Is rape considered losing your virginity?

[ascribe2thelord]

Yes, ChrissyLovesJesus, I would count you a virgin too. I think what really matters about virginity is what you consider yourself, and since you've said you tell other people that you feel that you are still a virgin, guess what ...

YOU ARE!!!

If I was a guy on a date with you ... if I was still your age, that is ... and you told me that you had been sexually assaulted, but you said you still consider yourself to be a virgin, I would go along with that. What matters is that I love you (still in this scenario), and you love me.

Look for a therapist who might be able to help you cope with the memory of him. Some women who have been sexually assaulted have a condition known as frigidity ... probably best if you talk to a female about that though. I'm sure you'll want your relationship with your future husband to be satisfying sexually and emotionally ... that's why it's important to find a therapist.

Probably a good place to start would be a local college. I know my university has a whole department set up to help girls who have been sexual assaulted.

One last thing. Don't call it rape. Rape (which means to take something) is a chauvanist term. Say sexually assaulted. From your side, that guy didn't take anything from you because to you, it involved no real intimacy. Intimacy is what matters ... and it's what you'll be giving to your husband on your wedding night. Undamaged.

 

[LilRitt04]

I dont think you should be obligated to tell anyone. It is 'yes' your business and something that can be kept sacred. So long as the person that did that to you has been put to punishment. Your parents however should know about it only because they are your parents and they can help you through this.

As far as you being a virgin if you get technical with it he is in you...so you techincally had sex which means you are not a virgin. But if that were me I would look at it as it was against my will and I would consider myself a virgin....After all you were 5. So I think that you are a virgin...Best of luck to you!

God Bless

 

[ascribe2thelord]

LilRitt04, it's quite unnecessary to remind her of the experience ... part of your post (I'm not going to quote it) ... I can see how it might not be good for her to read that.

 

[StAnselm]

...and Jesus loves Chrissy, too.

 

[vinc]

You are a Virgin Chrissy. You may inform others if you are led by the Divine Spirit to do so. There is nothing to be ashamed of. It was not your fault (bcoz you were not willingly involved) and its more like an "accident" in which one gets hurt. The person who raped you has committed a sin and needs to repent before Christ for his salvation. Just My Opinion.

Lord Bless
Vincent

 

[p_kitha]

Yes you are still a virgin remember that to not be a virgin implies the desire of you to have sexual contact not the obligation because you were just a baby and din't wanted to do that. You are not obligated to tell other people if you don't feel confortable by telling them what happend to you. That's private that was something that happend to you which you decide who to tell and who not to tell that is your decisition. So remember you are still a virgin and you have no obligation to tell anyone you don't want to tell.

 

[Les Grands Pieds]

I was raped when I was 5 years old and when people ask me if I'm a virgin I say I am... is this correct? Also, should I feel obliged to tell people about what happened to me... because I've not even told my parents...

From the physical aspect, no you're not physically a virgin.
From the spiritual aspect, you are a virgin.
From my aspect, you are a virgin.
From God's aspect, you're a virgin.
If the person who did this is doing this to other girls, then yes, you need to tell somebody.

 

[vinki]

Thinking of you. Hope all is well!
My prayer.
Vinki