Once again, your hormones are your problem. Making a woman responsible for YOU is ridiculous.
As a wife and mother of 2 sons, I have NEVER EVER seen any of the three of them turn into a big drooling pile of testosterone around a woman, any woman including their wives or significant others as they became adults. As teenagers, there were a few sort of embarrassing moments at water parks and the beach, but again, even though those hormones were obviously raging, they had the self-control to act like respectable young men. If you can't do that, well, my first advice would be to grow up.
I'm not making a woman responsible for me, stop trying to post what I never said.
A woman is responsible for herself, which is the point. The woman will suffer the consequences of an unwanted pregnancy and if she has sex irresponsibly, will be left alone with her child. In times past, my parents age, in order for a male to have sex, it meant getting married. In my time, it meant at least being engaged to the person. Today, I'm not sure, but the television and movies show that it's for pleasure, nothing more.
I never seen a man turn into a big drooling pile of testosterone, but males behave differently when not around females, especially their mothers. I suspect your sons do as well.
The facts of life are this, both females and males are looking to mate. They have unconscious standards for finding a suitable mate. Females generally look for a
male who can provide for them and potential children. So, they look for a male who has a stable job and good social standing and are respectful towards them. Women rarely, accept a potential male partner who has no prospects in life and is at the bottom economically. Instead, women generally seek males across or up the ladder. This is different for young females who often go for the bad-boys. However, as they mature, they turn toward the more successful males.
Males generally look for a stable woman, who can care for his household, his potential children. Males also know that a woman want's a male who is stable in his job or career and has good social standards.
However, males are far more driven to have sex than females. All you have to do is look at how many prostitutes and strip clubs are for males verses females.
When I was growing up, the magazine racks were filled with magazines for women. The emphasis was how to attract a mate. The few men's magazines were about women displaying themselves as sex objects. Why did these sell? Because that's what women and men were attracted to buy.
As a male, I know the difference between females and males. In his book,
"When Men Behave Badly," Dr David M. Buss, evolutionary phycologists,
explains the differences between female and male attractions and why we see
so many conflicts today between women and men out in the world.
Most of the conflicts are driven by desire for a mate and the differences in behavior in women and men trying to find one.