Is my intention wrong? Please help! :'(

[yoaniah]

Dear all,

Firstly, I would like to thank for your concern and click to see my post. It would be appreciate if you leave an advice for me. I just think God is telling me to do so ----- Post a thread and listen to what other says. By the way, I'm from a cosmopolitan city in Asia where has a very high competitiveness, it would be easy for all of you to understand my following situation.

Well, my situation is complicated: I'm going to apply for entering university and facing exams next year (from March to May). I temporarily have a several choices and they're "English", "Translation" and "Geography and Resource Management".

But my first concern is that, recently I've failed in some tests at school but I had a pretty well performance on my studies before. I know that I can improve that. But, really, I'm SOOOOOO terrified that "I can't do that." I barely lost my confidence on everything because everybody around me seem like "hard-working". Some of my classmates are so lucky to have out-standing academic results while they didn't study at me. But me? I have studied a lot but still, can't get anything. I honestly feel so unfair.

My second concern is about my intention, I have a crush on a boy who is so perfect. He's a friend of friend in my church. We know each other in a gathering and after that, I found out I can't stop thinking about him... it has been a few months already.... Well, he's handsome, good at both sports and academic performance at a famous school here. Plus, he's a very friendly person. There are so many girls around him but he has never dated any girls. I actually wonder if I can enter in some famous universities here. Would he notice me or be interested in me somehow? or my intention of entering university has gone wrong.... I really don't have idea...

I honestly know that I can't be that but that boy has become my motivation on studying.... Anyway, is my intention wrong? Please give me some advice....


Thank you so much, my brothers and sisters.

 

[Hakan101]

Hello! I don't think chasing a boy is the right intention for which major you choose at university. Pray to God to help you prepare your mind and focus on your studies, but do not put all of your motives on a boy. If anything, put your motives on glorifying God by becoming the expert of the field you choose, because God gave you the abilities to become that.

As for the boy, trust me I have been in a similar situation with a girl I knew. It's easy to get infatuated with someone who is really attractive. Once you get to know them however, even if they are a nice person, you may realize they aren't as compatible as you thought.

Try not to put too much hope on a specific boy right now. If you do, and it turns out he is not for you, it will be very disheartening. But pray to God that he would lead you towards the man you are meant to be with. In time he will make it more clear to you, trust me. Maybe it is this boy, maybe there is someone you already know, or maybe God might drop someone into your life out of nowhere. But trusting in God first is the key.

 

[Sadiegrl]

Hi Yoaniah,

Being a young adult of 18, so much is going on in your life, heart and mind. Insecurities can seem almost debilitating but if you put forth the work by staying on top of your mind and its thoughts...giving them to God over and over again then you will begin to feel clarity. I'm sorry you are feeling frustrated with school, i'm sure you are good at it, maybe not as gifted as those who dont need to study o.0 but you are practicing discipline...and while it doesnt feel fun or rewarding, its repercussions are phenomenal later on. Id heard a cool little saying once goes: patient persistance produces perfect perserverance; that will be worthwhile.

But in regards to your question of intention...no you shouldnt have him be your focus, although it can seem quite impossible to not too. But God knows your heart, knows your desires...talk to Him about it and pray that you will be guided by God's spirit and not lust. Also take into consideration that at 18 your womanly hormones are totally surging...in time it will get better and you will feel more in control and not your emotions in control of you.

Just remember some key thoughts and put them into practice into your mind, you will feel alot less burdened and closer to God if you do.

1. I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength (so any major you do choose, He is with you helping you...not cheating lol but pretty cool God will help you with school )

2. God loves me unconditionally (will conquer alot of feelings of insecurity)
3. I will not live in fear for God is with me (definitely helps when feeling alone)
4. I am difficult to offend (helps when the thoughts swarm and feelings can easily be hurt...then comes dwelling..just avoid it all together)
5. I love people and enjoy helping them
6. I trust God completely, there is no need to worry( do this at the first sign of worrying)
7. I am content and emotionally stable (i say this allllll the time, whether i feel it or not, helps bring me there though)
8. God meets all my needs abundantly (your needs for love, affection, school, living...everything!)
9. I pursue peace with God, myself, and others (you will receive that peace that transends all understanding)
10. I live in the present and enjoy each moment ( really helps stay focused on what is in front and not dwell in past or future)
11. I am disciplined and self controlled
12. I put God first in my life...(even if you arent right now, saying this is putting it into practice)

I practice these thoughts and sometimes say them out loud as its reaffirming for my faith to be able to hear myself speak it. Kind of like a battle plan for your mind. The enemy will try to bring you down so you feel terrible and unworthy or lowly. But remember who you are!

1 Peter 2:9

New International Version (NIV)


9 But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.


<3 take care hun and hopefully you will find rest in His peace

 

[TheOliveSeed]

I think your motivation for academics should come from within, a love of learning and because you want to better yourself and your career prospects. And I don&#8217;t think you should be looking to enter any particular University to get him to notice you/notice you more. You should try and be friends with him and get to know him first. There's no such thing as a perfect person. You may end up being disappointed if you set him on a pedestal like that. As for the tests you failed, don't let them discourage you. But you should try and figure out what went wrong; why you didn't do well on them. Don't compare yourself to others. We all learn and retain information differently. That does not make you less smarter than anyone else, but you just have to find what works for you, change your study habits and study efficiently. You still have a few months to go before your entrance exams; it's a good idea to start preparing now. Good luck.