Is it wrong to pray for death?

[Idratherstayanonymous]

You're hurt. You don't need to die, you need to heal. Life is the gift that God gave you when He created you and it is the gift that Jesus sacrificed himself for at Calvary so that it can go on after the body gives up.

It all seems hopeless right now but it really isn't. One thing the devil does is make us feel like there is no answer and that we are all alone with our problems. IT IS A LIE. There is HOPE. With God, anything is possible. You need to start praying for healing and not for death. God bless you.

gabriel

i feel crap anyway, it's not just that girl.. i realized that she is rotten inside last night, she just lies and lies.. but now i'm worried about her.. i want her to be happy later in life, and i don't want her to realize what she's doing when it's too late..

and yeah, i've finally decided to search for a psychiatrist this week.. i really hope i can finally be done with the emptyness

 

[Elijah2]

i feel crap anyway, it's not just that girl.. i realized that she is rotten inside last night, she just lies and lies.. but now i'm worried about her.. i want her to be happy later in life, and i don't want her to realize what she's doing when it's too late..

and yeah, i've finally decided to search for a psychiatrist this week.. i really hope i can finally be done with the emptyness

Mate, why not go to your pastor for help, or a mature believer in your church who can guide you and help you.

Mate, at 18 years of age, your first love and break-up is always hard. I can assure you that there millions of people out there who have suffered the same as you.

I had a number, but mate, you just move on and don’t dwell on the pain.

But, I guess when the only thing that means a lot to you is devastating.

But mate, there are many fish in sea, and ten years down the track you will likely be married to a wonderful soul mate, and have a dozen kids running around. How does that sound?

Grief is an emotion that can be overcomed and conquered.

And the best way is for you talk about it, and talk it out of your system.

If you want to talk it out, then PM me!

Blessings!

 

[butterflyring09]

it's not WRONG... it's just not technically CORRECT... lol. You see, God is ONLY life.. and praying for death is an illusion. Even when you die, so to speak, you'll still be living, in another form. So, whatever issues are going on now, it would probably be best to pray for those ISSUES to come to and end. Instead of Death, which is simply a transition of physical form, but the emotional and mental level in which you are in now, will not change unless you accept the light of God ^o^

 

[Idratherstayanonymous]

it's not WRONG... it's just not technically CORRECT... lol. You see, God is ONLY life.. and praying for death is an illusion. Even when you die, so to speak, you'll still be living, in another form. So, whatever issues are going on now, it would probably be best to pray for those ISSUES to come to and end. Instead of Death, which is simply a transition of physical form, but the emotional and mental level in which you are in now, will not change unless you accept the light of God ^o^

I did pray for that.. But it just stays..

 

[butterflyring09]

I did pray for that.. But it just stays..

what's going on? if i may ask? i sent you a pm as well

 

[heron]

Even though you're in the highs and lows of mating season (lol), you're also thinking about life and how you impact the world. Are there injustices that should be straightened out, people who need your help, contributions you should make to civilization?
1. What do you mean?

2. well, i'm 100% sure she has rejected me as a person, and lost all her love for me..

Right now, the breakup is taking up a lot of your thoughts. That's natural. But your whole existence is about so much more.

What keeps you from being like someone you admire? I don't mean the guy who gets all the girls, but the person who seems to do things with their life that really seems worth it to you. Down the trail of Ghandi, Martin Luther King, Abraham Lincoln, Henry Ford, Bill Gates (or not), Bill Cosby, Thoreau, Socrates.

Who used their voice to do something powerful, to shift the mindsets in the world? Is there any reason that you might not be able to live your life for a higher good?

Your life can stay on the track of deciding what to eat for lunch, or there can be contributions that you make. Things that you see, that need correcting. What comes to mind might not fit into what people consider needing work, but that's the beauty of it.

Your personal mission can be an undercurrent in all that you do. The way that God uses you to touch the world. When there is purpose, there is clearer vision about your life.

Ask God if He has anything in mind for you, and then listen.

 

[heron]

Most people have gone through a grueling break-up, so we know how low that can feel. It is similar to the trauma of a family member dying. The brain does wacky things during that time, and our perspective on life shifts to a hyper-awareness of loss and death. Temporary existence.

I would never say at this time "there are other fish in the sea," because your had just wholeheartedly devoted yourself to this person, and the rug was pulled out from under you. It is like the movies where a pet dies, and the babysitter or parent secretly replaces a child's pet. One soul is not the same as another, just because the outer appearance is similar.

And your soul is not the same as another. There are people here who need you, whether they admit it or not.

I agree with butterflyring09, that your soul is still going to be around whether you're on earth or not. There's no way we can control what happens after death. Fortunately we have some control on earth, if we are not afraid to use it.

Remember to read this thread as a set of independent minds, by the way. Not everyone here agrees with all the posts -- we are just trying to stick to forum rules of responding to the original instead of to each other.

 

[Idratherstayanonymous]

Most people have gone through a grueling break-up, so we know how low that can feel. It is similar to the trauma of a family member dying. The brain does wacky things during that time, and our perspective on life shifts to a hyper-awareness of loss and death. Temporary existence.

I would never say at this time "there are other fish in the sea," because your had just wholeheartedly devoted yourself to this person, and the rug was pulled out from under you. It is like the movies where a pet dies, and the babysitter or parent secretly replaces a child's pet. One soul is not the same as another, just because the outer appearance is similar.

And your soul is not the same as another. There are people here who need you, whether they admit it or not.

I agree with butterflyring09, that your soul is still going to be around whether you're on earth or not. There's no way we can control what happens after death. Fortunately we have some control on earth, if we are not afraid to use it.

Remember to read this thread as a set of independent minds, by the way. Not everyone here agrees with all the posts -- we are just trying to stick to forum rules of responding to the original instead of to each other.

I've decided I'm just a coward.. I already knew that deep inside, but that other guy made it clearer to see.. I don't understand why I just can't be happy, it's really frustrating.. There are people out there that have it way worse than me, and I still feel bad..

And it's not just because of that girl.. She was just like, my only reason I guess.. Before I met her, I had the same thoughts as I do now, only it's just a tad worse now.. I can't blame her, I really am not worth her anyway, but it just hurts so much how she just ignores me, and lies and lies and lies and just LIES! I can't stand how all her story's are SO easy to see through.. How our whole relationship was glued together with lies from her side.. I can't believe that I didn't see it earlier, but now it's too late.. And she has hurt me SO deep inside..

 

[heron]

I really am not worth her anyway, but it just hurts so much how she just ignores me, and lies and lies and lies and just LIES!

It is so dangerous to keep friends who lie. Girlfriend or not, you know that they will use lies against you eventually. Liars are unpredictable, and put you into a victim role because you never know what they will throw into the ring. You deserve much, much better than lies.

Don't try or expect to be happy all the time . . . most of life is contentment or what I like to call grey.

You probably know this to be true already. The movies tell you that happiness comes from finding the right person. But really, we just need a companion who can get us through life with some mutual support. Very few people feel the same way about their partner five or ten years after the first thrills of dating.

Once we have proven that we are able to entice a person we deem higher than ourselves, then we have conquered that goal, and need a new goal.

It is common for marriages to break up after two years.
Divorce Rates - Divorce Statistics Collection

I know that your feelings about life are not based completely on the break-up. But as said above, "So many people make themselves miserable trying to make themselves happy."

My pep talks above on higher purposes related to this -- we sometimes need to fight to survive. If we set our aims toward happiness, we will just end up with lots of unmet goals. Selfish aspirations. Friends who feel slighted, and spouses who consider us too needy. The human experience really takes on some interest when there are underlying purposes. Dangers we take on, to reach more heroic ends.

 

[Idratherstayanonymous]

It is so dangerous to keep friends who lie. Girlfriend or not, you know that they will use lies against you eventually. Liars are unpredictable, and put you into a victim role because you never know what they will throw into the ring. You deserve much, much better than lies.

You probably know this to be true already. The movies tell you that happiness comes from finding the right person. But really, we just need a companion who can get us through life with some mutual support. Very few people feel the same way about their partner five or ten years after the first thrills of dating.

Once we have proven that we are able to entice a person we deem higher than ourselves, then we have conquered that goal, and need a new goal.

It is common for marriages to break up after two years.
Divorce Rates - Divorce Statistics Collection

I know that your feelings about life are not based completely on the break-up. But as said above, "So many people make themselves miserable trying to make themselves happy."

My pep talks above on higher purposes related to this -- we sometimes need to fight to survive. If we set our aims toward happiness, we will just end up with lots of unmet goals. Selfish aspirations. Friends who feel slighted, and spouses who consider us too needy. The human experience really takes on some interest when there are underlying purposes. Dangers we take on, to reach more heroic ends.

First off - if I knew she was a liar, I wouldn't have loved her anyway, so let me just get that straight, lol.. I always told people to back off when they said bad things about her, even though I finally realize most of that was true, but I failed to see it..

But yeah, my goals in life aren't that high anyway, I have no unreachable things, but should I just not try to be happy anymore..? That makes no sense.. Are we all supposed to feel miserable our whole lives?

 

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[heron]

First off - if I knew she was a liar, I wouldn't have loved her anyway, so let me just get that straight, lol..
Sure, it takes a while to figure that out. And people fluctuate in how much they lie, to which friends, etc. When they can't figure out any other way to get what they want or need.

I always told people to back off when they said bad things about her, even though I finally realize most of that was true, but I failed to see it..
:sadface: That's so nice of you.

But yeah, my goals in life aren't that high anyway, I have no unreachable things, but should I just not try to be happy anymore..? That makes no sense.. Are we all supposed to feel miserable our whole lives?
Lol, well I wasn't trying to pressure you into being a superhero. Delusions of grandeur and all. Just to see that God has some little things in mind for each person, and if we followed through with our part of influence, it comes together to make a safer world to live in. A more pleasant life for everyone to get through.

You might not think that what you do will make much difference for others, but it does. There's the butterfly theory, how the wisp of breeze from one wingbeat stirs other things, and leads to greater change.

Some famous people became household names, just for going through their normal day, doing what they did, living out their convictions. Rosa Parks. Johann Gutenburg. Charlie Chaplin. Ray Kroc. (-; People are grateful for what their lives contributed. Your life might not become renowned, but it will be appreciated. I'm sure it already is.

Just the fact that you trusted this girl, and thought the best of her, probably softened her a little and made her regret lying. Even though she may never tell you that, and you didn't end up with the benefit of that appreciation.

Anyway... I just wanted to say that there are likely some amazing talents buried in you, ideas and good intentions, that are worth exploring. God knows what you're up to, and He knows how to hook you up with the right people. There are some good adventures in life, that you shouldn't have to miss.