissive, we can search about bible verses for men to demonstrate love.

There are other religions that say a woman should be corrected with a rod, or her status to a man is comparable to an animal, but those teachings do not hold to God's teachings of how mankind should act with love towards one another. In Genesis Woman was made from a rib of Man, and is still a creation in The Image of God. She is to be taken care of and cherished as a gift from God to man, a gift so that man wouldn't be alone. How does a God honoring man treat a gift God has given him? If the woman has wronged the man, then we need to search bible verses of forgiveness.

The bible tells us about the fruits of the Holy Spirit, if a man is to be like Christ, then they should demonstrate the fruits of the Holy Spirit to all life, including their wives. Patience, kindness, gentleness, self-control, etc. Galatians 5:22-23.

 

[timewerx]

I think on average, women simply "gravitate" towards "10/10 men". Men who are good looking, physically fit, have excellent social skills, and in lucrative careers/rich.

Ironically those circumstances gives these men plenty of relationship opportunities. Women would be flocking to them all the time even if they're in a relationship. These men face tons of temptations. Tons of chances they'll encounter someone more interesting than the one they're in a relationship with so they might end up losing interest with their partner and stop treating them nice.

Their circumstances can also teach these men not to spend a lot of effort being nice to their partners. Either because these men can easily find someone to replace their partner if she breaks up with him for behaving badly OR she will stick with him even he treats her badly because he's a "10/10 man".

I'm not saying all "10/10 men" are bad. They simply have more "power" over women and power can corrupt. Yet, not everyone is corrupted by power.

Another cause are women who are easily manipulated gets entrapped by men who are keen on manipulating other people. Or perhaps, women could be attracted to men who are keen on psychological manipulation (often used abusively) because it can be seen as a leadership trait.

 

[Godcrazy]

Stop reading Tate or chauvinistic teachings. The idea that women like domineering men is hogwash! At least for HEALTHY women. HEALTHY MEN do NOT participate in those games either. The bible say BOTH should submit to each other,and go forward in showing kindness and all the rest and that a man that loves his wife treats her with respect and would never mistreat her or be domineering. The whole leadership thing is about taking responsibility and protect, not domineering. I e taking care of. the bible also talk about love the other like your own flesh. that say it all. you do not take anything you earn it!
as well, we have to put the bible into context what society and time.

 

[Godcrazy]

Those who are drawn to bad apples? It is very much about what the patterns are they have been brought up with, if they have been abused their subconscious is wired to seek out bad apples they also do NOT RECOGNISE bad apples because they have not been taught anything and they do not know what who a good person look like they do not know about hidden red flags either plus their own inner alarm system is non existent or badly functioning, plus many do not know what boundaries are. Along comes the predator who is trained like a soldier to spot those people. BUT while everyone things they are immune, wrong, any weakness, problem they spot it so beware

 

[DragonFox91]

There is a verse that notes 'why does it seem the wicked sprout like weeds?'
OP isn't completely wrong. It often seems like wickedness is winning & a generations rises up wicked

But the Bible says we are all wicked. It also defines wickedness as rejecting God & his order. It doesn't say the woman is wicked, or the man is wicked, but Adam's kind, & since we are all Adam's kind, we are all included in that.

 

[Sir Robbins]

Most women are repelled by guys that treat them really well even some so called Godly women. I was wondering if there is any Biblical scripture that explains why ?

this can be due to the effects of birth control too... It has been addressed that birth control pills alter the biological chemistry of women where they find certain types of men more attractive than others and oddly, if they marry and decide to have kids, they stop taking birth control and countless therapists have told me the women lose attraction to the man when they get off the pill... it could be a hidden factor in today's mate market.

 

[bèlla]

The internet is an echo chamber and many repeat what they hear without listening to what is said. Whether we like it or not most of the world is average. In looks, intelligence, lifestyle, etc. That’s why it’s easy to relate with strangers in this space because we have a lot in common. The average person isn’t a 10, wealthy or living a glamorous life. Only a sliver of society is in that camp. And just because you have one quality in the bunch doesn’t mean you have the rest.

Most wealthy men aren’t a 10. They’re average looking guys with the means to make themselves visually appealing. And most attractive women don’t have significant resources nor are they married to men who do. Once you reach a certain threshold what you see is the result of upkeep. It isn’t a room full of models. The majority don’t earn their income through avenues that place a heavy emphasis on appearance.

Internet personalities aren’t the spokesmen for all. Their messages are tailored for people who want to be like them and have their lifestyle. Sometimes they’re flashy or playboys or do other things to get attention. They have a celebrity or new money mindset which differs from the rest.

Legacy minded individuals are less impressed by the things you’re touting. They’re looking for longevity and to strengthen their progeny. Most of the people with generational wealth fall in this group. They’re more likely to marry successful women or those with a similar background not a ‘hot chick’.

If you walk down the street you’ll encounter the same. And if you look beyond public figures you’ll see it too. Sometimes you have to get outside and touch grass. This isn’t real.

~bella