is my pastor wrong?

[GloryBe!]

If I were in the OP's shoes, I would leave the church. I would make it clear that he was the reason, as well as the other issues in the church.

The thing that strikes me is that the pastor is belittling the deacons in full view of the congregation. Now, has he gone with Scriptures FIRST, by taking them aside privately, then, in the presence of two or three witnesses before his public statements? If he isn't, then he ISN'T following God's Word.
The new testament clearly states how leaders should react to sin go the body of believers.

That pastor sounds like a career clergyman, not a Spirit filled teacher.

 

[Avniel]

I think a lot of the time it is easier to see others in scriptures vs seeing ourselves. As far as public disapproval of actions of the deacons I find that a bit tactless. However in the issue of talking to people about their individuals sins I think he can be right.

An example is me and my wife lived together for 6 months before we were married. We did this to save money, and while there was a big uproar at her church....They didn't even know the situation that was taking place and the funny thing is the first time we had sex we were married.

Another example is I had a conversation with an elder in church about smoking weed. I feel that weed is not wrong I feel that is not drug I don't think it alters ones sense of....However I don't smoke weed because I live in a country that weed is illegal and I am to obey the laws of the land....But our conversation wasn't on why I don't smoke weed it was on is smoking weed a sin................so you know the next thing someone came up and told me I need to go to rehab and I was a drug addicted sinner.....blah blah blah. I kindly told them I don't smoke weed, well that's not what brother so and so said.

Let's say I just don't go to that church any more. I spoke to the pastor of my new church about everything my reasons for leaving that particular church. And he gave me some great wisdom he said until you and another person have shared a conversation about say a guy being abusive then you take that sin to him. But if someones wife has a broken arm don't go up to them speaking on abuse because that's what you think is going on.

 

[kw1276]

Well honestly there is no question about wether the deacon is sleeping with the woman because they have 3 kids together

 

[Avniel]

Well honestly there is no question about wether the deacon is sleeping with the woman because they have 3 kids together

They could have gotten married at a court house but thats their business if they did. Point is you dont know his situation.

 

[LOCO]

Why are there separate Baptist Churches for blacks and whites in 2011?

If I was in your situation I would consider holding events (fair, Bible studies, picnic etc) where you invite other Baptist Churches in your county/area not those an hour away.

Make it a regular event, part of the Church calendar.

Sounds like you are active in the Church, if you are part of the Womens Group maybe you could make the suggestion there and bring it to the Pastors attention that way.

Sometimes with men, they just feel the need to be in control, if you approach him to make the final decision he may feel like he is in charge and consulted and be quite happy for it to happen.


Pray for him.

Maybe the thought never crossed his mind.
Maybe he has other responsibilities.
It is an enormous responsibility taking care of a parish with different personalities, financial and administrative issues.


Blessings