Is it wrong to pray to ask Jesus to take me home

Justified7 · Oct 7, 2020

I am new to this forum and am hoping to receive the support /advice from the family of Christ in here. I've read some of the replies/comments and feel safe enough to do my first posting.
I lost my husband a year ago and I'm still missing him so much and never a day I have not prayed that God will take me home as I find life here a struggle without him. Don't get me wrong, I'm not suicidal and there was only once when I was feeling so alone that the thought had entered my mind but I was aware that if I didn't snap out of it, Satan will continue to put negative thoughts in my head so I quickly listen to Christian sermons and had found a youtube sermon that has ministered to me till now.
My husband and I are very close as our 2 children are adults and living overseas. We were even planning to do lots of traveling in our semi-retirement and do mission/ministry together but when he was diagnosed with cancer, it was a short illness - ie within 2 months God has taken him home first. He was such a strong and brave man and had undergone 5 RTs meant for 10 sessions. God has given me a fragrance sign when the angels took him home to heaven and I take comfort in that assurance my husband is not suffering anymore and waiting for me with Jesus. It took a while for me to come to terms with God's mercy or His plans for my future (as in Jeremiah 29:11) but slowly I have accepted that God is sovereign.
My friends told me to repent from asking God to take me home but be grateful for the life He gives me here on earth. I am aware that He must have plans to leave me here so I prayed that He will show me the ministry/plans He has for me till He take me home. Every morning I would greet God and thank Him for his daily blessings but I would also tell Him that I'm still here on earth and when will He take me home? so is this wrong/sinful?
You see to cope with my grief/struggle I listen and read a lot about heaven (including studying and finishing the book of Revelation - it might not be a big deal to many but to me it was such a difficult book to understand before) and I just couldn't wait to be in Jesus' bosom and find my eternal rest there too. Now I can really relate to Phil1:21 that to live is Christ and to die is gain. God bless

Dansiph · Oct 7, 2020

I'm very sorry for your loss. Your wish is definitely understandable but unfortunately I think it is wrong. God still has plans for you here as you know. I pray you can find strength and comfort as more time passes.

Jeshu · Oct 7, 2020

God wants you to share everything with Him also this feeling that you want to go Home. Nothing wrong with that if that is how it is. Just share it with Jesus and ask Him to give you the courage to go on if you must.

Jesus asked God if the cup He had to drink could pass Him by, that wasn't sinful, but He did say not my will but Yours be done.

So if you feel miserable share your grief with Jesus and tell Him how much you long to be with Him in Heaven, but at the same time ask Him to reveal where you can still be of good usage to Him down here on this earth.

Please be strong. What is a few years? You will follow the way of your husband, we all do, in the mean time be a witness of His loving truth to as many people as God places on your way.

:hug:

Aussie Pete · Oct 7, 2020

Just a few days ago I was close to death. God has shown me that there is unfinished business for me on earth. I'm 69. Life is short.

During this terrible time, the Lord drew me to Himself in a way I've never known before. For example, He reminded me of the throne room freely available to all who are born again. I wrapped myself in Jesus my Righteousness, got washed afresh in His precious blood and went up to the throne of grace. Then I jumped up on my heavenly Dad's lap like a little child. I rested there.

I found some wonderful songs on you tube (Chris Rice). I was playing "How Great Thou Art". One of the staff walked past and sang along. That tiny thing was such a blessing. I understand your desire to go home. Only the ignorant prefer this life to the next. God spares us for a reason. There is also a risk that Satan will note your desire and try to end your life prematurely.

As you come to terms with your loss, you can be a great comfort to those in a similar situation. My friend of 40 years lost her husband about 10 years ago. She has blossomed and she radiates Jesus. I'd marry her in a flash but she's not interested. She's moving to a retirement village complex in the next year or two. I can imagine what a wonderful witness she will be in that environment.

God is the God of comfort. I've found that out in a deeper way than ever before.

musicalpilgrim · Oct 7, 2020

Welcome to the forum in Jesus name it's a great place to be for fellowship with other Christians. I lost my lovely son just a few years ago to cancer. He was 43yrs and I also felt the grief so great that I wanted to die.
My friends on the forum prayed for me.
Our wonderful Lord and Saviour will get you through. It takes a while, and I miss my son so much but i know he is with the Lord.
I pray for you to be strengthened by his Holy Spirit. To experience the peace of the Lord. May he bless you richly in Jesus precious name.

chevyontheriver · Oct 7, 2020

Sorry for your loss.

There is nothing wrong with asking God to take you home. So ask away. Pour out your heart to the Lord. But be open to the distinct possibility that you have work still to do here. You do not sin by asking, but take care of yourself and be open to some long and interesting service.

Danigt22 · Oct 7, 2020

I also lost my GF, I understand that pain. I know this video may not have the best words to heal our pain. Nevertheless, they are the ones that we need to understand about God.

Tony B · Oct 7, 2020

No, not wrong or sinful, in fact it is totally understandable.

I've been where you are, and I asked him to take me home, everyday for 2 years or so. But He understood my grief, and sense of uselessness, hopelessness, and despair.

I lost my wife and children to divorce...she was an adultress and reviled me in front of other men. My daughters preferred the man she was having an affair with
and subsequenty married, as their father. She divorced me, I fasted without food or water, and prayed that she would turn back to me...that didn't happen. Her friends were my friends, so I lost them too. Then I became redundant in my work because of the financial crisis of the late 80's. So for a number of years I was near enough to penniless, homeless, friendless, without fellowship, and feeling that there was no purpose to my life. Like you, I thought of suicide, but like you, I realised that was not a right thing to do.

God didn't withdraw from me during this time, He just let me go through it to test my faith in Him, and to change me into a better person (... still work in progress on that).

It was my desert walk.

I'm not saying that He will take you through similar, or that your grief will be wiped away soon, but don't give up. God is with you, and will see you through.

I pray that The Lord would expedite your healing and peace.

eleos1954 · Oct 8, 2020

I lost my husband about a year ago ... I do know one day ... when the Lord returns I will see him again. I do hold on to that truth.

I pray for the Lord to return ... often ... as the truth is when He returns this sinful world and its consequences (sorrows & sufferings) will end for eternity. I also know that will not happen until there is nobody left to be saved ... and only the Lord knows when that is.

I see nothing wrong with praying for His return ... no ... on the contrary ... we look forward to it.

UnrulyBeauty · Oct 11, 2020

First, I'm so terribly sorry for your loss.

I don't think it's necessarily wrong for you to wish that you could go home to the Lord and be with your husband again. I think it's entirely understandable, given what you're going through, and what you lost. But of course, the fact that you're still here means that God has more for you to do in this world first. He is full of compassion and understanding for your grief, and He understands why you pray what you pray. But if you can, try to submit to whatever He still has for you here on earth, and remember that you will be with your beloved again one day, and this life will be but a fleeting memory.

Joined2krist · Oct 12, 2020

Sorry for your loss. I pray the Holy Spirit comforts and restores you. There's nothing wrong in wanting to be with your husband but God might need you here for now perhaps to use you to comfort others grieving as well, God bless

fwGod · Oct 12, 2020

There's no scripture from which to formulate a prayer for God to make you die so you can be in heaven. Satan wants you dead. So God is not going to answer that kind of prayer. So don't even pray such a thing any more.

Pray for God's strength for every day. And rejoice in every day.

You've been married for so long that you invested yourself in being your husband's wife. But now you have plenty of time to invest yourself in being a child of God. And in God being your husband. (see Isaiah 54, God calls Himself the widow's husband)

When you got saved Jesus by the Holy Spirit came to live with you inside. You are not left alone. You have the Comforter inside you. His home is you.

He knows exactly where you are so you don't need to remind Him of that, but you need to remind yourself of Him in you. Greet Him every morning with joy saying "This is the day that the LORD has made, I will rejoice and be glad in Him." Rejoice that He is in you.

Have a wonderful time talking to God about everything in your life. Fellowship with Him about everything.. the way that you probably did with your earthly husband.

Rejoice to be alive and come to know Him in you. Because you will eventually have all eternity of you in heaven.

Years ago whenever we visited my Granma who was born in and grew up in Kentucky, when we'd say that we would return to our home. It was the Kentucky way of politeness in enjoying our visit so she would say "What's your hurry?"

So I say it to you.. what's your hurry in trying to get to heaven ahead of schedule. Stick around and get the fullness of joy out of living the precious life that you have with God as your husband.

pdudgeon · Oct 12, 2020

No, it's NOT wrong for you to desire to be reunited with your husband in heaven. In fact, it is a tribute to both him and to God that this is your desire.

Secondly, don't feel that you have to rush through your grief. Believe me, only widows and widowers understand where you are right now, and that it's an OK place to be.
You won't always be in this place, but will move on with life when you are good and ready to do so.

And it's absolutely ok to tell people that.

Lastly, because God hasn't taken you to be with Him yet, does mean that there are still blessings in store for you here on Earth.

God will show them to you when it's time to do so, and when you can begin to accept them.
He won't rush you through your grief. He will wait patiently beside you until you become aware that He is still here with you, and that He knows your grief because He has also experienced grief.

There is a time for everything, including grief, and a time to heal from the loss. But rushing through your grief is every bit as dangerous as trying to rush the healing of a broken bone.

Both bones and hearts need time to heal. And if you try to rush through that healing time, you wind up with more damage than you began with.

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