Is it wrong?

[Bumble Bee]

There is this guy that I have sort of been with for 2 years now. Over 2 years. 2 months ago we had our first kiss. I tell him I love him. He says he loves me. We are trying to work out a future. BUT

My roommate last night borrowed my computer to check her e-mail. I closed my tabs for her so that she didn't mix them up. She opened my facebook back up and started reading my messages with this guy. He has told me some things in confidence, and those things were in there. Things that he does not want everyone knowing because they are personal emotional things. He trusted me with them. She violated not only my privacy buy his as well. And now she is judging me. She says that I am living in hidden sin because I kissed him and because I said I love him. She said I have an impure thought life and need to seek out help from a woman of God. She believes kissing should be saved for marriage because it is sexual and sex is for marriage only. And she believes it is too soon to say I love you before engagement or marriage. She believes that the "I love you" is coming from a physical attraction. She is engaged and is trying to force her standards on me.

Is it so wrong that I kissed this guy? Is it so wrong that we tell each other we love each other?

 

[explodingboy]

No, and your roommate sounds crazy.

 

[Bumble Bee]

She isn't crazy, and it really shocked me that she would invade my privacy like that. We have lived together for a year and while I knew where her standards were with her fiance, it never came up between us. I don't know what is going on this year or week or whatever.

 

[RobertMerton]

she sounds crazy.

 

[CrashTestPoster]

Your roommate is in the wrong. Not you. She is incorrect on everything. I just can't even begin, but rest assured that she is totally wrong on everything she has done, and everything she is saying. She sounds like a very controlling person. Tell your boyfriend what she did. It's important that he know that someone else knows. Discuss this with your roommate. If it were me, I would make moves to leave. She felt comfortable looking over your private stuff!! Who knows what else she does? Your roommate crossed a very serious line, and then she feels a need to lecture *you* about boundaries? Tell her to mind her own business.

 

[wholigan11]

It is not wrong to kiss & tell each other that you love them.

Your roommate sounds very strict.

 

[JadeStarr]

Maybe She needs to read Matthew 7:1-5

"“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. 2 For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. 3 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye."



Who is she to judge you? Only person that has the right to judge you is God.Also, she had no right to invade your privacy.And kissing is a far step from having sex.It's okay to say "I love you", you are expressing your feelings to someone you care deeply about.It is in no way saying anything sexual.

 

[NiobiumTragedy]

I would be informing your roommate that it's a federal crime to access someone elses online accounts.

 

[Bumble Bee]

She is coming home today. She keeps pushing to talk about the content of those messages... Hopefully we can get back to even ground soon

 

[Godzila]

lol your roomate...

is religiousnuts

 

[mina]

Yes, your roommate sounds crazy. If she's pushing to talk about something that is NONE of her business then I would bring up that she's a nosey snoop and that meddling in other people's business isn't that Godly either. Suggest that she needs guidance from a Godly woman for 1. snooping, 2. having impure thoughts about you and your b/f kissing (that is seriously creepy), and 3. trying to be your Holy Spirit.

 

[TAMUmpower]

Slap ur roommate this sounds pathetic. You can kiss who you want. You should go win a few rounds of paintball to up ur self confidence. I'd ignore her and tell them they are psycho

 

[Badiranium]

.

 

[Bumble Bee]

We just don't talk about it anymore. He and I are still where we were, and she and I just don't talk about it. I don't see her much anyway.