No. I'll accept that God is good. What I'm trying to work out is how people know what He wants. Because different people have different views on that.
"And I charged your judges at that time, saying, Hear the causes between your brethren, and judge righteously between every man and his brother, and the stranger that is with him.
Ye shall not respect persons in judgment; but ye shall hear the small as well as the great; ye shall not be afraid of the face of man; for the judgment is God’s: and the cause that is too hard for you, bring it unto me, and I will hear it.
And I commanded you at that time all the things which ye should do." (Deuteronomy 1:16-18)
Yes, we do. And I used an extreme example so that it was obvious.
Why was it obvious? Could it be because morality is objective?
So the command to honour your parents does come with small print. Which says that if your father beats and rapes you then he is not fulfilling his half of the bargain so you don't have to.
No commandment of God exists in a vacuum.
Now, in this case it is plainly obvious. But say he slaps her. Is that enough to disobey God's command? If he beats her just the once? If it's a regular thing? The point that I am making, which should be blazingly obvious, is that we have to decide what is right. We have to decide if someone is wrong. Even if the command from God is specific and there seems no room for doubt we still have to consider it within context.
God does not want us to be automatons - but what is Good and Evil is not decided by Man - but by God's Law.
God wants us to judge for ourselves how best to keep His Law in righteousness and if we find that to be too difficult - we go to Him.
We decide what do to in the moment and we can believe that it is right - but we do not determine if the choice was right.
Don't worry - not all of the choices we make are in the extremes - which people use to try and justify some sin or other.
So, I would refer you to what I quoted from Deuteronomy again.
Unfortunately we live in the real world where it's not always possible.
The Lord Jesus Christ lived in the real world - the world that He created - and He always loved us.
Even as He bled from every pore - even when He was betrayed - even when He was spat and beaten upon - even when He was nailed to a cross.
He still loves us.
The father didn't love his daughter.
And unrepentant sinners don't love Christ - but He still loves them
It seems naive to think that she should love him.
Then you believe that God's Law is naive - for to love our neighbor's as ourselves is the second of the two commandments that the whole Law hinges upon.
So, you believe that God is Good and naive?