Is it okay not to cry?

[anteloperunner]

I recently lost my younger brother. At his funeral I had alot of people freaking out at me because I wasn't crying. I also didn't cry at my parents funeral either.

Is it okay not to cry when a loved one dies or am I just being really insensitive?

 

[rocklife]

if you want to cry, especially in private, you should cry.

if you don't want to, I don't see a problem. cry when you want to though, its healthy

 

[countryladyca]

I felt same way with you. Recently I lost very close cousin more like Uncle passed away by accident. I wanted to cry but couldn't. I agree with other that cry is very healthy in positive way to move on. Sometime we have to let control go that we try to be in control of our lives and block out a lot of hurts like you lose your parents then your brother plus you might have hurt a lot to close out and try be in control to make sure not get hurt again. That is very common for some people like me.

My family have been very good to us but outside of family is another story. We are like Jesus only different is he can forgive them and deal differently way to deal with.

I am very heartache for that family (mother and sisters) who lost young only one son/brother in two years ago and now hubby/father. They are very good gentlemen with big hearts. I can cry if I am with them but I am in different province and they are in other province.

Maybe you and I have been in stressed lives. when you are ready to normal grief. It is okay to have emotions and yes it is scare or hold back to burst out. Have you wondering that have you laugh.

When I am alone now and will try to have candle to focus on flame to think of my cousin with good times, support when we have hard time. Like I am in moment with flashback. THink of flame is our light through god and holy spirit together. To let our true emotion out.

maybe you try that. Sorry for long page

 

[jsimms615]

I recently lost my younger brother. At his funeral I had alot of people freaking out at me because I wasn't crying. I also didn't cry at my parents funeral either.

Is it okay not to cry when a loved one dies or am I just being really insensitive?

No, I don't think it is wrong not to cry. People grieve in different ways. I'm sorry for your loss.

 

[Bamboo_Chicken]

Allison, it's ok not to cry and you aren't a terrible person if you don't. Everybody deals with things in their own ways - there is not 'right' way to grieve. As other have said, if you can cry, then cry. If you can't, then don't. People might find it strange, but most people don't know how to deal with grief either . Do this in your own time my friend, but please make sure you've got someone to hug you if you need it too

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[anteloperunner]

Thanks everyone. Emotions are not generally something my family expressed in public. I have been grieving for him in my own way just not with tears.



Steffi - you should know by now that my time is as fast as humanly possible. which doesnt work for this sort of thing. And don't worry my roommates have been offerign plenty of hugs

 

[Bamboo_Chicken]

Thanks everyone. Emotions are not generally something my family expressed in public. I have been grieving for him in my own way just not with tears.

Steffi - you should know by now that my time is as fast as humanly possible. which doesnt work for this sort of thing. And don't worry my roommates have been offerign plenty of hugs

Not everyone grieves with tears - I'm glad you know that Hun. And yes, I know you like to do things quickly and that this is something very different . This is something that will take time though, but know that that's ok too. There isn't a set period of time and there's no set way of how you should feel.

We're here if you ever need us Hun

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[faithgoeson]

You have the right to cry, and the right not to cry. No one can tell you how to grieve. I know I am the type who hates to cry in public. My feelings are private to me. When people think I'm so strong, though, that can be hard to swallow because inside I'm a big mess. I just give it to God, though. He's my best friend.

 

[HolyGhostFilledMama]

People greive in different ways. You do what's best for you and don't worry about what other people think. As long as you give yourself chances to grieve and go through the process you will be ok. It's not easy. But in time it will get easier.

 

[Amin]

I remember when my father and mother died.
I didn't cry at either one of their
funerals
It wasn't out of disrespect, I just didn't need to cry then.
I did a couple of months later, but not at their funerals.
This might sound really crazy, but
I cried like a baby when i lost my 11yr. old Labrador Retriever.
Don't know why, things just happened that way.
Chuck.