This is about writing romance into stories, not reading romance novels.
I'm currently working on a science fiction story, where the two main characters are married. There's no smut or anything, their romance isn't what drives the story (but the fact that they want to escape a situation they're stuck in and start a family is what drives them). Mainly there's hugs, kisses, tender moments; it would be rated PG.
My problem is I worry that this is bad for me. I'm single and have never been in a real relationship. When I write about or think about the characters' close moments, I myself can feel what they're feeling. I feel at times that I wish I had their relationship. I worry that I'm living vicariously through these characters. I feel good thinking about them. Sometimes when I'm anxious or upset, I imagine the one character comforting his wife, and that makes ME feel better, as though I was her, almost.
The Bible says list is a sin. Is this lust? The Bible also says to fix your minds on what is pure and good. I want to write them being in a loving relationship, and being good to each other.
So I'm struggling because on the whole I don't think the concept is bad, but I'm having trouble drawing the line as to what is or isn't good for me. I'm prone to over thinking things, not sure if I just need to chill.
I'm currently working on a science fiction story, where the two main characters are married. There's no smut or anything, their romance isn't what drives the story (but the fact that they want to escape a situation they're stuck in and start a family is what drives them). Mainly there's hugs, kisses, tender moments; it would be rated PG.
My problem is I worry that this is bad for me. I'm single and have never been in a real relationship. When I write about or think about the characters' close moments, I myself can feel what they're feeling. I feel at times that I wish I had their relationship. I worry that I'm living vicariously through these characters. I feel good thinking about them. Sometimes when I'm anxious or upset, I imagine the one character comforting his wife, and that makes ME feel better, as though I was her, almost.
The Bible says list is a sin. Is this lust? The Bible also says to fix your minds on what is pure and good. I want to write them being in a loving relationship, and being good to each other.
So I'm struggling because on the whole I don't think the concept is bad, but I'm having trouble drawing the line as to what is or isn't good for me. I'm prone to over thinking things, not sure if I just need to chill.