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Is being single, and able to handle it, a blessing?

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timewerx said:
Don't make generalizations of women according to Eve. Don't forget at one point, a female disciple of Christ got elevated above the others by Jesus Himself.

Jesus did not held such low views of women as you do.
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Yes, but that's one. Through the bible there were other women that had great faith, and God answered them. But they were few.
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And facts contradict your statements. In the world's most corrupt nations with highest rates of human rights abuses, their organizational structures are dominated by men.
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Power corrupts. The same thing would've happened if women were in their position. Not all can handle it. Applies to power, money, food & drink, singleness. Who can handle it?

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And if you're so worried of women's powerful "corrupting influences", perhaps, you're not as strong against temptations as you thought you are
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Proven that I am surrounded by temptation, yet I drink only water, eat bland food, never succumb to women, and don't partake in comfort and "fun"?
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Paul most likely said these things under a strong cultural context of their time and geography.
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Yes, but it matches God's words. If it were only cultural, it shouldn't have matched God directive.
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On the other hand, Jesus taught things that are reserved only to His closest disciples (are you one?).
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I do what I'm told to do. That's being led. You would recognize this by a person's doings, being the exact opposite of what you find in society. Absolute freedom to "live life", yet he does none of it.
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John 15:15
I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you.
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How is this relevant?
 
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prudent_commenter said:
How is this relevant?
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On the subject of "Christ is the head of man and man is the head of woman" according to Paul.

Yet Jesus said. "We're friends" in John 15:15. as opposed to Jesus being the "head" of His disciples.

Think of the implications on women.

As I've said before, you're close but your prejudice on women is holding you back. Jesus did not teach us to think that way.
 
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timewerx said:
I think your prejudice against women makes it very hard for you to see any good women out there.
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I don't care for what a person says. I care about what that person does. I look at what they do, and how they behave.

Besides, I'm not supposed to find many good ones, but only one. There is only one for me, and chosen by God Himself, not me.
 
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Is being single a blessing? Maybe, if you have the ability to deal with it. Sounds like you have this.

Is the ability to handle singleness a blessing? Yes. That's what Jesus and Paul seemed to say.

See 1 Corinthians 7:32-35. Paul basically says that an unmarried person is devoted to the Lord and not distracted by the needs of his spouse. Now, this is interpreted by some to mean that a person can do "more ministry" as a single. But I don't think that's what Paul says here. I mean, if that's the case, why are all the pastors and church elders typically married? Did they make a mistake? Is marriage getting in the way of their ministry? What Paul says here, I believe, is that if you aren’t distracted by the desire for marriage, then maybe you have the gift of singleness.

So I believe the "gift of singleness" refers to an ability that God gives certain people. I'm not 100% sure, but that's what I lean towards. Now, that being said, I do believe it's possible that there's some Christians who lack this "gift" who still aren't able to find mates. There might be all sorts of reasons for this. Maybe they failed to prepare for marriage (financially, for instance) Maybe they have bad social skills. Maybe they're bad at talking to the opposite sex. Maybe they live somewhere where there's no eligible mates. Maybe they're a new believer in a part of the world where there's no eligible Christian partners.

In Matthew 19, Jesus mentions eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others (e.g., castration) Maybe this can also mean them being affected by other men and by worldly problems.
 
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