Is it wrong?

[KittysaurusRex]

To want so badly for someone to break up for my selfish desires?

My mind is in chaos right now. I can't stop thinking about him, but I know I can't have him.
I have no intention to get in between them, but it's hard to help from wishing he was with me instead.

I feel so lost.

 

[J0SHUA]

Yeah that's not good lol I used to be like that you'll find someone better, it always happens.. ask God to direct you to the right one. Welcome to the forum it looks like we both signed up on the same day

 

[KittysaurusRex]

Yeah that's not good lol I used to be like that you'll find someone better, it always happens.. ask God to direct you to the right one. Welcome to the forum it looks like we both signed up on the same day

Welcome to us then

It's hard to ask to get over him since I like him so much, but what's in God's plan is meant to be. I believe he'll point me in the right direction. I wish I didn't have to go through this situation though. I hope I will get through it quickly.

 

[J0SHUA]

Yeah it'll go away soon. This happened to me a while ago and I got so depressed I went almost 2 nights straight without sleeping, got over it and now I'm quite fine lol

 

[KittysaurusRex]

Yeah it'll go away soon. This happened to me a while ago and I got so depressed I went almost 2 nights straight without sleeping, got over it and now I'm quite fine lol

I'm glad to hear you've come out of it. I feel like I'm reaching the bottom. I'm trying hard not to make myself sad, but it's so hard not to think about it.

 

[J0SHUA]

I'm glad to hear you've come out of it. I feel like I'm reaching the bottom. I'm trying hard not to make myself sad, but it's so hard not to think about it.

Thanks. Yeah you just have to give it time. I will pray for you.

 

[Jess4hope]

Pray about it and trust in the Lord.
There are many men I thought to have loved and I had a hard time letting go. Just know there's someone better for you out there. You don't have to be with this person.

 

[Observer]

I think it's only wrong if you do things to try and break them up or interfere with their relationship. Keep in mind it could be little things though - flirting, gestures etc. But it's not wrong to simply have feelings for somebody who has a girlfriend. They are not married (as far as I know), so who knows what will be. But I do think it's very wrong if you pursued him romantically while he's with someone else.

This is even something that can happen if you were with the guy you desire, or even if you were married. You could lust after or desire somebody else. It happens to a lot of people. We can't control our feelings but we can do things to encourage them, or do things to assist in helping them fade away.

 

[graceandpeace]

Welcome to us then

It's hard to ask to get over him since I like him so much, but what's in God's plan is meant to be. I believe he'll point me in the right direction. I wish I didn't have to go through this situation though. I hope I will get through it quickly.

You will be fine.

There is no "plan" of God, though, regarding who one should date or marry someday. The concept of a pre-determined path in every aspect of life is foreign to the Christian faith.

 

[Sketcher]

I do not see how that isn't coveting.

 

[SimplyyJoyful]

Sometimes it can be hard to get over someone that y

 

[SimplyyJoyful]

Sometimes it's hard to get over someone that you like, I completely understand, but the only thing I can suggest is talking to someone about it or praying and asking God to help you to get over it.

 

[TimeIsNotMuch]

If this situation is still applicable , Just distract your thoughts with other things. open the bible, listen to music, do some art, go for a run. distraction is key. and unless he feels the same then your stuck between a rock and a wall

 

[hawkeyelovejs]

Unfortunately this is a lesson many of us have to learn the hard way. If they are in a relationship or married, they are not available and even if he left her tomorrow to be with you, the odds are against your relationship working out.

Relationships take time to build a foundation. You don't want to be the rebound and you don't want him thinking about her when he's with you -- or you don't want to be worried that he is thinking about her.

The best way to handle this is to walk away when you find out someone is taken. Otherwise, you will most likely just be setting yourself up for heartbreak and misery. You are good enough to be someone's FIRST choice.