Well, let me ask you: Why does God give us the commands that He does? Does God
need us to obey Him? Is His lessened when we don't obey Him? The Bible says that God is perfect, which means that He needs nothing. He certainly doesn't need us to obey Him. So, why the commands, then? The Bible tells us that God's commands are for
our benefit, they protect us, and open the way for God's blessings to flow into our lives. The alternative to not obeying God is to sin. Sin has dire consequences. Hell being chief among them.
Let me offer you an analogy that might help to clarify things a bit: Imagine that I am a mountain guide and I tell you that path A is the best way to journey to the top of the mountain. It follows the safest route, and is the easiest to travel, and has the best view. Path B, on the other hand, is, I warn you, just the opposite. If you follow path B, you will die. Now, am I guilty of
scaring you into using path A? If everything I have told you is true, am I wrong in telling you so? It seems to me I would be showing you that I had your best interests in mind by warning you of the danger and death of path B and urging you toward the pleasures of path A. This is essentially what God does when He tells us to walk in love with Him (path A) or risk the danger and death of a life of sin (path B). He isn't manipulating us into a relationship with Him by fear, but showing us His love for us by telling us the best way to live, which is in fellowship with Him.
But God doesn't punish us for obeying Him out of fear. It simply doesn't benefit us to do so.
I'm not too sure about loving people when you dislike them...
No, your analogies are not lame. I appreciate you using them in an effort to clarify your view. I think we can hate sin while still acknowledging that it is attractive and pleasurable. In fact, these very things make sin all the more foul. It is bad enough that sin causes so much pain and destruction; it is much worse that it often does so initially with such delicious pleasure. I do not mean, then, to tell you that you should pretend sin does not have its gratifying qualities. But you can acknowledge this and still hate sin.
Welcome to the club!
Well, imagine you have a bottle of poison in front of you that tastes like the most delicious chocolate you've ever had (you took a tiny sip out of curiosity). Can you acknowlege the poison is delicious while still also acknowledging that it will kill you if you drink it? I think so. The same goes for sin. THere is, as the Bible says, "pleasure in sin for a season," but acknowledging that this is so doesn't mean you don't understand that, for all its pleasure, sin will bring you ultimately to death. Does this make sense?
Hmmm... when you sin, who do you love more at that moment, which is more attractive to you, God or your sin?
I think it would be much better for you to ask God to give you a love for Him. You see, the more you love Him, the greater your hatred of sin will be.
Nah. Self-discipline will only take you so far. And usually not far enough. God wants you to tap into the enabling power of His Spirit in order to live the way He says to live. He is the One who changes you. You cannot change yourself. You will only produce more of you; only God can produce more of Himself in you. Your job is to humble yourself before Him and yield your life to Him to do with as He pleases. So long as you remain submitted to Him, His life-giving and transforming power flows into you and changes you.
Selah.