Is it possible to lust after your spouse?

Avniel said:

Who picks what is excessive and who picks what is normal for a human being?

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dallasapple said:

The person you "expect" to have consentual sex with..I can not DECIDE for my husband that having sex with me 4 times a day is NOT "excesive" FOR HIM if he tells me it IS too much for him and vice versa..Im a human being ..but I dont fit in a "box" where whats NOT excessive for someone else means its NOT excessive FOR me..

Dallas

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Avniel said:

So if once a week is excessive to a spouse then what?

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Avniel said:

So if once a week is excessive to a spouse then what?

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LinkH said:

The Greek word translated 'lust' is a word that means 'desire', but throughout the New Testament it is used for inappropriate desires.

Paul wrote in Romans 7,
"for I had not known lust, except the law had said 'Thou shalt not covet'."

It is my belief that coveting involves desiring things that are not your own. The commandment, which says "Thou shalt not covet" gives some examples. One is "thy neighbor's wife, or anything that thy neighbor hath."

The neighbor 'has' his wife. I Corinthians 7 says "let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband."

Therefore, I do not see sexual desire for one's spouse to be lust, since we have 'rights' to one another. As Paul puts it, the husband and wife have 'power' over one another's bodies.

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