We need to distunguish two aspects of our being created as sexual beings
1. We are sexual. This means we all have sexual desires, interest, feelings and want sexual satisfaction at some point in our lives. Our naturally ocurring sex drive brings about in different ways for each person:
An interest in the opposite sex
An interest in what the opposite sex looks like
Sexual arousal - erections for guys, sexual feelings for girls
An awareness of and interest in one's physical development and assessment of one's "attractivesness".
A general interest in sexual matters.
None of these is wrong in themselves. That verse in Matthew about lust is very badly misapplied to cover far too much of our normal sexuality. Consequently, many young people become very confused and guilty when they are in fact just being pretty normal sexual creatures. Some curiosity, or even an erection is not automaticallyl lustful.
2 Lust happens when a person actively and deliberately engages in morally wrong behaviour, or active contemplation of something wrong. Looking at inappropriate content is one example of something that is wrong.
That a woman's breasts have become attractive is perfectly plain. But, how many women actually wish they had very small, flat breasts so as not to have that attraction for males? We can't have it both ways.
Why don't we just accept that breasts are a fact of life, that some do attract appreciative looks, that this does not imply lust or rejection of one's spouse. And, let us attack the notion that good sex and desirability require god like bodies. That eliminates almost all of us from sexual fulfillment if it were true.
Non lustful thinking requires that every person is seen as a person, not just a body. What they wear, reveal or parade should not affect my comittment to my spouse. That is where I am at. I will pass comment on an attractive woman if I want to. I will make my appreciation known to her if opportunity arises. I remain quite indifferent to those who flaunt themselves. My thinking has moved far ahead of where thay are at, poor creatures. And I will treat with equal enjoyment and respect any woman I meet irrespective of her physical features. This is what I see as sexual wholeness in the way that Jesus intended, a settled and robust attitude of heart, not an anxious denial of a masterful Divine design. After all, did God create beautiful women to make life harder for men? Sure, sin is there, which makes ita bit harder, but the question still remains.
John
NZ
1. We are sexual. This means we all have sexual desires, interest, feelings and want sexual satisfaction at some point in our lives. Our naturally ocurring sex drive brings about in different ways for each person:
An interest in the opposite sex
An interest in what the opposite sex looks like
Sexual arousal - erections for guys, sexual feelings for girls
An awareness of and interest in one's physical development and assessment of one's "attractivesness".
A general interest in sexual matters.
None of these is wrong in themselves. That verse in Matthew about lust is very badly misapplied to cover far too much of our normal sexuality. Consequently, many young people become very confused and guilty when they are in fact just being pretty normal sexual creatures. Some curiosity, or even an erection is not automaticallyl lustful.
2 Lust happens when a person actively and deliberately engages in morally wrong behaviour, or active contemplation of something wrong. Looking at inappropriate content is one example of something that is wrong.
That a woman's breasts have become attractive is perfectly plain. But, how many women actually wish they had very small, flat breasts so as not to have that attraction for males? We can't have it both ways.
Why don't we just accept that breasts are a fact of life, that some do attract appreciative looks, that this does not imply lust or rejection of one's spouse. And, let us attack the notion that good sex and desirability require god like bodies. That eliminates almost all of us from sexual fulfillment if it were true.
Non lustful thinking requires that every person is seen as a person, not just a body. What they wear, reveal or parade should not affect my comittment to my spouse. That is where I am at. I will pass comment on an attractive woman if I want to. I will make my appreciation known to her if opportunity arises. I remain quite indifferent to those who flaunt themselves. My thinking has moved far ahead of where thay are at, poor creatures. And I will treat with equal enjoyment and respect any woman I meet irrespective of her physical features. This is what I see as sexual wholeness in the way that Jesus intended, a settled and robust attitude of heart, not an anxious denial of a masterful Divine design. After all, did God create beautiful women to make life harder for men? Sure, sin is there, which makes ita bit harder, but the question still remains.
John
NZ
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