Is it wrong to confide in other Christians about problems at home?

[TheSilverLining]

Recently, I have had problems at home regarding my mother. To be short, there has been some lashing out, moments of stress, and my mom being angry at God. This has been going on for about 2 months, and I had a Bible study where the women from the Church I attend gather to talk over Christian books and our lives. I thought it would be a good idea to open up to them about these problems and pray in a group for my family in order to seek guidance, since I really have no idea what to do next at this point. Although, when I came home, my mother was furious and said that she hoped she was not the topic of conversation. She also said it wouldn't be right for her to become idle gossip in a room of women. Then this thought comes to my mind that, maybe this wasn't the best idea. Maybe I was wrong to confide in these people from the Church. Is this what gossip is? Should I have tried to resolve the problem myself? Is it wrong to confide in other Christians about personal issues?

 

[graciesings]

I don't think it's right if you're just talking or just complaining. But sometimes, I'll confide in someone I'm especially close to if I need to ask for advice or if I really want someone to help pray about the situation. And I usually only talk to one person at a time, if you tell a whole group it isn't seen as a secret and the gossiping starts.

 

[Joshua Breeze]

Hello. I think you are doing the right thing in a way. I feel it is a good think to share your problems with other Christians as they may have had similar experiences in the past and may be able to offer advise. All I will say is, don't be over reliant as this can cause others to think you are putting all of your problems on them.

I advise you to trust that God will help you through your hardships and other Christians are there if you require a listening ear.

All the best,

Josh

 

[Chaplain David]

Recently, I have had problems at home regarding my mother. To be short, there has been some lashing out, moments of stress, and my mom being angry at God. This has been going on for about 2 months, and I had a Bible study where the women from the Church I attend gather to talk over Christian books and our lives. I thought it would be a good idea to open up to them about these problems and pray in a group for my family in order to seek guidance, since I really have no idea what to do next at this point. Although, when I came home, my mother was furious and said that she hoped she was not the topic of conversation. She also said it wouldn't be right for her to become idle gossip in a room of women. Then this thought comes to my mind that, maybe this wasn't the best idea. Maybe I was wrong to confide in these people from the Church. Is this what gossip is? Should I have tried to resolve the problem myself? Is it wrong to confide in other Christians about personal issues?

Hello,

I am one of the forum chaplains and wanted to reach out and let you know that you can pm any of us. Also, we have the Ask a Chaplain forum where you can start an anonymous thread and receive assistance and advice.

Based on what you've said I don't think that reaching out to the women of your church is gossip. However, it might be more helpful and less likely to move from "needing help" to just talking about your mom if you spoke privately with a senior woman member who is involved in ministry. Also, if there is a Minister of Youth he/she would be good to confide in or receive advice from. I'm sure that your pastor would also be a good person to talk to. I'm sure he would be more than happy to help.

Faithfully,