Is anyone willing to talk to me?

[kathleenmary]

Please pray for me. I have the feeling to cut right now and I do not know what to do. Please pray for me.

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

I will be praying for you that God would bring you through those urges

 

[Everlasting33]

I will pray for you. I understand how strong the urges can be and I am here to tell you it can be overcome!

Hang in there

 

[Everlasting33]

Please read Romans 8:18

 

[kathleenmary]

Is anyone willing to talk to me? I feel like cutting.

 

[wendyt3350]

I said a for you.

 

[clycleader]

Prayers to you. Please, remember that God loves you and will help you through any struggles you have. I know that you can overcome this. God created you and God loves you. He does not want you to harm yourself. EIther do I. Talk to God. He will listen.
Consider talking with someone about your cutting too. If not a parent, how about pastor? youth leader? a trusted adult?

 

[mom_one]

praying

 

[HOLYROLLER71]

Lord touch this siter,remove all the urges to cut in the name of Jesus,send someone into her path that will listen and show they care,surround her with guardian and ministering angels,bless her in the name of Jesus,amen.

 

[vetobob]

In the name of God the Father and Jesus Christ, his only begotten. I ask that the spirits that putting thoughts of cutting into this girls head be vanquished. In the name of Jesus. I pray that all thoughts of self doubt be removed from her. I ask that you free her Lord. You are the great God. Above you there is none else. You said that whatever we loose on earth will be loosed in heaven and what we bind on earth will also be bound in heaven. Heavenly Father, I ask that you bind the spirits that putting these wicked thoughts into her mind. I pray that you help her to conquer her desire to harm herself. Help her to overcome. In the name of Jesus.
Father, you also said, through your son while he was incarnated here on earth, that where two or more are gathered in your name, there you are with them. As we pray for this girl, that you would set her free from the beings that are putting such evil thoughts in her head. I ask that you move in power to set her free from this addiction. I ask that you cast out this malicious spirit who seeks to harm her.
In the name of Christ, I command all spirits intruding on this girls mind to leave her alone. In the name of the Father and the Son, I command the spirit of cutting to depart from this girl's life. God says to you, let my daughter go.
In the name of Jesus. Amen.

 

[0145xyz]

why do you feel like cutting sweethart? is there any thing you have used to substitute cutting that works for you that you could do now?

 

[Akathist]

Kathlene, you need to call the hotlines we have given you and to talk to your mother about this.

Recovery staff are praying for you!

 

[JacobsDream]

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[Akathist]

Hi there Kathleen,

Recovery staff really do care about you a lot.

We want to do all we can to help you. Yet at the same time we have to see that the rules of cf are followed.

We have this rule that members can not threaten to harm themselves. The reason we have this rule is because it really upsets other members to see this. They get upset and worried that you will hurt yourself. Then they get upset if something happens and you are not on line and they think maybe you did hurt yourself. Then they might start to think they failed you or let you down.

We don't want to cause others this anxiety. But at the same time, we really really want to help someone who is having thoughts of hurting themselves.

This is the balancing act that staff deal with all the time. Typically what we do is we send messages via the private message system to the member and ask them to call hotlines.

I sent you this message, remember:

Hi there Kathleen,


I am sorry that you are feeling bad. I realize it can be hard to think of other ways to cope with things but it is important when you are feeling bad to use good coping skills.


One good coping skill is to get professional help. I think that you need to be seeing a therapist or counselor to help you learn new ways of coping with stresses. Talk to your parents about how you need to get some help. You could also try talking to the counselor at your school or the minister or youth leader at church. The important thing is that you are getting assistance is "real life". That means, getting help from people you see face to face.


CF is a nice place to come for support and fellowship and to learn about christianity but it is not supposed to replace getting help from the people in your life especially in situations as serious as wanting to cut on yourself.


There are professionally trained people who work for these hotlines that might also be able to help you.

1 - 800 - 273 - TALK (I know this hot line works, I checked it not long ago.)

1800 394 HOPE (teen hope line) I have not been able to check on this hotline to see if it works but I have been told they are very good by another member.

While some of the staff have training in helping others, CF rules state that we can not offer professional help and that we must refer you to professionals in situations where your health is at risk.


I must insist that you tell your parents about this and ask for professional help. It is very very important. In the meantime, to talk to someone right away, please use the phone numbers listed here.


I do care about you very much. I know that our talking is not going to help you in the long run. We could chat all night and it might distract you for now, but it will not help you in the long run to get the help you need to over come this problem permenantly.


Please call the phone numbers I gave you here (one of them anyway) Please get some one who is trained to help you learn new ways to cope with all this stress you feel.

Always know, that Christ loves you. Pray. Prayer is very very powerful!

Here is a prayer I say sometimes:

Prayer for times of need:
Dear Lord,

The dark clouds of trouble gather above me, and the grief of torments terrify me. Though I find myself in a state of suffering, I do not complain against you, O Good One, for you are my support and the unshaken rock upon which I place my hope.

You know God the cause of my sorrows, and you continue to look after me. Even in my sufferings, I know that you love me, and it is this very knowledge that strengthens me. Thus hoping in your love and goodness, I shall not allow these assaults to overcome me; rather I will fight with courage, and confident in your help, I shall be victorious.

It is you that guide the world and the fate of morals; thus direct the ship of my life which is assailed by the waves of temptations so that it may reach the calm harbor. Alone, I fight in vain against the tempests of life, for without you I can do nothing. I therefore flee to you, O Good One, and I pray: Come to my aid and save me by Your might, just as you once saved Peter who came to you upon the water. Stretch out your hand to me as you did to him, O Lord of mercy and do not delay.
Amen.




Christ is in our midst!

Xenia

I know that you have written to other staff too and they have also asked you to contact the hotlines.

Here is why calling the hotlines is important:

Hotlines are staffed by trained people. CF has only volunteers and we have to follow the rule to not offer professional counseling even if some of the staff have had training.

The purpose of Christian Forums is not to be a place one goes for professional counseling. Our purpose is to be a place of fellowship with one another and to encourage each other.

At no time should CF be a replacement for getting professional help.

In situations like self injury, some people do not get the counseling they need because they don't want to share with others that they are cutting themself, or they don't want to have to share about the problems that are causing the pain the cutting is being done because of.

However, the only way to heal is to expose the injury to a doctor. The only way to learn to cope with the stresses and pains is to have someone show you how. It is absolutely necessary that you learn how to cope with the pain you are having in life without cutting yourself.

Our area of CF called "Self Injury" is ONLY about stopping cutting. It can't be about anything less than finding a way to stop.

I really believe you want to stop. I really do.

But you need to be talking to professionals when you feel like cutting and not to people over the internet that do not know you.

You can talk with us about other things like about how to cope with this or that situation and ask for amature advice and support.

The most important coping skill I hope you develop is the one where you start to talk to people in real life about this situation. When you feel like cutting, tell your Mom. Tell your counselor. Calling a hotline is the next most important thing.

I also really really hope that you pray about this. Spend time reading the bible, attend church and get to know the Pastor or Youth leader at your church.

Life has some very painful things in it. Sometimes I have really really felt hurt myself. I understand that pain very much. However, we can endure this pain and we can try to fix the problems in our life to try to reduce that pain.

You can recover from self injury habits. It is possible to stop cutting yourself. I believe this with all my heart.

Know that we care about you and pray for you!

 

[goldenviolet]

you are precious. give your feelings to Jesus in prayer. rest your weariness on peace and love.

 

[Bamboo_Chicken]

Hi Kathleen,
I have to say that I agree with everything Xenia Rose has said. We can be friends on here, but the only way to really get help is to do it in real life. The best way to do this is to first talk to your mom about it - I know how terrifying that can be in itself, but just tell her you want to talk and I'm sure she'll be just as grateful. I think she'll be more than happy for you to talk to a school counselor too .

We're praying for you Hun and I really do think you've got the courage to tell your mom what's going on. You can do it!

Shalom,
Steffi

 

[tapero]

I am thinking about you and praying for you. Trust Jesus with everything, He will take all your burdens. 's to you Kathleen.

 

[Akathist]

Please note CF rules:

3.4 No Threats of Self-Harm or Suicide

You will not make threats of this nature and such posts will be either edited or removed promptly by Staff. While Christian Forums staff and members can provide some support, they cannot offer professional counseling. If you are having thoughts or impulses of this nature, please contact your local mental health care provider or emergency services immediately.

We want to support people having thoughts of self harm but we need everyone to follow this rule.

Anyone with these thoughts need to be calling hotlines and not using CF in place of hotlines and professinal care.