Is it really THIS HARD to find a S/O???

[WITNESS8]

Forgive me all men and boys out there if I ever seemed so arrogant to you, but man it sure does get men's attention more. Seriously, forgive me.

 

[sweetlambofgod]

it can be

 

[Fatolia]

Unfortunately, I've done the same thing with girls....it does get their attention, but I ask myself, is that a holy thing?

Forgive me all men and boys out there if I ever seemed so arrogant to you, but man it sure does get men's attention more. Seriously, forgive me.

 

[christianmike]

Hopefuly this helps!!!


My MAN sounds like you are trying way to HARD!!! Relax, first of all if you come off as desperate most girls get spooked. Second dont try to make every incounter with a girl into a relationship. Third and most important put this in GODS hands and when you least exspect it you will find the right GIRL !


RELAX BUDDY

 

[TriptychR]

Not to be a jerk, but is it really all that soothing to type RELAX BUDDY in giant red type?

 

[songz777]

You need to focus on God more, and the real un-utterable joy happiness and delight in being so very close to Him. Youre only 21 Ive been waiting on God and making the most of life as I can since 21 and I am now 42 yrs. The length of waiting in a positive meaningful attitude has taught me patience and taught me to pray and be humble before God and bow to His will and time. God could give you someone now, but if He did could you truly say "I am independant of any thing else to make me truly happy" those who have never had to wait more than s few years may never know, what being truly reliant on God is. Learn to be happy with Jesus first, seek Him first serve Him with all your heart and then He will in His time guide you the right way. Take care brov John

 

[OhhJim]

Not to be a jerk, but is it really all that soothing to type RELAX BUDDY in giant red type?

 

[Dak man]

So how is it going now snowconeTTU? My only advice would be to relax about it and let things fall into place if it is meant to be. That, and enjoy this incredible weather we are having! (I just transferred to Texas Tech)

 

[Sinless_angels]

Well number one christians done have luck and everything happens for a reason.

Gods already planed every little part of our life.

Just surender it to god and he'll sort it out for ya m8

So stop worrying - yeh yeh i know its hard and i find it hard myself but it sumfink he just gota learn to do.

Hope it all works out for the best

God Bless

 

[Sinless_angels]

YUP listen to this guy he got the best advise and knows what hes talking about!!!!

You need to focus on God more, and the real un-utterable joy happiness and delight in being so very close to Him. Youre only 21 Ive been waiting on God and making the most of life as I can since 21 and I am now 42 yrs. The length of waiting in a positive meaningful attitude has taught me patience and taught me to pray and be humble before God and bow to His will and time. God could give you someone now, but if He did could you truly say "I am independant of any thing else to make me truly happy" those who have never had to wait more than s few years may never know, what being truly reliant on God is. Learn to be happy with Jesus first, seek Him first serve Him with all your heart and then He will in His time guide you the right way. Take care brov John

 

[christianmike]

Not to be a jerk, but is it really all that soothing to type RELAX BUDDY in giant red type?

Hey your absolutly RIGHT, was not saying that in a mean way hope nobody was offended. If so I applogize!!!

 

[TriptychR]

Hey your absolutly RIGHT, was not saying that in a mean way hope nobody was offended. If so I applogize!!!

Heh, don't worry about it. I was just kidding with you.

 

[fritz85]

This was interesting for me to read. Being new to the forums and all, I was surpised to see the insights most of you had to share for the snowconeman. I agree with a lot that was said.

Plainly, God is in control.He does NOT make mistakes and He is ALWAYS on time.

Singleness is learning process. I personally count it all joy- the days I have when I just want a hug, or a listening ear...Jesus is there. Rejection can be, if one is led to believe otherwise, confusing. But I believe that if relationships were meant to be then the parties involved wouldn't have to try so hard to maintain a deeper relationship--> or INITIATE one for that matter. I believe that when that one comes around- and you meet, things will just begin to fit. All the standards you have in your heart, I believe given by God, will be seen in this person-- and agreement and love will come from that. This is not to say that things won't be difficult, because we ARE human- and we make mistakes (usually when we are led by emotions.) But despite differences- you will have a peace inside telling you that "it's all good."
If you think about it, Adam never went around complaining he didn't have a companion. But God saw his need and met in in His own time. So Snowcone, I say, just chill. He sees you- He knows you. How awesome is He to step in and ruin the plans that we make...and swear are fool-proof?!
He knows your heart and will meet your need when you are truly ready for it. Just trust, and in the meanwhile praise Him for loving you so much. And you in turn, take this time to fall deeper in love with Him.

God bless you Snowcone.
Psalm 91, 37:4, Jeremiah 29:11

 

[Glorianna]

It's not very hard if you just want a girlfriend or boyfriend. But if you have certain qualifications for your S/O, with more qualifications it becomes harder to find one because your options decrease.

 

[KeilCoppes]

Well, there you have it there.. but honestly, it's like I see the whole world with a significant other.. For me, I have had absolutely 00000 luck. Is it really this hard to find a gf?

Yes, it is - and increasingly more as you go on in your life, surprisingly even if you're stable, faithful to the Lord, and a friendly person. Welcome to God's gym.

 

[JPPT1974]

KeliCoppers, you took the words right out of my mouth.

 

[Kari8276]

Unfortunately, finding a s/o is the easy part. Finding one with Christian values, morals, and standards is the hard part. Trust me, I know. Been at it for a while. It takes time getting past the outer shell to see the "pearl" on the inside... After all the times I chose on my own and failed, this time it's up to the Lord. I put in my preferences and am letting Him do all the footwork! LOL

Whatsoever you ask in His name, believe you have recieved it!
(WOO HOOO!!)

 

[JPPT1974]

Unfortunately, finding a s/o is the easy part. Finding one with Christian values, morals, and standards is the hard part. Trust me, I know. Been at it for a while. It takes time getting past the outer shell to see the "pearl" on the inside... After all the times I chose on my own and failed, this time it's up to the Lord. I put in my preferences and am letting Him do all the footwork! LOL

Whatsoever you ask in His name, believe you have recieved it!
(WOO HOOO!!)

They are very hard to find as there are very, very few.

 

[hockeysistah12]

I'm 45 years old and older than most of you here and I'm a widow and ya know, during my interent travels, I met a few people, some nice and some who came off as jerks, especially the last one which was longer, but it was not right because of a lot of deception and I do not want to get into that.



But you know, not everyone you will date is the one or what God wants you with because he wants you to be with "the best," meaning someone who loves Jesus with his/her heart.



Sons and daughters of the king need to realize that it is frustrating as it seems, a blessing in wating because we think that we have the perfect one only to find out that "perfect one" is not the choice God intened us to have.

This is why we need to wait and pray and not take anyone and anybody just because they are a Christian. We need to look at fruit because we need to be fruit inspectors and make sure it is of God and not our emotions.

 

[Thithy]

This thought just hit me while reading this thread. All of us are complaining about it being hard to find a s/o, yet here we all are, single. I think it's just kind of ironic.

Anyway...

I don't think it's hard finding a s/o. I think it's hard waiting for God to bring that person to us. Or if he has already brought them to us, giving us a sign that they are the person.