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I see the sense in that argument, though. I think it would be rather difficult to not associate sexual activity with adulthood since adults normally have sex and all. lolDon't be one of those people.
I see the sense in that argument, though. I think it would be rather difficult to not associate sexual activity with adulthood since adults normally have sex and all. lol
And we see casual sex on the TV and in movies all the time by people who appear to be functioning adults, etc. But that's really propaganda. After all, we know that most adults don't have sex on the first date, but the media makes it look like the norm.I see the sense in that argument, though. I think it would be rather difficult to not associate sexual activity with adulthood since adults normally have sex and all. lol
Nevermind.And we see casual sex on the TV and in movies all the time by people who appear to be functioning adults, etc. But that's really propaganda. After all, we know that most adults don't have sex on the first [wash my mouth][wash my mouth][wash my mouth][wash my mouth][wash my mouth][wash my mouth][wash my mouth]' date, but the media makes it look like the norm.
In the meantime, we have so many guys with child support payments, so many gals having abortions, and so many single parents, and so many people spreading diseases. What is "adult" or "responsible" about any of that?
Just a random thought, but for a lot of people losing one's virginity is akin to officially stepping into adulthood. Retaining one's virgin status is like holding onto childhood.
That was a great post. Thanks for that.That is something you have to be at peace with in yourself. To some people, if you're not living independently by the age of 19, you're not an adult. If you don't have a job, you're not an adult. If you don't have a family of your own, you're not an adult. What makes you an adult in your own eyes can vary. I can see why you would feel this way because at least for me, I've never believed teenagers should be having sex. So to me, having sex (or not having sex) is an adult's decision. Having sex does not make teenagers or anyone else an adult though. To me, what makes someone an adult is having integrity, to follow what they feel is right in all situations. It is being responsible for one's actions. If you can do those things and not have sex, you are still an adult. Likewise, if you can do those things and have sex, you are still an adult. Again, your sexuality is your own. The labels you give to it and to yourself matter a whole lot more than any that can ever be given to you by someone else because this involves a very intimate part of you -- including your intrinsic beliefs and morals. To me, you are an adult because you think as an adult. In your posts, I can see that you think things through before making any hasty decision. That is something an adult does.
I'm 28 and I have to be honest, there are times when I'm embrassed to still be a virgin at this age. I know that according to the bible I'm doing what's right by waiting for marriage, but what if I never get married. The thought of dying a virgin bothers me!! Does anyone else feel this way?
I am not embarassed at all to be a virgin. BUT...a small part of me wonders if I am missing out on being young because everyone else my age is having sex. The rational side of me knows that way of thinking is wrong, and that it is better for me to wait. However, I can't shake that nagging fear of reaching 40 and being completely alone not having had any experience of any sort. Sometimes I think it is easier for those who become christians later on in life because at least they had a little bit of a wild side beforehand and could experiment without worrying about the consequences. Throughout most of my life, I have been the sensible one, but sometimes I want to do something crazy or let loose because I feel a little repressed. Argh...I know that is stupid thinking and I don't want to think that. I actually have two sides to me: I know that if I was to really conform to the world's standards that I would regret it and feel dirty and used.
Ever since uni has started, I felt the pressure more than ever. Two guys from my course tried to push me into things, and this guy at the ball wanted me to go off with him - I was drunkon all occasions but I still said no. All the guys made me feel like a freak for saying no.
Unfortunately, the people who know that I am a virgin, tend to see me as being righteous and judgemental and so I don't fit quite in because of that. Even being a christian seems to be taboo in this country.
I heard of a 90+ year old woman who was still a virgin.I know a woman who wasn't giving up even at 74. ><;
I wouldn't say embarrassed but I won't imply that I am around other people. There is no reason for them to know about it, but they can probably tell since I never contribute to conversations where all the guys talk about sex. I'm sure they can tell. I've heard "Man you need to get laid" a few times. I just say I work to hard and to much to have the chance. I know you're thinking you need to say I'm in the wrong crowd. It was work related and I had no choice at the time but to be around non-christians.
I am however, tired of being a virgin though. I'm nearly 27, and its not easy turning easy chances down when they present themselves. I don't like knowing I'm missing out on something millions of people all around the world are enjoying every second. But I'm putting all my chips in with waiting for someone else that is also waiting, and that waiting for marriage will help to make things between whoever I would be with and myself much deeper and closer and surely pleasing to God too.
For years God wasn't even the reason why I didn't lose it early in life but He preserved me at times when I would have if I could have when I was a lot younger. Before knowing Him I had wanted to have my first time with someone I loved and it turned out that I never fell in love. I'm more afraid of being called and never having known what really falling in love and getting married is like. From what I've read and observed I don't think there is anything that can top that aside from probably having kids. Dying a virgin would suck a lot multiplied by a bunch but compared to dying and never knowing true love with another, its a small fry. And at the same time its sad to see its something that is taken for granted.
It was extra difficult to wait when I was living in Los Angeles. I don't know if any other people here live there or have lived there but it is a demon infested abomination I tell you, especially North Hollywood. Sex is everywhere now. If it wasn't for God I would've been done for years ago. There were a few times where I would have given up all hope in finding anyone but He didn't let me and that was before I knew Him. And I'm grateful. But since coming to Him in October its gotten easier. Aside from reading the bible I find christian music helps a lot in keeping focused on him. Along with talking to Him as much as possible.
Casting Crowns has a lot of good songs, praise you in this storm, who am I , east from the west.
I love the idea of waiting for marriage with a girl I love but I know that will be even more difficult than being a single virgin. I wouldn't want to be with someone else that wasn't. I've gone through my own living hell being aware of and avoiding situations where there is a high sex risk. Going through loneliness and at times intense sexual frustration. I don't think its wrong to want someone else who also went out of their way to not cheat on their future spouse too. It'll be a miracle if it were to actually happen in the plainly obvious last days that we're in now. But a man needs hope.
If he blessed me to meet a nice christian girl that was also close to Him, who also willingly put herself through the same internal hell for the same reasons, all good perfect things that happen come from God himself. And to give in before marriage in that situation I feel would be no different than smacking Him in the face. That's how I see it anyway. "The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak". Its not an excuse, its a warning.
Stay strong and close with God/Jesus fellow virgins. He's the answer to everything.
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