New_Found_Faith said:Heh... well contrary to popular belief, when you have sex your going to have a child, unless something physically goes wrong. In using a condom you are denying God's will (and the purpose God created it for) and ensuring that if you were meant to have a child, you wont. The purpose of marrige is procreation as well, and this is why the Church is against pre-martial sex.
I will expand on this later, I have to go for now. God Bless.
Sean C.
Cerridwen said:I find it hard to believe that God shuns sex in a monogamous relationship, whether married or not. Actually, I find it hard to believe that God shuns sex at all. If He did, He wouldn't have created the pleasure it gives.
Jerusha Girl said:To assume that all couples who are unmarried and in a monogamous relationship can just "walk away" or break off the relationship at any time and have it be easy is false. Assuming a married couple can't break off their relationship at any time is also equally false.
Jerusha Girl said:While I'm not Christian and I know that passage does not apply to me or my relationship, it is rather arrogant to assume that by having sex with your partner before marriage, you're pulling a fast one on The Divine or somehow dishonoring The Divine.
As I suffer from ovarian cysts that is very difficult to determine.InnerPhyre said:In this case, you should abstain from sexual relations with your husband during your fertile period.
If you've ever gotten married or been engaged or planned a wedding, I promise your opinion of Las Vegas weddings would be different. There's nothing like arrainging a party featuring an event that focuses on you to be witnessed by dozens and dozens of your friends and family that costs an arm and a leg , that will wake you up to the fact that a Vegas wedding/elloping isn't a bad thing.
I had my wedding five days before Christmas at home. Albertson's made the cake and the sandwiches and a local florist did a wonderful job with the flowers. The house was decorated for Christmas and we stood before an arched window where the tree was our backdrop. The lights were stunning. You can do anyting you want. In my opinion there is no place like home Of course it demanded a small group in attendence but that was fine by mecbrickell said:This has always confused me. Does it really have to be either extreme? I wanna have a simple wedding at home...can it happen?
Casiopeia said:I had my wedding five days before Christmas at home. Albertson's made the cake and the sandwiches and a local florist did a wonderful job with the flowers. The house was decorated for Christmas and we stood before an arched window where the tree was our backdrop. The lights were stunning. You can do anyting you want. In my opinion there is no place like home Of course it demanded a small group in attendence but that was fine by me
yep and combine that with the fact that sometimes I ovulate twice in one month. And there is no way to know I am going to until I feel the pain of it. Then it is too late.Jerusha_Girl said:My doctor can't tell me when my fertile period is... I don't think I could even narrow it down. I have several reproductive health problems from a tipped uterus to endometriosis that make it almost impossible for me to depend on a set fertile time, or even a period every 28 days.
Studies have increasingly shown that, while women are more fertile one time in their cycle than any other time, that women are fertile all through their cycle with peaks during ovulation and during their period itself. This is why planning sex around something as unpredictable as hormones in a woman's body is not the most effective form of birth control.
Jerusha
Jerusha_Girl said:Studies are finally showing what women have been saying all along... That the only people who think the fertility cycle in women was something you could set your watch by are male biologists and doctors. That's why I get all my female care at Planned Parenthood. They are the best. They are always so up-to-date on the latest health info for women, and they're working to correct my fertility problems.
Casiopeia said:For me to have a child at this point in my life would put my life at risk. Are you saying that I am denying God's will. I think the Divine wants me to stick around and take care of my three kids and be with my husband. I agree that for SOME the purpose of marriage is procreation. But to say that is it's only purpose leaves out the very important roles of being monogamous. If you want to look at what you are essentially saying, If someone doesn't want or can't have children there is no reason to get married. I don't think you want to say that do you?
There are (very) limited circumstances where artificial birth control is allowed.Casiopeia said:As I suffer from ovarian cysts that is very difficult to determine.
Humane Vitae 19 said:On the other hand, the Church does not consider at all illicit the use of those therapeutic means necessary to cure bodily diseases, even if a foreseeable impediment to procreation should result there fromprovided such impediment is not directly intended for any motive whatsoever.
Cerridwen said:I think far too much emphasis is placed on the sex aspect of getting married, which in turn causes young people who *think* they're in love to get married just so they can sleep together. This equates sex with love, which is dangerous to one's sexual & emotional health.
Jerusha_Girl said:That is not what she is saying in her posts.
arunma said:I think you're grasping at straws now. As far as I know, teen sex is more of a problem than teen marriage. Besides that, your suggestion encourages young people who think they're in love to have sex before getting married.
Arunma said:I think you're grasping at straws now. As far as I know, teen sex is more of a problem than teen marriage. Besides that, your suggestion encourages young people who think they're in love to have sex before getting married.
I was a virgin on my wedding night at the age of 25. I had never felt comfortable giving myself completely before that time. After my divorce at the age of 37 I did engage in premarital sex and I was always a bit nervous about the level of committment it meant for ME.Jerusha_Girl said:I tend to agree.
I personally don't think that premarital sex is a bad thing at all. If you choose to wait until marriage that is certainly your right and I applaud the choice, but I don't see the shame or fault in premarital sex, especially in comitted relationships. Considering that current statistics show that 80% of Americans are not virgins when they exchange vows, it seems that a majority of people agree.
Jerusha