Is being single, and able to handle it, a blessing?

Veni · Monday at 8:31 AM

Revelation 14:4-5
These are those who did not defile themselves with women, for they remained virgins. They follow the Lamb wherever he goes. They were purchased from among mankind and offered as firstfruits to God and the Lamb. No lie was found in their mouths; they are blameless.

Barzel · Monday at 9:00 AM

prudent_commenter said:
I've been pondering this for a lot of time. It's curious even to me.

I've never had a relationship with anyone. This is because I've never felt the need to be with someone. Loneliness has no effect on me. And I've never had uncontrollable desires for sexual intercourse. The desire does exist but it is fully controlled. When I say NO, it's NO - that sort of thing. (The same applies to every other lust, but it's beyond the scope of this post). Since sexual lust has no effect, and since loneliness is cancelled out, this was possible.

The curious thing loneliness is that, instead of having an effect, it's actually more than that: I never feel lonely, even when completely isolated. This has been from the very beginning. It's not something new, it's not due to advancement of age, and what else may be.

What you're describing could be beneficial, yes, so it could be considered a blessing.

prudent_commenter said:
Another thing would be that, whenever I had the opportunity to fornicate, I experienced weird sensations. Bad feelings, of guilt, of grief, of sadness... anything but what the actual sensation should be. And, because of this, I've remained pure for all this time. The opportunities were not set-up by me, but more societal inclination. But the intent was clear, and it has kept me away from it. Similarly, a woman can never seduce me. No matter what she does, it doesn't work. The body listens to the mind, and mind processes the situation as-is. And until the full-picture is seen, nothing is done.

Something similar is happening with people too. There are some signs that happen when trying to maintain a friendship relationship with someone that will drag me down. I feel as if something is weighing me down. A burden, something unclean - I don't know how to explain it.

As I've noticed in the world today, men are incapable of living without women. It may be just my bias, but I rarely see men that can - without committing sin - be without women. Even those that claim to be so, there's still something there.
I believe it is God's influence when one that is in full control of sexual desire, and not be affected by loneliness.

What do you make of this?

What you're describing here could easily be a double-edged sword. I'm not declaring definitively that it is, only suggesting that it could be. The reason I say that is because those reactions--guilt, grief, etc.--in relation to specific situations could be the result of some sort of trauma. They are, in my case. I was abused, so a lot of my reactions to things are skewed.

You can be disinclined to sin, to hang out with people you can see will drag you down, etc. without feeling any particular guilt or grief. Perhaps you have those feelings for perfectly healthy reasons, but if you have any trauma in your past, it may be worth considering that your emotional responses might need some adjustment.

Please take that with a grain of salt; I'm not a medical professional of any stripe, and can only offer insights based on my own experience as someone diagnosed with PTSD due to abuse.

prudent_commenter · Monday at 10:06 AM

Barzel said:
What you're describing here could easily be a double-edged sword. I'm not declaring definitively that it is, only suggesting that it could be. The reason I say that is because those reactions--guilt, grief, etc.--in relation to specific situations could be the result of some sort of trauma. They are, in my case. I was abused, so a lot of my reactions to things are skewed.

Nothing bad ever happened to me. I have no traumas.

Barzel said:
You can be disinclined to sin, to hang out with people you can see will drag you down, etc. without feeling any particular guilt or grief. Perhaps you have those feelings for perfectly healthy reasons, but if you have any trauma in your past, it may be worth considering that your emotional responses might need some adjustment.

I have these sensations on all bad things. Whether they are situations, people, places. I never know the truth what is happening, but I know something is there, if if people lie about it.

Whenever I am not meant to do something, I get these "messages". It can be a vision, a dream, a feeling. It's how it is for me. Either what I am not meant to do, or what is evil. The two seemed to be connected, somehow.

And this distinction between good and evil is off the charts for me. Even when I don't know which is which, I know.

RileyG · Monday at 12:37 PM

DragonFox91 said:
Yes, it is a blessing for you right now b/c it's what God's called you to right now. He has made everyone different & placed everyone in a different situation. This is to glorify him & help sanctify the saved

As a single person, I believe it’s what God wants of me.

prudent_commenter · Tuesday at 4:43 AM

Veni said:
Revelation 14:4-5
These are those who did not defile themselves with women, for they remained virgins. They follow the Lamb wherever he goes. They were purchased from among mankind and offered as firstfruits to God and the Lamb. No lie was found in their mouths; they are blameless.

I wish I had the theological studies to expand this.

Some part of me feels very strongly about this verse. (There are parts of the bible which the body strongly reacts to. Maybe it reacts to what applies?).

It may also explain the protection (I haven't described it, yet. I am protected by God at all times. I am warned in advance, told of things, granted protection and justice. It's complicated, and lots to write on the subject...)

timewerx · Tuesday at 6:36 AM

prudent_commenter said:
It may also explain the protection (I haven't described it, yet. I am protected by God at all times. I am warned in advance, told of things, granted protection and justice. It's complicated, and lots to write on the subject...)

Does that include aging? Have you stopped aging as well?

ozso · Tuesday at 6:47 AM

RileyG said:
As a single person, I believe it’s what God wants of me.

The way I look at it is if God wanted me to have a wife, I would have a wife.

prudent_commenter · Tuesday at 7:29 AM

timewerx said:
Does that include aging? Have you stopped aging as well?

It's a theory at this point, and never gotten more than the surface with it. However, it would appear as if it is some kind of backwards-aging. Everything gets better with the advancement. Even looks are better than before. Everything grows significantly.

I'm debating the subject with others.

Why exactly do you ask?

timewerx · Tuesday at 12:06 PM

prudent_commenter said:
It's a theory at this point, and never gotten more than the surface with it. However, it would appear as if it is some kind of backwards-aging. Everything gets better with the advancement. Even looks are better than before. Everything grows significantly.

I'm debating the subject with others.

Why exactly do you ask?

I seemed to have reversed in aging but I'm not sure it has anything to do with being single because I've been single all my life, never been in a relationship.

It happened when I hit forties. In my mid-thirties photos, AI estimates my age to be early thirties. Now in my mid forties, AI revised the estimate to mid twenties. Some people (strangers) ask me if I'm of voting age already.

I was thinking if it has to do with being single then I'd have constantly maintained the same age in appearance.

It's causing me some problems already proving my identity to AI (with AI facial recognition-enabled account creation).

Chatgpt told me that AI is either mistaking me for falsifying my credentials, or using fake ID, bot, and/or mistaking me for AI (or using AI filters). I never used AI filter nor any image filter for that matter.

Ironically, if this goes on and widespread adoption of AI, it's potentially going to cause me major problems with money. At some point, I won't be able to buy nor sell anymore. The AI-driven system will keep flagging me as fraud or a 'bot' or even a rogue AI.

Chatgpt told, it can also cause problems with AI if I'm spotted by AI in CCTV. That it might confuse the whole video feed as fake and trigger an alarm it's being spoofed.

prudent_commenter · Tuesday at 3:13 PM

timewerx said:
I seemed to have reversed in aging but I'm not sure it has anything to do with being single because I've been single all my life, never been in a relationship.

It happened when I hit forties. In my mid-thirties photos, AI estimates my age to be early thirties. Now in my mid forties, AI revised the estimate to mid twenties. Some people (strangers) ask me if I'm of voting age already.

I was thinking if it has to do with being single then I'd have constantly maintained the same age in appearance.

I've been told of this. I don't think it has anything to do with singleness because I've met people with the same that aged in reverse and had a lot of failed relationships. So it could not be that. It may add to it, but it's not the only thing.

Such people, as they age, they actually get better.

Me personally, I spend a lot of time on preservation of the body and mind. It could be a directive from God, but that's what I do. No corruption, no poison, nothing beyond necessity.

tall73 · Tuesday at 10:40 PM

Matthew 19:10 His disciples said to Him, “If such is the case of the man with his wife, it is better not to marry.” 11 But He said to them, “All cannot accept this saying, but only those to whom it has been given: 12 For there are eunuchs who were born thus from their mother’s womb, and there are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven’s sake. He who is able to accept it, let him accept it.” (NKJV)

timewerx · Tuesday at 10:59 PM

prudent_commenter said:
Me personally, I spend a lot of time on preservation of the body and mind. It could be a directive from God, but that's what I do. No corruption, no poison, nothing beyond necessity.

Ironically, I don't pay a lot of attention to my health. I exercise everyday but I still eat some junk foods. Not a lot, but still. Although the "junk food" I eat is mostly nuts, it might be too salty for many and probably had other toxic ingredients.

I barely drink water as well. Most of my fluid intake is from sweet milk beverages I made myself. In fact, drinking a glass of water in one sitting will literally make me sick. So my "water" is technically "hummingbird nectar" (1 part sugar and 5 parts water - tropical mix). Before I started eating salty nuts, I added more salt to sweet beverages. After a marathon, I'd add enough salt to my drinks, it's nearly as salty as sea water! Salt literally comes off my eyes!

I also work multiple shifts each day. afternoon, evening, and past midnight with some 1 to 2 hr naps in between and sometimes morning too. Stress levels is relatively high.

No food supplements, no meds. I also never visit the doctor because I'm not insured.

On top of this, I also live in one the most polluted cities in the world right next to a very busy street in an apartment where neighbors smoke so I breath 3rd hand cigarette smoke as well.

The Lord did tell me to exercise and limit my meals to just 2 each day, but it wasn't much because I'd do it anyway because it's fun. I skate, run, bike, and lift weights.

But honestly, I don't really desire to live long on Earth. I'd rather die in the next 10 years than live to over a hundred even if I managed to stay fit over the age of 100, I'd rather die sooner than later.

prudent_commenter · Wednesday at 2:18 AM

timewerx said:
Ironically, I don't pay a lot of attention to my health. I exercise everyday but I still eat some junk foods. Not a lot, but still. Although the "junk food" I eat is mostly nuts, it might be too salty for many and probably had other toxic ingredients.

I barely drink water as well. Most of my fluid intake is from sweet milk beverages I made myself. In fact, drinking a glass of water in one sitting will literally make me sick. So my "water" is technically "hummingbird nectar" (1 part sugar and 5 parts water - tropical mix). Before I started eating salty nuts, I added more salt to sweet beverages. After a marathon, I'd add enough salt to my drinks, it's nearly as salty as sea water! Salt literally comes off my eyes!

I also work multiple shifts each day. afternoon, evening, and past midnight with some 1 to 2 hr naps in between and sometimes morning too. Stress levels is relatively high.

No food supplements, no meds. I also never visit the doctor because I'm not insured.

On top of this, I also live in one the most polluted cities in the world right next to a very busy street in an apartment where neighbors smoke so I breath 3rd hand cigarette smoke as well.

The Lord did tell me to exercise and limit my meals to just 2 each day, but it wasn't much because I'd do it anyway because it's fun. I skate, run, bike, and lift weights.

But honestly, I don't really desire to live long on Earth. I'd rather die in the next 10 years than live to over a hundred even if I managed to stay fit over the age of 100, I'd rather die sooner than later.

To each their own.

I keep the body as the temple of God.

I eat very little and spaced, and only drink water.

timewerx · Wednesday at 4:14 AM

prudent_commenter said:
To each their own.

I keep the body as the temple of God.

I eat very little and spaced, and only drink water.

I also eat little. I have a calorie deficit and I'm borderline underweight.

What we take in our mouths matter less as long as we don't do it in excess. This is what matters:

Matthew 15:11
What goes into someone’s mouth does not defile them, but what comes out of their mouth, that is what defiles them.”

prudent_commenter · Wednesday at 4:58 AM

timewerx said:
I also eat little. I have a calorie deficit and I'm borderline underweight.

What we take in our mouths matter less as long as we don't do it in excess. This is what matters:

Matthew 15:11
What goes into someone’s mouth does not defile them, but what comes out of their mouth, that is what defiles them.”

You also mustn't be drunk with anything.

HolyArmor · Wednesday at 10:29 AM

Can I ask how old you are? Male/Female?
You're not alone though because I've been single my whole life and I don't regret it. I've turned down a handful of girls just because something in me didn't feel right about it. I've just in the last 1.5 years turned Christian and a lot of it make sense to me, self reflecting and holding true to my spirit. A lot of times God wants you single. You're not a loser because you're single. Celibacy should be celebrated (and thats no cope) and sex should be reserved to your future spouse. These days, God is teaching me how to be a husband I hope one day to find a God-fearing woman. I trust God 100% and if that's how you naturally feel and operate then so be it, you are made in God's image. I know it can feel like some outcast or exile in society but you would rather please God than to please people.

timewerx · Wednesday at 12:33 PM

prudent_commenter said:
You also mustn't be drunk with anything.

I don't drink wine, nor any fermented drink/food.

There's nothing in the Bible we shouldn't eat nor drink sugar. Fruits have sugar.

And I do need sugar in my drinks. It's something about "osmotic balance" or w/e. It's genetic. It doesn't seem to be a defect because my body's unique hydration management also allows me to thrive in dehydration levels that would be fatal to other people.

prudent_commenter · Wednesday at 12:51 PM

timewerx said:
I don't drink wine, nor any fermented drink/food.

There's nothing in the Bible we shouldn't eat nor drink sugar. Fruits have sugar.

And I do need sugar in my drinks. It's something about "osmotic balance" or w/e. It's genetic. It doesn't seem to be a defect because my body's unique hydration management also allows me to thrive in dehydration levels that would be fatal to other people.

Drunkness is something that clouds your judgement. If what you are doing leads to sin, then that is a form of drunkness.

The bible forbids anything that alters your mind. Thus, it can be anything from food, to drink, to substances, and more; inside and outside the body.

timewerx · Wednesday at 1:35 PM

prudent_commenter said:
Drunkness is something that clouds your judgement. If what you are doing leads to sin, then that is a form of drunkness.

The bible forbids anything that alters your mind. Thus, it can be anything from food, to drink, to substances, and more; inside and outside the body.

Ironically, plain water does that to me by giving me painful headaches from osmotic imbalance leading to swelling of cells.

Similar circumstances killed Bruce Lee but in my case, it's due to genetics, not drugs.

I still drink plain water but only in very small quantities. Even after doing a skate marathon in 100 F heat, I only drink small quantities of plain water. Most hydration comes from sweetened milk beverages.

prudent_commenter · Wednesday at 2:53 PM

tall73 said:
Matthew 19:10 His disciples said to Him, “If such is the case of the man with his wife, it is better not to marry.” 11 But He said to them, “All cannot accept this saying, but only those to whom it has been given: 12 For there are eunuchs who were born thus from their mother’s womb, and there are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven’s sake. He who is able to accept it, let him accept it.” (NKJV)

But why would such people exist? If the purpose of marriage is procreation, then what is the purpose of being single? I would say to dedicate yourself to God. But how are these people chosen for this?

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