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Is it possible to just drink a couple?

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I ended up going to bar tonight with some friends as last week here. It was fine. Felt a lil awkward not drinking but no conpulsions or anything like that. It is something I want to get use to so it is like a common thing, I know when you try new things like this it is uncomfortable at first, but after some time it becomes a norm for you. I just dont want it to be where I think that alcohol has control of me where I know it doesnt, I can be around it, I can always choose not too drink, I just told me friends I wasnt drinking and no big deal was made. In the past I always worried that they would not accept me or think that I am a stick in the mud or something. I of course want to be able to socialize in other ways outside of bars I just dont find that is necessary to completley avoiding it as that is giving power to the alcohol. I trust god will give me the strenght to stay that way.
 
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I ended up going to bar tonight with some friends as last week here. It was fine. Felt a lil awkward not drinking but no conpulsions or anything like that. It is something I want to get use to so it is like a common thing, I know when you try new things like this it is uncomfortable at first, but after some time it becomes a norm for you. I just dont want it to be where I think that alcohol has control of me where I know it doesnt, I can be around it, I can always choose not too drink, I just told me friends I wasnt drinking and no big deal was made. In the past I always worried that they would not accept me or think that I am a stick in the mud or something. I of course want to be able to socialize in other ways outside of bars I just dont find that is necessary to completley avoiding it as that is giving power to the alcohol. I trust god will give me the strenght to stay that way.

Cool... Just be careful.. U also may want to go back to aa and get a sponsor suggestion they too will help u. u dont have to Allow alcohol control u, agreed. However consider not putting urself In unque situations sort of. U luckd Out.. U had supportive buds tonight Thats cool im glad.. Positives vibes coming ur way..also keep in mind God doesnt want u to be in arms Way of situations either. Plez consider that.
Smile always,
 
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Cool... Just be careful.. U also may want to go back to aa and get a sponsor suggestion they too will help u. u dont have to Allow alcohol control u, agreed. However consider not putting urself In unque situations sort of. U luckd Out.. U had supportive buds tonight Thats cool im glad.. Positives vibes coming ur way..also keep in mind God doesnt want u to be in arms Way of situations either. Plez consider that.
Smile always,


Thanks and no point for me to get a sponser right now. I am moving in 1.5 weeks back to the states. I felt that it was on me though, not everyone in the group knew I wasnt drinking and some had bought me some shots which I passed to others. I was drinking a coke and maybe some thought is was a mix drink. It wasnt difficult. I feel more than luck to it and that god is giving me the strength.I drove there too so I was able to DD for people and I will keep doing that as it makes it easier to explain to ppl. I just say I am driving tonight...no big thing. It made me a lil upset thought because someone else there that I worked with a higher ranking had drank some and drove, I mentioned something to him and he said he just had a couple..but here in germany the legal limit is so low 2 drinks can easily set you over and I saw him take a couple of shots. grr. Well that was me in the past, I cant judge I just alwys try to help others not make the same mistakes. With all that being out sober I see the dullness to the bar life and not something that I want to be seeking out. Sure if there is an event with friends and it happpens to be at a bar Im not going to avoid it out of fear, I am just not going to make it a weekend activity like it has been for so long.
 
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