Is ok to ignore people?

[Goodbook]

I think i learned...not to pick up on the 'woe is me' sob stories.

This makes me wonder if Im putting up boundaries and whether they good or bad.

Ive had some ppl give me advice like...cant you see this woman is lost? Give her the love of Christ! But..couldnt someone else show her? Why does it have to be me??? If I engage, it is exhausting for me.

I feel like Im a recovering co dependeant who feels tempted to rescue people all over again. Even if they dont want to be and then hurt you for reaching out.

 

[jsimms615]

depends on who is venting to me and the situation. I might just ask them "Why are you telling me this?" or
"What do you want me to do about it?" or just ignore them if I just don't care that much

 

[Goodbook]

I know. Sometimes I think maybe they telling me this cos Im a writer, and that one day Im going to write it all down in a big book labelled 'sob stories' and it will be published so everyone can read it.

 

[Goodbook]

Of course, like all good writers, I will make it a cautionary tale and include morals in it.

 

[DiscipleHeLovesToo]

people love to talk about themselves, and they love it when other people show them concern, so they have a natural tendency to complain (you and i are both people btw ). so the way i try to remember to react is to state a positive that will minimize the 'gravity' of their complaint. for example, if they say 'i have a terrible cold', i might say 'then stop having it; you've had colds before, so you know you'll get over it; don't focus on it'. if they complain about a relative, i remind them how great it is that they are not an orphan. if they complain about a co-worker, i remind them that if they were unemployed, it would be worse than having to put up with someone at their job. you gotta spend this carefully mind you, because sometimes the person who's complaining may be dealing with a grievous burden, and the 'little things' they complain about may seem to them to be 'the straw that breaks the camel's back'. either way, you need to shut down the negative talk or find an excuse to walk away, because it will affect your thinking over time. first, seek God to see if He wants to minister to them through you; if He does, He'll give you the words to say when you need to say them

 

[janny108]

I think i learned...not to pick up on the 'woe is me' sob stories.

This makes me wonder if Im putting up boundaries and whether they good or bad.

Ive had some ppl give me advice like...cant you see this woman is lost? Give her the love of Christ! But..couldnt someone else show her? Why does it have to be me??? If I engage, it is exhausting for me.

I feel like Im a recovering co dependeant who feels tempted to rescue people all over again. Even if they dont want to be and then hurt you for reaching out.

you can't be there and rescue people that's God's job and He has a million ways to save. If you are indeed recovering co dependent, I've been there and know lots of people who currently ARE there or show signs of it. Let the Lord give you peace and direct your paths.