Is it better to write it down or forget it?

[alphacheese]

Do you guys think it's better to write things down that you don't like but have little or no control over or try to forget them? For instance things you dislike about your career, spouse, significant other, friends, etc. If you can do nothing about it would you rather it be something in a journal entry or better left alone and try to forget about it?

 

[GoodNewsJournalist]

My personal thought would be to write about it.

If you write about it, and have an emotional reaction, you will be able to accept the condition as it is, and then once you accept it, you can change it.

 

[Lirpa]

I usually try to forget about it. Which is not the healthy way...
My feelings tend to haunt me in my dreams, and while I'm zoning out at work.
The BEST way IS to write every detail down, how you feel about it, what was the negitive and positive learning experience from it, and...Throw it away.

Or keep it if you think it will help you in the future.

 

[ido]

Do you guys think it's better to write things down that you don't like but have little or no control over or try to forget them? For instance things you dislike about your career, spouse, significant other, friends, etc. If you can do nothing about it would you rather it be something in a journal entry or better left alone and try to forget about it?

Hey - I remember you!

I used to journal my anxieties all the time. Now, I hash them out in my head - usually while cleaning or gardening. Apparently, I don't have much to worry about because my floors need to be swept and I have weeds growing in my garden.

 

[mina]

i have nothing to add to this thread, i just wanted to say hi and welcome back

 

[Keri]

Do you guys think it's better to write things down that you don't like but have little or no control over or try to forget them? For instance things you dislike about your career, spouse, significant other, friends, etc. If you can do nothing about it would you rather it be something in a journal entry or better left alone and try to forget about it?

JEFF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Dude, it's been way too long. I was just thinking about you like literally yesterday. I was talking with my boyfriend about Bear Grylls and how awesome he is and it reminded me of the video I saw that you made... anyway. Good to see you!

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

I wouldn't recommend writing anything potentially hurtful that you wouldn't want a loved one to find and read if you died suddenly. Also I think that concentrating on the negative aspects of life probably isn't good for you -- if you are going to write down the bad stuff write down the good stuff about your job, spouse, and so on as well.

 

[GQ Chris]

I am the dude you see scribbling things into a black notebook at Starbucks.

 

[ben0r]

Never forget who you are who what you've been through. Write down everything and realize we're always changing. Don't blind out the past, and just get over it, then use the negative to your advantage. Or just spend more time focusing on Christ

 

[white dove]

If it helps you to journal it, journal it. If it helps you to talk it out, talk it out. Otherwise, faghetaboutit.

 

[Blank123]

i'm a writer, and if something is *really* bugging i have to write it down to get it off of my chest. If its something potentially hurtful to someone else who could accidentally stumble across it i destroy it immediately. but the act of writing out my complaints and such is actually very therapeutic.

 

[antiarte]

Do you guys think it's better to write things down that you don't like but have little or no control over or try to forget them? For instance things you dislike about your career, spouse, significant other, friends, etc. If you can do nothing about it would you rather it be something in a journal entry or better left alone and try to forget about it?

Journal? Never.

I'm not a writer, but the last thing I'd want to do is write down "journal" stuff. If i'm not manipulating literary devices then it's not fun.

 

[sampa]

alphacheese, welcome back. I think journaling can be great, I did up till 1996 and then changed to a prayer journal where the conversations became more between me and the Lord, less the details. Blogs are another way to go. Therepeutic for some but might not work for others.

I did forget some things from a long time ago and am just rereading some stuff that disturbs me, but gives me some answers to why I may be where I am today.

 

[Im_A]

Do you guys think it's better to write things down that you don't like but have little or no control over or try to forget them? For instance things you dislike about your career, spouse, significant other, friends, etc. If you can do nothing about it would you rather it be something in a journal entry or better left alone and try to forget about it?

neither. embrace them and accept them.

 

[ben0r]

i'm a writer, and if something is *really* bugging i have to write it down to get it off of my chest. If its something potentially hurtful to someone else who could accidentally stumble across it i destroy it immediately. but the act of writing out my complaints and such is actually very therapeutic.

Well said. Writing actually helps me get my thoughts out, sometimes I have a jumbled notion of whats going on in my head. Writing helps me get everything out in a relatively organized manner.

Also, it's interesting to read what I've written a couple years down the road. Helps me know where I've been...

 

[alphacheese]

Hey all! Thanks for the welcome back I've been unbelievably busy... and still am. Thanks for all the opinions. I like that idea of a prayer journal. I like to take all of this to Christ and it would be nice to write down my feelings and thoughts after praying about it

 

[sampa]

alphacheese, to save money I started going to dollar stores and finding hardback cover journals and then use cool magazine (catalogs are free) pics, scripture cards and rubber cement to stick it. My current one has a surfer girl and wallet card (that goes in keychains) from Christian bookstores, "Where God guides, he provides. Isaiah43:2-4 When you pass through the waters...."

Bookstores have the more stylish journals. But it gets expensive. They are very encouraging to go back to also years later and see how far you've come in your walk, what you struggled with and if your still struggling. CHrist bless you.

 

[radhead]

I've never written anything down.

Except for once last year I wrote a letter to God asking him to help me with a longtime troubling issue. I probably got the idea from something I read online here.

 

[ido]

Hey all! Thanks for the welcome back I've been unbelievably busy... and still am. Thanks for all the opinions. I like that idea of a prayer journal. I like to take all of this to Christ and it would be nice to write down my feelings and thoughts after praying about it

It sounds like you could use some prayer. I'll be praying for you.