Is it spiritually wrong for virgins to date non-virgins?

[Lindsay]

I have a friend that is interested in dating this Christian guy but he isn't a virgin and he has a kid. He knows he did wrong and has asked for forgiveness. She has come to me for advice and I don't know what to tell her.

 

[songz777]

Hiya,
Dating any one who isnt a virgin does not conteven scripture.. the only issue is that the past has been forgiven an dealth with. Also that the other person can fully accept this. If the other has a child this makes things a lot more difficult, as regards the fact that you are likely to have a constant access issue with the others child. I suppose if it were me I would need to be 100% happy with the whole set up, and that I was very sure with Gods peace that the person was right to date or marry.
Bless you JOHN

 

[FaithfulServant]

If the person has repented, then God has forgiven them and I don't see a reason for your friend to not also forgive them. That's not to say she has to date them though, that's a decision she has to make through prayer.

 

[JVD]

There is nothing spritually wrong with dating someone who has sinned...haven't we all?

However, she needs to think long and hard about the fact that he has a "kid". That "kid" has a mother, who will of necessity have contact with the father for the rest of her life.

If your friend is interested in the possibility of dealing with the mother of someone else's "kid" for the rest of her own life than go ahead and date the guy. If she thinks that may not be something she would like than she should not date the guy.

If she is just thinking of "dating" the guy with no intention of entertaining a more serious relationship than she is using him and allowing herself to be used...whether she realizes it or not.

 

[Yitzchak]

There is nothing spiritually wrong with it. One concern might be that someone who has been sexually active may tend to move more quickly when things get physical. But that doesn't neccesarially have to happen.

 

[desi]

Dating a nonchristian is like dating someone who has cheated on his wife. The risk is higher than dating a virgin.

 

[rockwell]

Dating a nonchristian is like dating someone who has cheated on his wife. The risk is higher than dating a virgin.

That's a good point and as they say "once a cheater-always a cheater" unless of course they have trully repented and have been forgiven by God.

 

[Beauty4Ashes]

if they have repented and moved out of the former lifestyle or habits in which they were in formerly with no intention of returning to premaritial sex, there is nothing wrong with it. But the kid's feelings should also be taken into careful consideration. She should just be friends with the guy unless/until she actually intends on marrying him because simple dating not only scars the individuals involved but can also be hard on the child of one. Make sure she is seriously praying about it.

 

[bound2him]

god forgave him, she shouldnt judge, however, if she's not comfortable with it, there's nothing wrong with not dating him

 

[peggysue17]

i agree with everyone else. she just has to remember about the fact that he has a kid. hope everything works out ok!

 

[alwayselearning]

I have a friend that is interested in dating this Christian guy but he isn't a virgin and he has a kid. He knows he did wrong and has asked for forgiveness. She has come to me for advice and I don't know what to tell her.

Are they both Christians? If they are I don't see anything wrong with this.