Someone I know is going through marital issues. Their spiritual father and parish priest both concluded one spouse needs psychiatric help but they feel it would be inflammatory to bring this up to the spouse so the individual does not appear like he/she will be recommended to get help for some time. The problem is lasting for years at this point. Obviously the other spouse and their child suffer.
On that note, the other spouse was given the advice from the priest along the lines of "if you are really bold/faithful, be like Christ and bear your spouse's burden and pray to God that He would give you the burden of your spouse's mental illness in order to free your spouse." This is not an exaggeration.
Now, what is the worthiness of this advice? In the lives of the saints there are examples of a desert father or whatever willing to bear the penalty of someone else's sin. However, is this unrealistic for family people living in the world? Is it responsible to even be giving this response unless the priest would pray that his own family and spouse suffer all the problems in order to liberate the family whom he is counseling?
I ask this question because it seems that in Orthodoxy, the life advice given is so idealistic and impracticable that it is no wonder people aren't going to confession. The priests are being filled up with what may be good doctrine at seminary but not being taught any sort of practical discernment. So obviously this is my feeling on it.
On that note, the other spouse was given the advice from the priest along the lines of "if you are really bold/faithful, be like Christ and bear your spouse's burden and pray to God that He would give you the burden of your spouse's mental illness in order to free your spouse." This is not an exaggeration.
Now, what is the worthiness of this advice? In the lives of the saints there are examples of a desert father or whatever willing to bear the penalty of someone else's sin. However, is this unrealistic for family people living in the world? Is it responsible to even be giving this response unless the priest would pray that his own family and spouse suffer all the problems in order to liberate the family whom he is counseling?
I ask this question because it seems that in Orthodoxy, the life advice given is so idealistic and impracticable that it is no wonder people aren't going to confession. The priests are being filled up with what may be good doctrine at seminary but not being taught any sort of practical discernment. So obviously this is my feeling on it.