Is it possible for God to save any marriage?

[Leanna]

Since you are married and are now 'one' this might be an opportunity for you two to grow together as you each learn about each other. Your wife is probably not missing the fact that you "feel nothing" she probably already knows. It sounds like you are unwilling to include her in your life and that is probably why you feel nothing.

 

[kula2000]

Since you are married and are now 'one' this might be an opportunity for you two to grow together as you each learn about each other. Your wife is probably not missing the fact that you "feel nothing" she probably already knows. It sounds like you are unwilling to include her in your life and that is probably why you feel nothing.

Not sure is she knows, but I do include her in my life and I've been discussing my depression with her. I haven't been shutting her out or turning away from her, I've been trying to cleave to her as much as possible.

I'm meeting with my pastor tomorrow and I'm praying that he'll be able to help. I'm not going to lie but thoughts of hopelessness have been rolling around in my thoughts because I don't know how this will ever get fixed.

 

[Febe]

No she isn't, as I first want to go by myself to get advice first and then I'll see how to involve my wife. I don't know how to tell her how a feel completely and don't even know if I should, as it would crush her to know.

You are praying and You have a plan - good!

 

[MaraPetra]

You're taking the right steps. Keep praying!

 

[Chosen One]

Many of us that have been married for years loose the passion for the one we married- so what you are experiencing is really not that uncommon. Married life is routine and with that comes boredom.

Angst before a wedding is not that uncommon. Everyone has it.

Did you marry for money?

 

[kula2000]

Did you marry for money?

No I did not, I'm the bread winner of the family.

 

[invisiblebabe]

Clinical depression is a neurobiological problem.... its origins are in the brain's chemistry and the brain's problems with regulating the level of various neurotransmitters, including serotonin.

If you have clinical depression, it isn't something you can just "snap out of." You might need medicine, just as someone with diabetes needs to take insulin.

I am bipolar, myself.... before my disorder turned into full blown bipolar, I did have unipolar depression (which is the same as clinical depression). I can tell you firsthand that feeling like you don't love her is not your fault. I feel that way sometimes about my husband, but we both know that it is the bipolar talking and it isn't my true feelings. It's my body being screwed up and being unable to regulate my emotions properly.

Definitely work to change it...counseling is wonderful and helps a ton... but if it isn't enough, also consider meds as an option!