Is it really possible ?

[CASEY82]

I've been a christian for around 19mths now and god has really done wonders in my life. I was living a life with no purpose and no hope for any kind of future, now im doing a Nursing degree and started working in a hospital today on my first prac. My personality, my likes and dislikes, even my music taste has changed. But the questions i've had lately are....can god really change the parts of our personalities that are pretty much the core of who we are? Im really confused here actually...i've never had a good self image and actually rather hated who i was for a long time...god has changed that somewhat. Where i stand now is that i dont think im fantastic...i think im ok, im a decent person but my personality has become rather bland, im fat - lol i dont see the need to use a nicer word..i have a good 20kgs to lose still...yes i have been a heck of a lot fatter...but im still rather large....im not attractive....im average....im not good looking at all really...i have half decent eyes and thats about it.

My confusion comes from a friend of mine who says that this kind of thinking isnt right...and not good for me. She says that i am pretty and not fat - my friend never lies! as in really never! Normally i can take any piece of advice she gives me and find an element of truth that makes me look toward chaging my actions/opinions etc but i cant seem to see what she see's? Everyone in my life up until now had always confirmed that i lucked out in the looks department. I know god created us each perfectly....but that doesnt mean we all have to look gorgeous does it? cant god create people who arent pretty as well? It doesnt bother me that im not gorgeous like her....really it doesnt. I just have to change the way i view myself - in other words not see myself as a second rate nobody who isnt worth much. While my thinking has changed a little....i still dont see that im worth much...im ok but nothing fantastic or anything, and this holds me back from really being who i am and doing things i enjoy...eg i wont do couples dacncing cause i think well who would want to dance with me when there will be alot better choices. I dont know how to see this kind of thought as anything but truth....i pray about it all the time...but i just wonder...can the inner most parts of our personlity really change?

Casey

 

[Elijah2]

Hi Casey,

I've been a christian for around 19mths now and god has really done wonders in my life.
That's great!
I was living a life with no purpose and no hope for any kind of future, now im doing a Nursing degree and started working in a hospital today on my first prac.
Well done, you must feel great to have accomplished what you have?
My personality, my likes and dislikes, even my music taste has changed.
That's great, your new mind is being created!
But the questions i've had lately are....can god really change the parts of our personalities that are pretty much the core of who we are?
Now beauty is only skin-deep, but he can change your attitude, your short-comings, your broken-heart and your complete lifestyel. But, remember that Rome wasn't built in day!

Well, I guess if you go back in your past can you say how much self-control, patience, faithfulness, gentleness, goodness, and kindness that you had in your life. And now is that beginning to blossom?
Im really confused here actually...i've never had a good self image and actually rather hated who i was for a long time...god has changed that somewhat.
Well, you keep on accepting that and keep on thanking our Lord Jesus Christ for what HE has done in your life. And don't let Satan and his forces that roam around like a roaring lion trying to devour you and take those thoughts from you.

If they come at you, then you tell them to get in Jesus' Name.
Where i stand now is that i dont think im fantastic...i think im ok, im a decent person but my personality has become rather bland, im fat - lol i dont see the need to use a nicer word..i have a good 20kgs to lose still...yes i have been a heck of a lot fatter...but im still rather large....im not attractive....im average....im not good looking at all really...i have half decent eyes and thats about it.
My dear, I said at the start, beauty is only skin deep. Our Lord knows your heart, and overweight problems are hard things to change.

And I will say to you, don't let this get to you. You are who you are, and in the eyes of our Lord and anyone you treat in hospital you are a special and wonderful person.

Our Lord will guide you, and His Will, will be done through you.

My confusion comes from a friend of mine who says that this kind of thinking isnt right...and not good for me.
Of course it isn't good for you. And I guess your friend is trying to give you something positive and being an encourager.
She says that i am pretty and not fat - my friend never lies!
My dear sister, well there you are.
as in really never!
Normally i can take any piece of advice she gives me and find an element of truth that makes me look toward chaging my actions/opinions etc but i cant seem to see what she see's?
Well if you consider yourself to be overweight, then do something about it. Change your eating habits and stop eating take away food.

There are plenty of good diet books around.

Now if your overweight is due to normal family genes, then accept yourself who you are and love yourself as much as our Lord Jesus CHrist loves you.
Everyone in my life up until now had always confirmed that i lucked out in the looks department.
Nasty people with nasty minds have nothing nice to say.

As I said before that beauty is only skin deep.

This war that is going on with you right now is instigated by Satan and his forces through other people, and through your mind which is a battleground for most Christians.
I know god created us each perfectly....but that doesnt mean we all have to look gorgeous does it?
Amen sister. My wife for years has become overweight and she has tried all things to lose weight, well my dear sister, I have been married to my dear wife for 45 years and I love her as much as I did when I married her.
cant god create people who arent pretty as well? It doesnt bother me that im not gorgeous like her....really it doesnt. I just have to change the way i view myself - in other words not see myself as a second rate nobody who isnt worth much. While my thinking has changed a little....i still dont see that im worth much...im ok but nothing fantastic or anything, and this holds me back from really being who i am and doing things i enjoy...eg i wont do couples dacncing cause i think well who would want to dance with me when there will be alot better choices. I dont know how to see this kind of thought as anything but truth....i pray about it all the time...but i just wonder...can the inner most parts of our personlity really change?
My dear sister, if you are concerned, then the best way is to change your diet, and eat good food.

It won't happen overnight, and there is no quickfix, but stop knocking yourself because you will overcome and conquer the works of the enemy.

Love in CHrist

 

[Sketcher]

God can change any aspect of us that He wishes to. Whether He will choose to do so remains to be seen, because He has different plans for each of us. Plans that take advantage of our strengths and weaknesses in order to make us effective custom made tools for expanding and growing His kingdom.

He has changed a very core part of my personality, but not completely. By nature, I am very shy. I gave this part of my life to God, asking Him to make me socially better so I could be a more effective witness. He did that. I still have shy moments, but I'm not shy in a crippling way anymore. He has used this in turn, to use me to bring people into youth groups/campus ministries and build them up. However, the shyness is still there when I'm in something for my own gain or when I want to meet girls. Making networks for jobs and finding girls to date aren't sinful pursuits unless we make them that way, but it definitely speaks to me about where He blesses me and why.

 

[bunced]

Read Psalm 139 - it's talking about how God took so much delight in making you and how amazingly fantastic he thinks every bit of you is - you are made exactly how he wants you, and he thinks you are the best thing since sliced bread

 

[swill8295]

I've been a christian for around 19mths now and god has really done wonders in my life. I was living a life with no purpose and no hope for any kind of future, now im doing a Nursing degree and started working in a hospital today on my first prac. My personality, my likes and dislikes, even my music taste has changed. But the questions i've had lately are....can god really change the parts of our personalities that are pretty much the core of who we are? Im really confused here actually...i've never had a good self image and actually rather hated who i was for a long time...god has changed that somewhat. Where i stand now is that i dont think im fantastic...i think im ok, im a decent person but my personality has become rather bland, im fat - lol i dont see the need to use a nicer word..i have a good 20kgs to lose still...yes i have been a heck of a lot fatter...but im still rather large....im not attractive....im average....im not good looking at all really...i have half decent eyes and thats about it.

My confusion comes from a friend of mine who says that this kind of thinking isnt right...and not good for me. She says that i am pretty and not fat - my friend never lies! as in really never! Normally i can take any piece of advice she gives me and find an element of truth that makes me look toward chaging my actions/opinions etc but i cant seem to see what she see's? Everyone in my life up until now had always confirmed that i lucked out in the looks department. I know god created us each perfectly....but that doesnt mean we all have to look gorgeous does it? cant god create people who arent pretty as well? It doesnt bother me that im not gorgeous like her....really it doesnt. I just have to change the way i view myself - in other words not see myself as a second rate nobody who isnt worth much. While my thinking has changed a little....i still dont see that im worth much...im ok but nothing fantastic or anything, and this holds me back from really being who i am and doing things i enjoy...eg i wont do couples dacncing cause i think well who would want to dance with me when there will be alot better choices. I dont know how to see this kind of thought as anything but truth....i pray about it all the time...but i just wonder...can the inner most parts of our personlity really change?

Casey

Worrying about how you measure up to others doesn't profit you at all. There are plenty of good looking people to go around that still aren't good looking enough in their own eyes. And the people that do look good in their own eyes may have to downplay others and magnify themselves above all, which is also a very bad thing. Good looks are ultimately subjective, but there are certainly looks that stand out. Did you know that Jesus didn't stand out or look beautiful? David too (when compared with Saul). King Saul was a gorgeous man who had everything that anyone could ever desire on the exterior, and could have been immediately elected in a position like US President today, but his heart was not with God and he was proud of himself in a bad way. Another thing to consider is that when someone always wants more, they are always poor. If someone thinks they don't look good enough, they want to look better, so they buy more cosmetics, and spend lots of money on other things they don't need. But they might never be happy, you might never find contentment with this outlook. When the Lord created his creation, women didn't need to wear makeup or bolster their own self image to feel good. It wasn't necessarily because God's original creation looked "good" by todays standards. Notice that a major mark of man's downfall was the need to wear clothes because Adam and Eve realized they were naked. In a similar way, women today are driven by the same urge - they feel naked when they don't fit in with others or wear make-up. I'm not saying don't wear make-up.

Psalm 101:5
Whoever slanders his neighbor in secret, him will I put to silence; whoever has haughty eyes and a proud heart, him will I not endure.

Proverbs 6:16-25



16 There are six things the LORD hates,
seven that are detestable to him:
17 haughty eyes,
a lying tongue,
hands that shed innocent blood,
18 a heart that devises wicked schemes,
feet that are quick to rush into evil, 19 a false witness who pours out lies
and a man who stirs up dissension among brothers.

Proverbs 16:18
Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall.

Isaiah 53:2


2 He grew up before him like a tender shoot,
and like a root out of dry ground.
He had no beauty or majesty to attract us to him,
nothing in his appearance that we should desire him.


Ecclesiastes 1:8
All things are wearisome, more than one can say. The eye never has enough of seeing, nor the ear its fill of hearing.

Haggai 1:6
You have planted much, but have harvested little. You eat, but never have enough. You drink, but never have your fill. You put on clothes, but are not warm. You earn wages, only to put them in a purse with holes in it."

Matthew 6:26-40


26Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life[a]? 28"And why do you worry about clothes? See how the lilies of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. 30If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? 31So do not worry, saying, 'What shall we eat?' or 'What shall we drink?' or 'What shall we wear?' 32For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. 34Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.

 

[dimwhitt]

concerning you
God wants to maximize the personality He gave you
think about the differnt authors of the bible
each unique with unique lives and experiences, expressions and cultures but they all spoke for God
God burns away the bad only not the life affirming energentic and winsome attitude those all make God look good

concerning your looks
excercise and confidence
it will do wonders
good looking women are confident women
i bet ur dad didnt think much of you did he???